On this week’s edition of Women Trying Not To Behave As Badly As They Used To aka Basketball Wives, Evelyn Lozada is in therapy, Evelyn is still debating whether or not to go back with Chad, and everyone has to talk about Evelyn and whether or not she will or should go back with Chad. Not to be outdone, Tami Roman continues to show why she needs a therapist her damn self as she seeks to handle a relatively harmless remark. Meanwhile, Shaunie O’Neal doesn’t have time for Tami or her talk of sucker punches and I certainly don’t blame her. These characters sure know how to test your empathy levels, but I appreciate the challenge. —Michael Arceneaux (@youngsinick)
1. Evelyn’s Therapist Is Suspect
With all due respect to Dr. Debra Nixon, I don’t believe a woman who would use terms like “womanist” and “feminist” as a pejorative is the best person to discuss domestic violence. Last week’s episode saw Nixon dabble in victim blaming, but in responding to Evelyn’s doubt on whether or not to allow Chad Johnson back into her life, she speaks as someone who entered this situation with a preconceived notion that’s more so supportive of the aggressor than the victim.
At this point, Evelyn reveals that she would like to give her relationship with her ex-husband another try because she wants to be married. Fine, that's her right no matter how much Suzie and I dismiss it as lunacy. Even so, the condescending manner in which Dr. Nixon talks of “the media” and those “womanists and feminists” who take the matter of domestic violence very seriously irritates the living hell out of me.
Forgive us, doctor, for openly questioning why a newly married man is running around with condoms in his glove compartment and is using his forehead as a deadly weapon when tempted. Evelyn says she’d like to have more sessions with Dr. Nixon – including some with Chad Johnson. Leave it to VH1 to give me a greater appreciation of the overbearing aging neighbor-like “wisdom” of Iyanla Vanzant.