Q&A: Erica Mena Dismisses Rumors That She’s Bisexual For Male Attention, Talks Coming Out To Her Family

Movies & TV

/ October 30, 2013

Erica Mena is a fiery Latina model who got her big break at the age of 14 through winning a Jennifer Lopez look-alike competition. The bodacious brunette has worked as a video vixen for the likes of Chris Brown, Akon, Fabolous and Fat Joe, to name a few, and featured in print campaigns for big chains like Rocawear, Tommy Hillfiger and L’Oréal.

The last season of Love and Hip Hop saw Miss Mena attempt to launch her music career with on-and-off love interest Rich Dollaz, who acted as her manager before rumored fiancee. This go-round shows Erica explore her bisexuality with new girlfriend Cyn Santana and writing a sex book named Chronicles of a Confirmed Bachelorette: The Girl Factor, where she talks about her experiences with men and women. Here, she talks entertaining both parties and breaking the news to her family.—Megan Saad

VIBE: How would you react to people saying that you are only dating girls for male attention?
Erica Mena: I think it’s funny because that’s the moment you take the time to put into perspective how crucial, incredible and foolish society is. I don’t think it’s accepted naturally to be bisexual, especially as a woman. So I expect that, but I also have the time to laugh at it because it is what it is. It makes me laugh because whether they believe it or not this is what you have to accept, this is what is going to be on your TV every Monday night. I think what people have to just naturally give me the respect for is the fact that me being a woman and no matter what I’ve done, fault to mistakes or right to wrong, that I’m able to step out and be like, ‘This is who I am and this is who I love to be with. This is what it is, this is my life. I’m on a reality show so you get what you get.’

How do your parents feel about you dating girls?
[Cyn and I] actually recently made our mothers meet and it was a liberating moment because I really don’t care what the world thinks. I hope people don’t take that the wrong way but I don’t care what the world thinks, but my family… They’re just like if this is what you makes you happy, this is what you need, this is what you want, this is what keeps you content, if this is what has you finally at peace, they’re all for it.

You have a six-year-old son King. How are you going to explain your sexuality to him?
Cyn’s actually met my son and I’m the youngest of eight girls, so naturally he has to deal with a lot of women in his life. I haven’t really sat down with him to kind of say this is mommy’s girlfriend because we haven’t taken that step on full on commitment. But when it comes time to, I think King will understand, especially because of how hard I really do go for him. I give him the world and I shelter him so much that there is going to be a time where I’ll have to sit down with him and relate it to him. At the end of the day, life and the way things are nowadays, you have to mentally prepare your kids. Whether I’m with a woman or not, walking down the street with my son, he’s going to see a man and a man holding hands, so eventually I have to give him that conversation. It’s kind of like the birds and the bees, it’s part of life. It’s just a time and a place and until I’m certain that me and her are taking the next step, I will have that conversation. But until then, I think he knows that there’s definitely love and mommy’s changed. So I think he feels that I don’t have to front no more.

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