Not Your Mother’s Blog: Hold On or Put Out?

Vixen

VIXEN / April 30, 2013

I haven’t had sex in so long that if the wind blew hard enough in the right direction I just might get overly excited. I mean, sometimes I’m hornier than a teenage boy in a brothel. You might be asking, “Lesh, why won’t you just do something about it?” Well, at this point I might as well wait until it means something, right?

I don’t even know how I got here sometimes. For the first year and a half I was actively looking for a relationship, but I couldn’t find a guy that would act right long enough to where I wouldn’t feel guilty about having sex with him. Sometime after that, I went though challenging times career-wise and financially. My mentality is kind of like a man’s so when I was stressed, finding a partner becomes the furthest thing from my mind. But now that everything is good in my life–rainbows, ponies and all–I realize it’s now been over three years that I haven’t, at minimum, nestled my face in a man’s neck. At this point, I feel this obligation to wait for something meaningful. Meanwhile, I’m feeling like a prisoner to my own moral code and forced to “take the edge off” with erotic dreams and the latest model of the Rabbit.

So I have to ask you guys: In this day and age, where what’s accepted sexually for woman has changed, once you’ve crossed that threshold of holding out, are you down for a quickie just to take the edge off, or do men still value and appreciate a women who’s taken on celibacy for Mr. Right to come along? Do people still value such discipline, or is it a waste of time? Should today’s woman say “I have an itch, and it’s time to scratch it” regardless of cobweb-collecting time, or is there still value in placing value on your little queen? Thoughts? — Alesha Reneé (@AleshaRenee)

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