Terry McMillan's Gay Ex: Banned in Oakland

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November 1, 2007 at 11:26 pm

OMG please tell me that the REAL terry mcmillian is not wasting her time responding to this garbage the boy was, is and will always be a fag hag let it go don't waste your time the batty bwoy know him would have got mash up in jamaica wit dat foolishness whoo women check your man dyck is a powerful thing

October 15, 2007 at 8:51 am

I think that it's sad that we live in a world where people can't wait to kick you when you're down!! Isn't it bad enough she had a lyin' cheatin man in her bed all that time and to top it all off he's gay!! It's hard enough dealing with a mates infedelity, but for him to also be homosexual, and have the nerve to publish her pain and / or humiliation in a book? I enjoy Terry's books, and look forward to future writtings from her. My prayers are with you Terry!! Your real fans and the people who are closest to you are the only opinions that count.

October 14, 2007 at 9:50 pm

Blanche is one of Terry's best friends. Not a big surpise.

October 11, 2007 at 2:58 pm

Terry,

I wish you all the best in the future. God will heal.

Take care and God bless.

October 11, 2007 at 6:20 am

You must be kidding me. That old woman went looking for trouble when she went to Jamaica that year. To me she looks like a man, so when she found a man, she found one who was attracted to me.

I think it was also because she is really a man trapped in a woman's body. How could she not tell that he was gay. Come on lady, are you for real. Her masculine side connected with his feminine side, and at the end of the day, she was man enough for him and he wasn't woman enough for her.

October 9, 2007 at 5:32 pm

Johnathan Plummer is an A-hole for everything he's done, see its brothers like him who are tarnishing the good women all around the world holding back that he was gay and getting contaminated by having reckless sex with other Men and passing it on to a very clean and caring woman like Terry McMillan. He aint nothing to read about later for this CHUMP!!!

October 9, 2007 at 3:59 pm

Ms. Mcmillan seems to be clueless about so many things these days. For one thing, she keeps talking about how Jonathan's book isn't selling very well. Does she ever stop and think that the reason it might not be a bestseller is because her own star has faded out completely. It is precisely because a portion of the commercial success of this book is predicated upon her celebrity status, that the book is not being grabbed off the shelves of bookstores.

Ms. Mcmillan is a writer of potboilers. None of her books ever rose to the level of "literature". They were guilty pleasures, sort of like the intellectual equivalent of potato chips. They may provide a little something to chew on, but there is nothing substantial and nothing that can not be easily replicated.

Ms. Mcmillan seems to be working for her opposition, because her constant tantrums actually bring attention to the book written by her ex. I guess during the years of his marriage, he probably thought that if a person of Ms. Mcmillan's limited intellectual capacity and writing talent can sell books, why can't he???

Now if only he had married a real star, then perhaps more people would take interest in his book.

October 9, 2007 at 3:33 pm

Well, Balancing Act isn't really on point with the lives of Jonathan and Terry if you ask me.

In the book, Tasha is beautiful (Terry is not even cute) and "established" but not older than God, as Terry was when she went trolling for youths in Jamaica.

To be fair, Jonathan is not a super model either, but he is a hell of a lot better looking than Terry. Just like when Anna Nicole Smith married that old coot, she deserved every dime for having to service such an ugly creation. Jonathon should get a dollar for every time he gave it to Terry "real good" and "satisfied" her hunger for men her son's age.

Terry is a has been who never was. Back in the day she was a somebody, but now nobody knows or cares about her. Her career has taken a plunge in pure "Whitney-esque" proportions.

I also am concerned for her mental state. Reading her manic rants, I cannot help but think that she may one day be staring at padded wallpaper.

Instead of trying to write a real piece of literature instead of the **** she normally writes, she is "blogging" of all things.

Girl, what have you been reduced to.

October 9, 2007 at 11:37 am

Just as “Stella” was loosely based on McMillan’s courtship with Plummer, many parts of “Balancing Act” harmonize with Plummer’s real life.

The story centers around Justin Blakeman, a young Jamaican with “hazel-green eyes offset by dark chocolate skin” who catches the attention of Tasha Reynolds, a vacationing powerhouse modeling agent.

Tasha brings her Jamaican boy toy to America where the two of them engage in a “complex game of sexual desire and control” that is complicated further “when Justin discovers a hidden hunger for a male model,” according to the promotional material put out by the book’s publisher, Simon & Schuster.

The book is “fiction with a purpose, and it’s a funny and sexy story,” the author says of “Balancing Act,” which he co-wrote with Karen Hunter. “It mirrors my life and it mirrors my coming out process, but the main character Justin Blakeman is a hero, and I don’t really consider myself a hero.”

Lingering Shadows

The main character’s acceptance of his sexual orientation is more immediate and honest than Plummer’s real-life experience, which is why the author considers his protagonist a hero. Having transitioned from an icon of love to the epitome of deception, Plummer wants readers to know that while he’s no angel, he’s not the backstabbing, villainous liar McMillan has made him out to be.

“It really caught me off guard the way she responded and how bitter she is,” Plummer says. “I came out, I wasn’t found out, and I want people to know that. She’s been telling a lot of people she caught me, but that’s definitely not true — I decided to be truthful to her.”

It took Plummer about two years to complete “Balancing Act.” He crafted it as a piece of fiction rather than an autobiography with hopes of appealing to more readers — and because he isn’t prepared to tell his life story, he says.

“I think I’m just a little bit too young for that yet,” he says. “I’ve still got a lot to learn and a lot ahead of me.”

Plummer yearns for the day when he escapes McMillan’s shadow, something he is a long way from accomplishing.

McMillan also remains a kink in Plummer’s love life.

“I’m dating, but it’s rough,” Plummer says. “People, their impression is like, ‘Oh, you’re Terry McMillan’s ex-husband,’ and there’s a lot of baggage that comes with that. It’s kind of hard because people don’t really see me for who I really am; all they see is Terry.

“I’m a good, loving person, I think, and so hopefully people are ready to see me for who I am,” he adds.

Plummer, who says his first sexual experience with a man was three years ago, is quickly settling into his identity as a gay man.

“It was a little scary at first, but the more [other gay men] started embracing me, then I felt comfortable,” he says. “Coming out means honoring who you are on the inside, and I’m still coming out. I’m a work in progress.”

Queen Cancels

Plummer is among a large roster of celebrities attending Black Gay Pride,

October 9, 2007 at 2:20 am

Jonathan & Mark (a/k/a Cece: see blackvoices] and now "Nancy" and "Mildred Hortense Plummer") are cracking me up. My office gets google alerts for these things, and these 2 are hilarious, as anyone should be able to tell by the manner in which they personally attack me. Pathetic. But the truth hurts more than lies.

As an FYI Jonathan does not have an aunt named MIldred Hortense Plummer and he knows it, and his sister confirmed it. If she did exist, I doubt that she would be reading Vibe and making references to intervention.

This is the last reaction to all of his "acts" but I would like to suggest that your readers visit the blog about Mark "Hilton" Plummer and his cousin on + The 7 Magazine.com so that you can see what members of his own community have finally figured out about him and his cousin. It's about time. He's getting far too much attention for someone who has done so much harm to so many. And he is enjoying all of the negative attention because he could care less. He and his cousin are enjoying clicking those keys and seeing his picture and their names in "print". Pathetic excuses for human beings, and I cannot believe that I was really married to this human stain.
Terry McMillan

Maybe if that modeling and acting career takes off he can pay me back the quarter of a million he stole from me and then the $500,000 he owes me. I cannot begin to put a price on the lies he's told about me. The public would not want to see or hear that 7 1/2 hour DVD of his legal deposition where his lies are embarrassing. All I've done is respond to his attacks during his little book tour so that he can know what it feels like since he and his trailer-trash attorney did everything they possibly could to sabotage mine. Except they lied and I'm telling the truth. But this is it.

October 8, 2007 at 10:51 pm

Terry just need to get over the fact that things didn't work out between her and her GAY husband.I'm sure she new he was gay from the "get go" she was just in denial get over your self and stop being a hateful b**ch!

October 8, 2007 at 8:42 pm

Poor Terry, sad Terry, pathetic Terry, old, battered, bewildered, homophobic, Terry. A woman white America never, ever, heard of.

Terry, a woman who has to leave to country to find a man. Terry, a woman now so totally ugly that no third world youth would ever consider leaving a filthy island for her.

Terry, your books are stagnant. What have you written lately.

Terry, you clearly aren't writing best selling novels, as you are spending time blogging of all things.

Terry, you ugly girl. U G L Y you ain't got no alibi, you ugly.

You are no Alice Walker.

You are no Maya Angelou.

Hell, you ain't even Judith Krantz.

You are just some tired, used up, nappy-headed East Bay Ho' who no one with any "edjumacation" reads.

Okaaaaaay!!!!!!!!!

October 8, 2007 at 6:37 pm

Nobody cares what batty bwoy has to say.

October 7, 2007 at 8:21 pm

Terry does not sound well. I wish her family would stage an intervention on her behalf, but they are afraid of her.
Jonnie has been out of her life for 2 years and she speaks about him as though they just got out of bed.

While you have a shred of dignity left, Miss Terry, move on. Jonnnie entered this country and his marriage in good faith, and you know that.

You framed him beautifully when it suited your purposes, and now you are framing him again, now that you have no use for him.

Sociopath is the last word you should use. You don't see him going around revealing that you are a classic borderline, but he does not have to....it's obvious!

Peace,

Miss Millie Hortense Plummer
Kingston, Jamaica

October 7, 2007 at 4:22 pm

Chapter One: Don’t Pity the Fool
I have only bothered to respond to these sleazy, slick and underhanded tactics and accusations that Jonathan and his cousin Mark Plummer are now resorting to because now they are trying to do to Marcus Books what he and his attorney did to me, and that is wrongly accuse others of something so that he continues to look like the victim and the person or other party that he blames is always the villain. He is accomplishing his goal which is to get his big ugly picture in print somewhere and to draw attention to his book since no one is buying it and his publisher refused to spend any money to promote it. I don’t know why the public and the media is so naïve to fall for what is text-book narcissistic, sociopathic/psychopathic behavior. He is clearly manipulative and were he to care about anyone other than himself, he wouldn’t have done half the things he’s managed to do, and with the utmost sincerity that he meant no harm and that he’s just a young man who discovered by accident that he’s gay and jeepers Terry’s just not a good sport, but if the public rewinds the video and court document tapes and those television appearances, you will see his real skills at work, how smooth he is, his glibness, his ease in stating untruths with the utmost sincerity and without breaking a sweat. He has not been embarrassed by his egomaniacal behavior because everything, and I mean everything he and his cousin Mark Plummer have been doing to cause me and now Marcus Books even more humiliation, is for the one and only Jonathan Plummer. He seems to forget that he’s an admitted thief, that he is a pathological liar and that he’s the one who cheated on me during our marriage, lied about me in court documents and yet he truly believed that the public would go for this “I was just a kid, I was only 20 when I met Terry . . .” and I learned that long before he as was 20 he was lying and having sex with men and now, at almost 33, he’s still lying his ass off about everything. Funny, how at 24, when we married, he was naïve, but he knew the value of everything in my home enough to include it in court documents, he knew what I spent on things in my home that I didn’t even know I’d spent, but he was naïve. His and his attorneys goal, like now, was to divert attention away from his wrongdoings and focus it on me so that the world would think I was selfish, evil, a control-freak and he was my boy toy sex slave who controlled him with money. Please. Many fell for it and this is how I became homophobic overnight because all everyone seems to keep focusing on is his homosexuality – mission accomplished – and poor Johnnie, now even bookstores are turning away from this would-be James Baldwin, ya think? He is angry because he is being rejected by the public and narcissists feel like they deserve whatever they want and they can’t handle rejection nor can they stand It when you figure out their MO. I have, and as should be obvious, people like him just keep coming up with new ways to get what they want and they don’t care if they have to lie to get it or discredit someone – and in this case – one of the oldest Black bookstores in this country – to get it. For someone with minimum intelligence, he is doing a damn good job of conning a lot of folks. He and his “publicist/manager” (what does he do that he needs one for?) are desparate so they are pulling out all stops to try to get people to run out and buy this book. I hope people don’t fall for this exploitative and racist and heterophobic tactic. Just because he’s gay doesn’t make him a saint. And that’s what he keeps banking on as his get-out-of-jail free card. Marcus Books is the new culprit and poor Johnnie and his Posse are relying on their little press release to pump up the volume since cutting hair obviously isn’t “cutting it” or maybe because he had his eye on buying a home that I was supposed to buy him and he’s pissed, so being what he is, he is always thinking about what he can do next to top whatever he’s already done that hasn’t worked or, if since his ex-wife has done things totally out of character and started writing these long-ass comments to discredit him which is the same reason she is suing his lying thieving ungrateful immigrant- ass. He tried to destroy my life so that he could get my money and I said no no no. Now he’s trying to point a finger at Marcus Books for the same reason. Nobody cares about him or his book. He is right up there with O.J. Simpson, notice how muchy HE smiles even being carted off to jail? Jonathan’s book should’ve been called HOW I DID IT, because that’s pretty much what he’s proud of, how he pulled off a major con with an educated, successful, and famous Black American woman old enough to be his mother. He is proud of this, and it is precisely the reason why I am taking the time to say what I have to say about his behavior. He is a disease and he needs to chill. But he can’t, and I doubt if he’s finished. He is digging himself a very deep legal hole and one that the Department of Immigration is watching him dig. He could care less about the laws of this country or it’s inhabitants. This s.o.b. has only been been a citizen of this country for 2 years and look how much damage he has done and is still trying to do? Marcus Books has the right not to sell or sell to anyone they chose, and they chose not to sell his trashy book and it is their right. The fact that he has the audacity to send out these press releases as if he’s Barak Obama or the young brothers in Louisiana should give the public a clue just how important he really thinks he is. Marcus not selling his book isn’t going to break his book sales because his book isn’t selling!!!!! Anywhere!!!
Anyway, based on everything he has managed to pull off with so much ease, he has not once admitted or displayed an ounce of remorse or shame for the harm his actions have caused, but instead, he still tries to play the victim. He never talks about being a thief in his book, does he? Or how about in his press release? Has he said anything about gratitude? About betraying me for years and enjoying it because he got away with it? Nope. Doesn’t spend much time talking about what a horrible human being he is, it’s always everybody else. And now his bullshit press release generated by a gay friend who also resorted to selling the book on the same press release, has been created to generate attention for him and his book because no one is buying it and he is being seen for what and who he really is. An sleazy opportunist who has tried to get the public to think that I hate him because he’s gay. I don’t hate him. Yes I do. If he weren’t evil and was able to be rehabilitated or something, I would, but he does not care about anybody except Jonathan Plummer and he does not care who he hurts as long as he benefits from whatever he does and he can justify everything he does, just so that someone else is always the culprit and he is the victim. Someone is always doing something to Poor Johnnie. He is as full of shit as a Christmas Turkey as my mother would say but his jig is almost up, which is precisely why he and his cousin and Joe Hawkins are scrambling to find allies to help them in their quest to get Johnnie’s book some attention because he’s got bills to pay and apparently doing hair isn’t cutting it. He wants to be a millionaire and he could care less who he has to hurt to get what he wants. That should be obvious. Why did he rush to have someone else help him write a tell-all when h is the one who lied his way through our marriage, not me, and yet he even lies in the book I hear trying to pretend that he was struck by gay lightening or something and when you get the call you must go! Please. Sociopaths don’t stop until they get what they wantwhich is why he has tactics. But it took me 6 years to figure out how good he is at deception and being able to use what I learned were/are He has gotten so much bad press because the public knows he is an opportunist trying to cash in on his relationship to me since he failed to get my money or property during our divorce. The fact that he even felt entitled to what I had worked for should have been more telling about what kind of person he was, he who brought nothing into a marriage and yet he felt entitled to what he thought he could get out of it. As if. But instead, he used what is called a covert-aggressive tactic of distraction which was to divert the attention away from his lies by painting me as a homophobe for being a tad upset when I learned he’d been having sex with men during our entire marriage. His homosexuality had nothing to do with our prenuptial agreement which he did not sign under duress nor did it have anything to do with his and his attorney’s so-called claims being made against me. He manipulated me and my family and friends just like he thought he was getting away with manipulating the public. Simon & Schuster realized early on that their efforts to cash in on my fame were not panning out by the lack of early sales for this book and Jonathan and his so-called manager and publicist, who is really his cousin, Mark Plummer, have decided to find a new target to blame for their woes, hence Marcus Books and their very own personal press releases sent out, NOT coming from the publisher, but their own computer. This is manipulation at its finest because it is all done in an effort to stir up controversy and attract attention to a book that hasn’t been getting any. Do they care about the impact that their negative comments about one of the oldest and most reputable bookstores in this country and the Bay Area may have? No they don’t. In fact, they’re banking on them speaking out so that it might get them media attention they are starving for. VIBE fell for it. The truth is that Marcus refused to sell the book for the same reasons people aren’t buying it. Because they know he is dishonest, he is a thief, he is a con-artist and he is disingenuous, not to mention and opportunist. Funny he is the ONLY author to ever accuse them of homophobia when they sell books by all GLBT authors, and their decision not to sell his book has nothing to do with his sexuality. That’s what he wants the public to think. This is how I got punk’s for almost nine long years but his skill is hiding his true intentions by choosing what he wants you to focus on. He is always the victim and someone else is always at fault. Just like I was for calling him that “F” word. He is cunning, and glib and will stop at nothing to do anything that will put him on top, because he goal is to win, at all costs, which should be obvious. He and his attorney spent nine months lying about me to the public, and I don’t lie. I do not have a reputation for being vindictive, but I am so tired of how long his reign of terror has lasted, that I have decided to subject myself to even more public scrutiny by sharing just ONE illegal thing he has managed to do to me after our divorce on October 4, 2005, which is why I have a three-year domestic restraining order against him through September 2009. He and his attorney were quick to fill their court documents with over 200 lies about me which they knew would find their way into the public (mission accomplished) and then went on television (thanks to pimping my reputation to do it, like this magazine, as well) to quote from their own lies as if they were facts, so here is a message that Mr. Plummer was thoughtful enough to leave me last year (and even violated the restraining order by text-messaging my son pretending to wish him happy holidays when in fact he did this to incite and anger us both but when we took him to court for violating the restraining order, what happened? The judge said he was only wishing the boy happy holidays, what harm is there in that? THIS is called manipulation and covert-aggression but he is evil and hides behind a very slick way of appearing civil and non-aggressive but this too is a ploy manipulators employ to pull the wool over others eyes.) If he isn’t exposed for at least some of what he has done, he is going to have a long list of gay casualties and no one should fall prey to his charming and seductive manner, especially since he hasn’t done such a bad job of fooling quite a few folks, so here goes, and I know I’m going to get bad-mouthed, probably by Jonathan or Mark using yet another of their bogus on-screen names to criticize me, but at least it’s the truth because what you read below is on file with the police department and the court in the area where I live, and it tells you who he really is:

Exact transcript of Voice Mail Message Jonathan Plummer left Terry McMillan -- on Friday, March 24, 2006 at 7:48 p.m.:

“Hey Terry this is Jonathan. I got your message in regards to you going the whole legal route but the reason I’m doing this is because I have nothing to lose at this point, and you know if you want to you know, make an offer of something you know all this can stop and you can go back to your regular life and all that kind of stuff just because your reputation now is kind of tarnished based on all this. . .and if anything happens to me you know all those tapes that you left me, all those messages that you left me in the past you know the public will hear it and there are people that are dying to hear the messages and it will definitely put you back on the homophobic …. Um, you know stereotype again … you know and I heard about your little Click article… it’s fine, I guess it’s something I have to deal with and I guess I can find other ways to try to clean it up again some more you know … all this can go away you know if you just you know make an offer because I just thought I was treated bad . . . poorly I guess with the settlement offer and all that kind of stuff so I just thought you know it’s just something for me to see if I can get back on my feet again because you know I’m struggling, as always, but you know hopefully you’ll think about it and think about your reputation and all that good stuff and you know just make an offer because I know you’re making a lot of money right now so I mean something .. if you lose a couple of dollars here and there it’s no big deal because I know you’ll get it back because eventually so that’s all I’m saying you know and I’m trying to see if I can do other things with my life you know and all that good stuff and the you know the media just loves to hear more dirt so let me know what you think about that and you can leave me a message and then we can talk and then we can go from there, all right? Hope you’re doing good. I hope you’re family’s doing good and I hope your new boyfriend is doing good -- if he exists … and so anyway, that’s basically it. Talk to you later.” [Notice the tone. Doesn’t it sound like he’s inviting me to dinner instead of blackmailing or trying to extort me? The ending is touching, isn’t it?]

This is just one reason why Marcus Books isn’t selling his trashy book that he didn’t even write. It may also have something to do with the owner is the person Jonathan ran to and cried on her shoulders after I busted him for embezzling what would amount to the first $62,000 from my checking account. Because of his tearful act of remorse, the owner called to beg me to forgive him. I did. And now look at how much love he has for her and her store. He think he is entitled to the world, but he has not given anyone anything of value. He is also showing what a fine American he makes because he has broken more laws, including federal ones, than most of my family members who are behind bars, which is exactly where Jonathan should be. God don’t like ugly and this is what he is finally beginning to feel, the weight of some of his wrongdoing, and they are too numerous to count. I have never met anyone like him in my life. And I pray never to again. I wouldn’t want to be him for a trillion dollars.

You might also have done well to survey other Black bookstores in the country to see how many of them aren’t selling it either. Go on black voices, among others, and read what they have to say about this author who cannot write. I can’t wait to read his next novel, although I would probably choke to death if I was forced to read this one.

Best wishes

Terry McMillan

p.s. this comment is long because I have been so misquoted and criticized, that this is the only way to make my concerns clear, for those who care, and even if it’s simply those on your staff, so be it, This piece you put in your magazine is exactly what he and his cousin were banking on. Let’s see how it helps sales. You can fool some of the people some of the time, but everybody is not a fool. I was. But I do live by a code of ethics and a moral compass. I am in the process of deleting him from my hard drive and my memory data bank because he has taken up too many GB.
If you think I’m just sounding off, if anyone has EVER been victimized by this kind of con-artist you have no idea how draining it is and how much pleasure they get out of the harm they cause but how well they conceal it. If you know of or love someone who has an excuse for everything and is always the victim even though they may be hurting you or someone you know, if they’re evasive and lie all the time and promise to stop or improve their behavior but they don’t, but if they sometimes give you whatever it is they know you want or need, just enough to give you a glee of hope, then you need to learn how to deal with these people because chances are you are drained and depressed and hurting and you are wasting your energy trying to figure out how to fix what’s wrong, but it doesn’t work because you are dealing with someone who pretends to care but does not have the capacity. What these kind of people enjoy more than anything is their ability TO deceive without detection and suspicion. This is where they get their power, but they will do their damndest to convince you of their sincerity and their love, until they get bored and want to go on to their next victim. And if you’ve got any money, chances are most of it’s gone, too and chance are you can’t figure out how it happened. Join the club.
THE SOCIOPATH NEXT DOOR by Martha Stout, Ph.D. (specializes and teaches at Harvard)
IN SHEEP’S CLOTHING (Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People) George K. Simon, Jr. Ph.D.
EMOTIONAL VAMPIRES (Dealing with People Who Drain You Dry) Albert J. Bernstein, Ph. D
These books could save your life. Or at least help you on your road back to happiness. I’m almost there.

October 6, 2007 at 7:06 pm

He/she just wants attention since no gives a dam about him being gay or not,so he/she decides the best way to do that is tell us something we already know. DUHHH!

October 6, 2007 at 3:39 pm