Like Father, Like Boyfriend?
Jay-Z recently summed it up well with his new song “Glory,” when he said “Got-damn I can’t deliver failure…the most beautifulest thing in the world is daddy’s little girl.” We don’t all get to experience that father-daughter relationship, but we all need it.
Let’s say you live alone and someone breaks into your house but doesn’t steal anything. Weird, right? Creepy, even. This news comes after receive a letter from your landlord to be careful because break-ins and car thefts are reoccurring in the neighborhood. They try to reassure you and say that police are investigating the crime, so what do you do now? Do you look to a friend, your man, a sibling or your dad to calm your late night jitters?
I was in this situation recently, and I called my boo first. I was two and a half hours away from my immediate family, and he was the only person I trusted in the area. I hoped that would he would just be there for me, but he wasn’t. He blamed it on having work the next day, but I wasn’t asking him to stay awake all night and guard the door, just to be there with me. He low-key brushed it off and told me I could handle the situation myself because of where I was from.
Now, I appreciate the confidence he had in me, but I still felt like something was missing. Despite how well I may carry myself and despite how strong I may be or where I’m from, I wasn’t feeling it that day. So, I told him how I felt the following morning, and he said I was being selfish. Um, maybe?
But my dad dropped everything. He probably should’ve been the first person I called. Protective? That, he is. He ended up staying with me for the entire weekend. His quick response was pretty awesome, and it always has been, so why would I expect anything less from any other man? Especially, one I’m giving all my attention to. I guess I expected my boo to react in the same way.
I started thinking, I’d be S-O-L without my dad. What do women without dads do? Who are their examples, who do they have to compare their men to?
Looking back at history’s norms where men were providers and protecters, and women were nurturing and loyal, it seems as if traditional roles and chivalry are fading today. As baby-daddy/baby-mama drama and single-parenthood continues to heighten, Hov’s “Glory” exemplifies that unconditional love women–and men–need in their lives. He calls baby Blue his greatest creation and, basically, says failure is not an option. Just think about it: Is there really any other man in our lives who could promise all this?
Vixens, in 2012, should we still depend on a man aside from our fathers and brothers to protect us 100 percent?