Chilli’s Blog: No Sex On The First Date

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By: Vibe / April 22, 2010

You can have chemistry. You can have a connection. But it doesn’t mean you’re supposed to have sex. People get it all mixed up. You can look at an ocean and it’s the clearest water in the world, or it looks like it’s shallow, but if you can’t swim, don’t jump in it!

A lot of times, people can look at women and say she’s a ho, but to me I’m like, well the guy slept with her too. What does that make him? I look at a guy who would sleep with a chick on the first date the same way I would look at the woman. I’ve never had sex on the first date. I’m not into labeling people, but I definitely think those are issues that a person has. I don’t know if it’s the need to feel like somebody’s loving you… Whatever it is, it’s an issue.

I don’t think you should give away your goods and when I say goods, just you as a person to someone that you don’t know. Test the waters, be careful, take your time with things, ease into it and then see. Nine times out of 10, if you spend enough time with somebody and if you hold that part back, you probably will find something that you don’t want to deal with about them and you’re like, “You know what, I’m good.”

But when you have sex too soon, it brings on this connection that makes you feel like you have to deal with that person and you stick it out for some reason because of those feelings. It brings on premature feelings that aren’t even real. You become attached, especially women.

It won’t kill you to wait. I’m definitely not promoting fornication. It would be great if everybody could wait until they got married. The world would be a better place.

 

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