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The Eldrick Woods Relationship Blog: Will Someone Please Call A Doctor?

When I heard the news that rapper Wale got a new job as a sex/dating/relationship expert for the women’s website, Honeymag.com, I shook my head and sucked my teeth. Here we go again, I thought. Another celebrity relationship expert women will flock to for some sort of clear understanding about the male mind, of which they will never receive.

I will not knock the hustle of celebrities like Wale, comedian Steve Harvey, or actor Hill Harper, the three men I refer to as, The Black Relationship Expert Trinity. I know they mean well. I know publications like Essence (who give Steve Harvey a monthly relationship column) and Honeymag.com are in the business of finding creative ways to entertain and educate their readers, and celebrities help that bottom line (It should also be said, for full disclosure: I have friends at both publications and this is not a rant on them).

What I have an issue with are the readers, specifically the females, who actually seek the counsel of The Black Relationship Expert Trinity. Don’t get me wrong, I think relationship advice and counsel are very necessary, especially amongst black men and women, who judging by these numbers, are clearly in dire need of a good talk to.

But must we run to celebrities to get the skinny on how to get a mate or keep a mate? Can’t we get someone, like I don’t know, a real PhD, to be the face of black relationship counseling? Look at people like Dr. Phil or Dr. Drew. Sure they’re famous faces, but at least it’s by virtue of the hard work they performed in their field. They’re not celebrities moonlighting as relationship experts. They’re doctors, real ones, and they’re here to help men and women figure this whole relationship, dating, and sex thing out.

Need a better example? Quick, name the authors of the relationship tomes, Men are From Mars, Women Are From Venus and/or He’s Just Not That Into You. Name them without Googling them. Having a hard time? That’s because they’re not famous people. Rather they were relationship professionals, who wrote famous literature on the issue at hand.

Meanwhile, over here, we’re listening to rappers, comedians, and actors give us advice on how to have a successful relationship, all based on this idea that in spite of their celebrity status, they’re just like us.

No they’re not.

They’re hustlers. Good ones. Savvy even. In the case of Hill Harper, there aren’t too many Harvard Law Alumni who also appear in Spike Lee films.

See? Hustler.

I have heard there are great points contained in both the gospel of Harper and Harvey. And certainly Wale’s first stab at talking about sex and relationships was a success. Why else would the beautiful, intelligent ladies of Honey give him his own platform? So let me not knock the hustle or the hustlers.

Instead, I turn it over to you all, the hustled. If any of you really need some help when it comes to finding a relationship or keeping a relationship together, by all means, seek some counsel. But instead of flocking to some celebrity for some professional help, go get some professional help from a real professional.

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Jozen Cummings is the Special Projects Editor of VIBE.com and hosts his own blog, Until I Get Married.

 

 

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“The individuals questioned by police in the 'Empire' case have now been released without charging,” Guglielmo tweeted.

Authorities initially arrested the Osundairo brothers on battery charges. Guglielmo also added that  “investigators have additional work to complete.”

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Gloria Schmidt, an attorney for the brothers, told reporters that there are still a lot of “moving parts” in the case. “My guys are innocent of the charge and they're going home,” she said.

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Authorities raided the brothers home earlier in the week removing several items including bleach and rope.

Schmidt previously confirmed that the brothers worked with Smollett on Empire, and didn’t understand how they became “people of interest” in the case.

 

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Colin Kaepernick, Eric Reid Reach Confidential Settlement With NFL In Collusion Case

Colin Kaepernick and Eric Reid have reached a confidential settlement with the league Friday (Feb. 15). The agreement brings an end to their collusion lawsuit against the NFL more than a year after the legal bout began.

According to Yahoo Sports, the Kaepernick and Reid would only agreed to settle for a “lucrative financial agreement.” No other details about the terms of the settlement were released.

Kaepernick and Reid filed sued the NFL for collusion in October 2017. The league denied the allegations, but failed in their attempt to have the suit dismissed.

Attorneys Mark Geragos and Ben Meiselas said in a statement that Kaepernick and Reid have engaged in an “ongoing dialogue” with the NFL for the past “several months.”

“As a result of those discussions, the parties have decided to resolve the pending grievances,” the statement explains. “The resolution of this matter is subject to confidentiality agreement so there will be no further comment by any party.”

The NFL Players Association released a statement of support. “We are not privy to the details of the settlement, but support the decision by the players and their counsel,” the statement reads.

“We continuously supported Colin and Eric from the start of their protests, participated with their lawyers throughout their legal proceedings and were prepared to participate in the upcoming trial in pursuit of both truth and justice for what we believe the NFL and its clubs did to them. We are glad that Eric has earned a job and a new contract, and we continue to hope that Colin gets his opportunity as well.”

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"Detectives have probable cause that they may have been involved in alleged crime and we are working to corroborate the allegations and investigative timeline as our investigation continues," the police said in a statement to ABC News.

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"I have to acknowledge the lies, and the hate," Smollet said to Robin Roberts. "And it feels like if I had said it was a Muslim, or a Mexican, or someone black, I feel like the doubters would have supported me much more. A lot more, and that says a lot about the place that we are in our country right now."

The Chicago Police also released a statement of their own on Thursday evening (Feb. 14).

"While we haven't found any video documenting the alleged attack, there is also no evidence to say that this is a hoax," Chicago police said to ABC News. "The alleged victim is being cooperative at this time and continues to be treated as a victim, not a suspect."

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