Khia's Sex Column: Handling A One-Minute Man

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Fifty percent [of a relationship] is love and the other 50% is sex, so if he’s only lasting sixty seconds, it’s not gonna work.

A man should always have enough discipline to control his orgasm. There’s no way you can please her if as soon as you get in, you’re cumming all over the place. [That means] you don’t have enough respect or love for her to wait. He needs to jack off and get that first one out the way so we can have fun the second round.

Usually what starts the blast [is that the man] gives good head and by the time he puts it in, he's so ready to blast off and it takes away from the sex. So even if he goes down on you really, really good, maybe he needs to blast off while he’s giving the head, let it get hard again and work it out.

I can feel when a man is about to cum— if he starts tightening up or acting like he’s about to have an exorcism… back up and slow it down. If your guy's not a stranger, you should know when he’s about to blast off. Tell him to talk to you so you [can say] ‘Okay go ahead’ or ‘Hold on wait for me.’

But for a one-minute man, once they get behind [you] it’s a wrap. If you’ve already got yours then let him go to the back and be like ‘Okay baby, just have fun.’ You can be roughed up, swinging from the chandelier, whatever, but once he gets to the back… it’s over. So women, get on top, play with yourself, bust when you want to bust, then let him get to the back. But if for some stupid reason you really don’t care, let him lay there and cum all over himself. Enjoy. —As told to Tracy Garraud

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