V Exclusive: Teddy Riley Feels ‘Sad and Humiliated’ Over Domestic Abuse Claims
VIBE.COM By: jkennedy Posted 1-2-2010 7:38 pm

On Dec. 23, Teddy Riley was accused of beating his 18-year-old daughter Taja in the middle of a heated argument. In a lengthy statement released exclusively to VIBE today (Jan. 2), the R&B producer expressed frustration with the aftermath of the incident.

Riley is currently under a restraining order, which was filed by Taja immediately following the fight. The former Blackstreet member continues to deny his daughter's claims that he punched and struck her and her sister Deja. In a statement released to VIBE via his reps Jonathan Hay and Greg Bowman, he states:

“First of all, I am a single father and I have provided for my children to the best of my abilities with unconditional love and the utmost security, commitment and support. Now today, I find myself not even wanting to leave my house because of misperception surrounding my family, whom I have sacrificed and dedicated so much to. It is a very emotional and sensitive time for all of us right now. The situation involving my household over the holidays isn’t being represented right in the media. At this point, I feel further explanation is owed on my part to avoid additional confusion and speculation.”

The producer reenacted the fight in front of TMZ’s cameras on Dec. 31.

Riley explained the confrontation in further detail to VIBE, stating that the family was together for the holidays when an argument arose between he and his daughters, who became increasingly enraged:

“I felt the need to restrain my children as a disciplinarian parent. I would never hit my daughters out of anger; my only intention was to restrain them from hitting me, with as little force as possible. To my dismay, they came at me and started hitting me. I tried to hold them back, to calm them down, but Taja hit me in the face. Then Deja came in and started screaming and punching me in the head, so I directed her toward the bed, away from me, and out of harm’s way. At some point, Taja fell against the wall, scraping her face, which is how the bruises on the side of her face were obtained. I did not deliberately push her into a wall, nor did I punch her.”

Riley continues:

“I told Taja to leave the house and she started spitting on me. I was thinking, ‘How can my child disrespect me in my home? I’m their father!’ Not to mention my own mother was in the house during all this, as was Michael Jackson’s niece, Genevieve Jackson. I called the police, and Taja and Deja decided to call the police at the same time. They told the police that I had a gun and was holding it to them, which was not true in any way. There was never a gun, and the idea that I would ever hold a gun to my own flesh and blood is ridiculous and hurtful. The police came -- the LAPD with six cars and a helicopter – while I was on the phone with their mother. I had nothing but a cell phone on me, but because my daughters had lied and told them I had a gun, they began shouting at me to get down on the ground or they would shoot. The helicopters had their lights on me as I got down to the ground, face down. They asked me to turn my head to the right, then to the left as they approached me, twisted my arms behind my back and lifted me to my feet. They put me up against my car and explained to me that the girls had called them and told them I had a firearm. I couldn’t believe it. A firearm at the girls -- I’d pull a gun at my own girls? I would never do such a thing. I think this is a good demonstration of how a situation like this one can quickly turn from bad to worse very quickly, and a desperate attempt to prove a point could result in an unfortunate situation, even death. Had the police mistaken my cell phone for a gun, it is likely I would’ve been shot several times, right there and then."

Riley had previously blamed himself for a lack of discipline as a father and for spoiling his daughters growing up. In the statement, he explains that he was raised differently:

“I came from The Projects and I could never disrespect my mother, and I never did. I would never tell my mother ‘Shut up!’ I’d never tell my mother anything disrespectful. It was different then, we never disrespected our parents. I never even dreamt of doing such a thing. But now, despite our best efforts, there is a definite difference in our children’s attitudes this generation and a severe lack of respect for authority. But even with that being said, and contrary to what I have been accused of, I would never beat my children for any reason.”

At one point, the family argument spilled over onto Twitter, after Taja posted a picture of her bruised face to her private Twitter account (@Tajariley), but according to Riley, the photo doesn’t reflect what really happened:

“The picture that is out right now of my daughter, Taja, is not a true representation of the events that actually occurred on that day. Taja released a photo to the media to suggest that I had caused the bruises to her face. My daughters know the truth; they know that I did not hurt them. But they are
still very angry with me -- they even hate me at this point. And even though I feel justified in attempting to hold them to a certain level of respect in my home, in retrospect, I would’ve handled this situation much differently. My heart is heavy and it grieves me to watch it play out in the media. I feel sad and humiliated that we’ve been put in a situation where it’s necessary for these details to be released to the public, as I am a firm believer that family matters should remain discreet and worked through privately together.”

Riley also took blame for not diffusing the situation right away:

“The biggest mistake I made in this situation was not immediately talking through it with my girls. They refuse to answer my calls because they dislike me right now and do not want to talk to me. They said something on Twitter, and I replied. Of course, what I said got bleeped out by various media outlets, including ‘Honor thy mother and your father and you will live long.’  I also said ‘Don’t disrespect the hands that feed you’ and I added a Bible scripture so they’d understand the importance of honoring their parents. That’s just how I feel as a dedicated and proud father. At this point, I just want to mend things with them and calm the situation down.”

Riley ended the statement by saying that he loves his daughters and that they will “always be my little girls.” Taja couldn’t be reached for comment as of press time. ––Clover Hope

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Anonymous says: This is what you call "good parenting" period.
Posted 01-02-2010 08:08 pm
Karen C. says: No! it isn't Good parenting. Its ignorant.
Posted 01-06-2010 06:50 pm
Karen C. says: God will grant them a man that will direct their hearts in the right direction.
Posted 01-06-2010 06:56 pm
Anonymous says: Teddy move on with your life bro...your children will realize later a missing father who was there. You stay bless bro. I'm 100 wit you.
Posted 01-02-2010 09:32 pm
Karen C. says: Where is he going. His daughters are a part of his life. This is his story.
Posted 01-06-2010 11:54 pm
Anonymous says: WOW! This whole situation is horrible. In this case we really dont know what occured on that night, and I hope that the girls arent lying on their father, and I hope that Mr.Riley is telling the truth that he was just trying to ease the girls when they were hitting on him. I dont think I would ever attempt to hit one of my parents. I hope that everything works itself out and father and daughters can remend their relationship.
Posted 01-02-2010 09:34 pm
Karen C. says: He is the culpit. Those girls were provoked..
Posted 01-06-2010 11:56 pm
Anonymous says: I feel as a parent, a man and a person you have every right to stand up as a man in your household! What kind of children would even think of raising their hands to a parent that gave birth to them. That there speaks a lot by itself. If the so called grown children did not like or agree with what you as a parent had to say to them they should have left. And if the other children involved cared or loved their dad they would have tried to defuse the situation or forced the sister to leave but to jump in and fight ur parent says a lot about all of their character. They know their dad and his lifestyle and this is paying out just as they wish humiliating and hurting him. Trying to place bad publicity for him however this too shall pass as any negative input u place on him will only be hurting the kids as well because when they r ready for this to be over the media won't let it die remember his cks have fed u all of ur life!!!!!!
Posted 01-02-2010 10:29 pm
Anonymous says: There are two sides to every story. However, if your are over the age of 18 and still living at home with your parents then you are on borrowed time. Count it a blessing and a priviledge that your father still allows you to live at home. I (like Teddy) feel that it is wrong for children to raise their voice, hands or attitude to their parents. One day you will have children of your own and you won't like it when your kids turn the tables on you, disprespect and humiliate you. Remember the media, the police and the outside sources that you are now turning to for help did not feed you, provide for you, pray for and with you. Neither were they involved in nurturing and training you to become good women. The only thing anyone can do right now is to pray for the entire Riley family. Forget the past and look towards the future with God's help and guidance. Teddy fight for your daughters love and and don't turn your back on them. Remember, sometimes children cry out and lash out because they are really trying to get your attention and love. It may hurt but as parents we are the bigger persons and are put in control to handle the situation. Teddy Rile & daughters... you are not alone in this situation. You have my prayers!
Posted 01-03-2010 04:15 am
honeybrown62 says: typo(their)
Posted 01-03-2010 08:40 pm
Sushigirl says: Teddy, kids do not come with instructions and we as parents do the best we can to provide a loving, safe and happy environment for them. But sometimes "they" do take us for granted. Unfortunately you raised two spoiled and disrespectful brats. My heart goes out to you Teddy and any man who gets involved with these two. As a black woman I would never subject my black husband, brother or father to such humiliation. To be placed face down on the ground, while white cops and the white media was watching is heart wrenching. All the best and God bless you during this time!!!
Posted 01-04-2010 02:42 pm
Anonymous says: Teddy - hold your head up high and give them their space - The spoiled brats will quickly see that is a cold empty world out there. GIVE THEM THEIR SPACE - DO not interact until they agree to counseling - let them go their so-called friends or the people who are filling their heads with garbage. personally i would have restrained them also - disrespectful, nasty brats
Posted 01-05-2010 03:57 pm
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