Chilli's Blog: All Women Should Have High Standards

This may sound cliché, but beauty is in the eye of the beholder. So you may think a guy is ugly but 10 other women may not think that. But if you choose to date someone and he’s not necessarily to your liking as far as his appearance, that depends on the woman because there are other things about him that may spark the interest and really make you want to be with him. Then maybe his looks aren’t that important and they can go out the door.

Physical attraction, I feel, is very important. I mean, it is to me. I can't really speak for a lot of people, although looks of course deteriorate. As we get older, things change, but initially before you meet anybody when you see them, their face, their body, that’s the first thing you see. You have no idea what their personality is like. That’s when you spend the time to get to know them to find out that part. But I think you should be with somebody that you are attracted to. You should love to look at that person’s face. It doesn’t matter if the whole world thinks he’s ugly or not. As long as you think he’s gorgeous, then that’s all that matters.

There were quite a few guys on my reality show that I wasn’t feeling because I didn’t have a hand in choosing the guys. That was the whole premise of the show. I don’t look at it like I’m a control freak or anything like that, but when you’re independent and you’re used to doing things for yourself, you’re just used to that way. To do a show like this and someone is coming on and picking someone for me to go on a date with, it’s like a blind date. Do they usually work? Nine times out of ten, no they don’t. Because everybody always thinks that’s for you and it’s like, I thought you said he was cute!

I do have a high standard and I think all women should. You must have a list. Because if you don’t, then you fall for anything. You date any kind of guy and you’re never going to be happy because the person will never meet your true standards. Be vocal about your standards. Write them down. Break them up. Wat do you need? What do you want? Needs have to be met. That goes for guys, too.

When you look at yourself and you see the great qualities that you have and what you can offer someone, you don’t feel like you're going to shortchange somebody so why shortchange yourself? You should never ever ever settle in a relationship. I always say settling is for houses. You settle in a house. Not in a relationship.


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