If he wanted to be with you and not her, it would be that, but it ain’t baby.
Dear Pretty Ricky,
I currently confused at the time. This boy that I'm cool with is playing mind games with me. One minute he says he wants me to be his girlfriend, and then the NEXT minute he says he wants us to just be friends. I haven't given him the goodies yet, which is a plus. . . I think. By the way, he kissed me two separate times out of nowhere. What EXACTLY should I do about this?
Anonymous
Number one is cut the kissing short! You ever heard of cold sores/ heroes! You don't want to be kissing no dude unless you know fa’ show that he's your man and then you still need to be careful. On the other tip, one thing that God gave us is natural instinct, so if you feel like he's playing games; he probably is! If you’re a steady ready then you know I'm quick to say let him go! Make him chase you and then remember when he had you chasing him before you make any decisions!
Dear Pretty Ricky,
First off I want to say I love you Spectac! I am a 20-year-old female from a small ass city called Fort Wayne. There's nothing here but death, drama, and more drama. If you ain't doing anything with your life, most likely you're in drama or better yet some stuff that can get you killed. But anyways, I lost my virginity at 16. I wish I could rewind my life, but since then I've been in and out of relationships. Things just can’t seem to go right. My longest relationship was with my first "grown man" boyfriend, and that was two and a half years.
After that I found out this girl had just had a baby by him, which means he was dealing with her while we were together. We talk sometimes, but I'm never on that "tip" with him. I do still have love for him though. At the age of 20, I'm already wanting to get married. The main reason for that is I'm tired of going back and forth. At a certain point, that stuff gets old. I am very mature for my age, so I can smell games now from miles away. I wished I would've been that way four years ago. I want to love someone, and I want to be loved. You feel me?
But what do you guys think I should do about my situation. I'm tired of hearing WAIT! I am a very impatient person, but I guess if I want it to be real than I have no choice, huh? I appreciate your help!
MAX
Baby I’ma keep it short and sweet! You’re only 20-years-old. You’re an 80s baby but most guys your age aren't ready for a real commitment. (They still trying to get "cool points" for how many times they get laid). If you want to settle down, try dating men a little older again. I know that your first relationship was with an older man and he hurt you but every man isn't the same. Other than that, the only thing I can tell you is to be patient.
Women who go out there looking for love always find the wrong thing and end up hurt! Let love find you. Let it fall on your doorstep when you least expect it!
P.S. Spectac loves you too! I'll approve the marriage baby!
Dear Pretty Ricky,
How are ya’ll doing? Good, I hope. I'm needing advice big time. My husband and I have been together for 10 years. Now, let me get this straight for y’all. We dated seven years and been married for three years. So, all together it's been ten years. Ok. We also share two children together age two and five. I'm 29 and I don't feel like that I can handle my husband anymore.
He's too controlling to me. Like for example he will snatch the damn phone
cord out of the wall so I can't call and talk to people while he's out late
at night. He knows I'm going to try to call him, but when I have called him his phone is turned off.
He swears he's not cheating on me. He says he's at the bar drinking or whatever. But it doesn't take from 9pm to 1:30am to do that and bring your ass home. I don't know what to do, cause at this point it has gotten physical.
We were boxing each other in the walk-in closet.
I feel that sometimes he loves me, and sometimes he doesn't give a shit and wants out of our marriage. But he wants me to leave him so he can say, "I told you so" when he gets someone else. I feel that sometimes I do stay because of my kids. But kids have been raised in broken homes before.
My mom and dad split when I was 4-years-old. At this point I feel that I should just leave him, and get joint custody when it comes to my kids. I'm always crying wondering where he is, calling his phone, drinking heavily. When he gets home I'm passed out drunk and ready to fight him!
What do I do? Please help me.
Confused Wife
First of all, you have to stop turning to the alcohol! IT ONLY MAKES THINGS WORSE! You have to remember that alcohol is a depressant meaning it will depress you!
Girl if you been with this man 10 years you should know all his funky ass ways by now! If you want to be happy, say to yourself, "Fuck it!"
Let him do what he wants to do. A man can only be in the streets for so long before he want to come home! He can only be with another woman so many times before he says to himself, “What am I doing this for?!” Just remind him to use protection! That'll scare him more than anything! Be a good woman like you've always been and raise them babies. He'll come around and if he doesn't, oh well!
You know him! If you left him and got with another dude, it would take you ten more years of unexpected drama to get to know him as well as your current man! That's one thing you have to remember. What makes any other man better? They all come with their bullshit. You come with baggage! You got two kids! Stick by your man and learn to be a stronger woman for you and your kids! Make yourself happy! He's just there to do what men do . . . smile baby!
Dear Pretty Ricky,
I’m 14 and I haven’t really been boy active until I started high school. But anyway, I have this HUGE crush on my sister's [not really blood sister I jus call her that] ex-boyfriend! I don’t know what to do
because I don’t know if she still has feelings for him or not! And on top of that, in September of last year I started talking to this guy who is supposed to be a junior and we quit talking and everything about a month ago but I’m starting to get feelings for him again! I told my girlfriend about this [yes I said girlfriend . . . I’m bi] and she said that I should leave both of them alone. But I really don’t know what to do! It’s like a battle between needs and wants! I want the guy I used to talk to but I need my girl and my "sister’s" ex! Can ya’ll help me?
Kori
You all messed up shawty! Just fall back and weigh your options! Once you do that everything will be clear!
Dear Pretty Ricky,
I have had feelings for this boy for a really long time now, but he has a girlfriend. I know it seems like it would be an easy decision but it isn't.
He tells me that he loves me with all of his heart and he would die for me and all that mushy gushy stuff. But I am really confused because he has a girlfriend. I have dated this guy once and now I just can't seem to get over the fact that he has a girlfriend. What should i do? Should I just leave him alone or should I keep trying to make things work??
Stephanie Lynn
Pen his ass down and ask him to make a decision! Then you'll know where his head is! I already know but you’re the one who has to face the truth and accept it for what it is! I’ma tell you like this: If he wanted to be with you and NOT her, it would be that BUT it ain’t baby.
Dump him and get over him. I think this new Pretty Ricky album will do wonders for you! It’s called 80s BABIES!
Well ladies, thank you for your questions. I hope I have been helpful! We love y’all and remember that when your man ain’t doing you right Pretty Ricky gone get you right!
I’m about to jump in the shower and wash my body down with some Caress Body Wash! I'll be thinking about all you lovely ladies (80s babies and 90s babies) while the hot water is running over me from head to toe! I'll be imagining you in there with me and you can imagine the rest!
Need advice on your love life? You know Pretty Ricky can handle it. Email your questions to prettyricky@vibe.com.
Pretty Ricky's most recent album, Late Night Special, is in stores.
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