The Claim Game: A Man Won’t Claim A Woman He Doesn’t Want


VIBE | October 12, 2010 - 8:35 pm

Are you getting claimed or just getting clowned?

There’s a big difference between actually being in a relationship and just thinking you’re in one. If there’s any confusion as to which one you’re in, chances are you’re not. But the real way to tell is if the other person is willing to claim you or not.

Look at how Nelly denied ever dating singer Ashanti during a recent radio interview. Despite photos of them cuddled up on the beach and walking hand-in-hand at T.I. and Tiny’s wedding this past August, it was clear that they were just “friends.” And if there were any other doubts, Ashanti told last week, “I never said I was his girl, I never quote, unquote, ‘claimed him,’ I never said we were an item and neither has he, so there you have it.”

I’ve always had a thing for Ashanti and now even more so. The average woman in her situation would have probably gone off the handle and called dude out his name, but here’s an example of a real down ass chick. Clearly, Nelly and Ashanti had a conversation about the extent of their dealings with each other and are on the exact same page about everything, which is rare when it comes to relationships-platonic or romantic-between men and women.

Read the rest of the story over at The BVX!