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Brandy's Blog: I'm Scared To Give My Heart Away

My daughter hasn’t seen me with anybody in five years. I’ve been very cautious of who I date because I haven’t really dated in five years, so I’m very, very selective when it comes to that because I want to make sure that it’s real. I don’t want her to see me with just anybody because she means everything to me. So she hasn’t seen me with anybody since my last relationship. I don’t like that women are judged more than men when it comes to dating in the industry. It’s definitely stereotypical. We’re judged and men get praised for what they do.

Dating is hard, period, whether it’s in the industry or not. But it’s just a little bit harder because everybody’s all in your business. Everybody wants to know what’s what and the pictures and the paparazzi, all that stuff is crazy. But it is what it is. I’ve seen the photos of me and Flo Rida. It doesn’t matter how we met. We met. I don’t want to say that we’re a couple. I can definitely say that he’s somebody in my life and I’m definitely interested but I’m not serious with anybody. I’m a little bit afraid to give my heart away right now. It’s very scary. I’m open to it, but I just want to make sure that I’m taking my time.

It’s definitely because of my past and of course because my gut feeling is like, okay take things slow, don’t go too fast, make sure that your heart is in the right place, his heart is in the right place. That’s hard. I don’t want to go too fast and it not be what I want it to be later on.

If you’re a nice guy and you have your stuff together and you believe in family, I don’t care what industry you’re in. But people that are in the entertainment business are scary because there’s so much out there for them. They can get whatever they want and you have to be a strong guy to be in a committed relationship. You have to be strong and ready for that. And I just think if you’re not ready for that, then don’t tell me that you are and you’re not. Don’t be ready. Be honest with a girl. That’s what I told my brother. As long as you’re honest with women, then you’re fine. Then you can do what you want to do, just as long as you’re honest. Don’t tell somebody that they’re your girlfriend and then you go out and act like you don’t have a girlfriend. That’s not right.

So I’m scared in that sense because I don’t play around with the whole cheating thing. Please don’t do that. I don’t like that. At all. I'm so scared of that. I’m scared to give my heart away. I don’t know where to find a good guy. I just think that they’re around and I think you have to be good and at some point you’ll attract that. I really believe that. First, people should stop looking. The looking thing does not work. Just let love find you.

 

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