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CIVIL WRITES: Can Your Wife Be Your Hoe?

My last blog wasn’t my most commented but possibly my most passionately commented thus far. Whether powerful men need to be graded on a Cheating Curve birthed some powerful points of view (thanks Ms. Renfroe!). Such spirited responses inspired me to keep the conversation alive by addressing another facet of infidelity.  We’ve discussed the reaction of adultery; now I wanna question the motives behind it. Specifically men’s Gemini bedroom behavior: the huge disparity between how men sex their wives and fuck their mistresses.

 

This issue transcends a man’s power or bank. Whether the unfaithful is a corporate CFO, starving artist or crack dealer he’d rather, generally speaking, surpass his high score with any other woman than his own. The drug dealer prefers to poor champagne down the plumber-crack of a stripper giving him head than the mother of his child. The struggling artist finds more pleasure ejaculating in the face of the barmaid he met last week than his fiancé. The CFO would rather pay an escort one thousand dollars to whip him red than have his wife of fifteen years do it for free. These men are more comfortable expressing their deepest desires to strangers than the love of their life. Where’s the disconnect?

 

Is men’s disinterest in sharing Mr. Hyde with Mrs. Right rooted in fear? After all, a mind’s sexual fantasy closet is a sacred place. Sometimes that place is dark. Sometimes that place is taboo according to its owner’s society; sometimes it’s illegal. Are men afraid of sharing their freak with their girlfriends and wives because they don’t want to be judged­­­­? Called weirdo, pervert or worse, sick? It’s one thing to pull your wife’s hair or give her bum a smack but how many men are gonna ask wifey to reenact the jaw-dropping tricks Cinnamon performed at his bachelor party? The responses to both queries are why champagne rooms are so lucrative and escorts so paid.

 

I’m wondering if much of the problem can be attributed to the pedestal men seat their ladies. They hold the queens of their households and mothers of their children in such angelic light they cant imagine soiling their white robes (fact that many men see their thoughts as dirty gives you a closer peak into their psyche). Most men will bathe in the saliva of a mistress but will set limits for their Mrs’ lips because “she kisses my children with that mouth.” Did Tiger Woods respect his wife too much where he couldn’t refer to her via text as his “dirty whore”? Could Kobe Bryant not muster up the courage to ask his precious wife for anal before the road trip that landed him in Colorado? Or did both men prefer ordering out?

 

To add insult to infidelity, a man stepping out to walk his freak does more than put a family in jeopardy. It leaves a wife home with her very own freak unattended to (desperate housewife). Newsflash, fellas: women love having their ass smacked. They just want it smacked by whom they decide worthy. Your lady may be a goody two-shoes but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t enjoy playing in stilettos. What if her favorite movies are The Secretary and Sliver? What if she’s always fantasized about being horse-gagged with a belt or made love to for an audience? Does that make you uncomfortable? Why would it if it gets you off as well…with another woman? They say you can’t turn a hoe into a housewife, but why cant a housewife be a hoe?

 

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Barack Obama Announces Release Date For ‘A Promised Land’ Memoir

Following the mega-success of his wife’s Becoming release, Barack Obama is poised to debut his own memoir, A Promised Land, this fall. The former president made the literary announcement on Twitter on Thursday (Sept. 17).

“There’s no feeling like finishing a book and I’m proud of this one,” Obama tweeted while explaining that he tries to give an “honest account” of his presidency in the book. The release will also touch on “the forces we grapple with as a nation, and how we can heal our division and make democracy work for everybody.”

There’s no feeling like finishing a book, and I’m proud of this one. In 'A Promised Land,' I try to provide an honest accounting of my presidency, the forces we grapple with as a nation, and how we can heal our divisions and make democracy work for everybody. pic.twitter.com/T1QSZVDvOm

— Barack Obama (@BarackObama) September 17, 2020

The highly anticipated and introspective release takes readers on a “compelling journey” and details Obama’s “improbable odyssey from a young man searching for his identity to leader of the free world.” Included in the memoir are striking personal details about his political education, as well as landmark moments from his first term presidency.

The Obamas secured the reported $60 million book deals around a year after ending their tenure in the White House. Michelle Obama’s book became the best-selling memoir in history.

A Promised Land is currently available for pre-order at Obamabook.com. The memoir will be released on Nov. 17.

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Big Sean, Jhene Aiko Working On Follow-Up To ‘Twenty88’ Debut

It’s the super group that Big Sean and Jhene Aiko’s fans have been patiently waiting to return. Sean and Aiko are indeed working on a follow-up to their Twenty88  debut, the Detroit rapper confirmed during a Reddit AMA with fans on Wednesday (Sept. 16).

When asked about the possibility of new music from Twenty88 Sean coyly replied, “It’s in the works.”  Twenty88 recently reunited for “Time In” off Sean’s Detroit 2. Aiko is also featured as a solo artist on Sean’s album on the track “Body Language” featuring Ty Dolla Sign.

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“We were making music and the chemistry was undeniable,” Sean explained of recording Twenty88 in a 2017 interview. “We had so many songs we did that I wouldn’t use for my album and she probably wouldn’t necessarily use them all for her album. It was like, we’re not just going to hold on to this, so we figured out a way to give it to the fans and create a whole other world in our universe, aside from me and aside from her, so we decided to make a group.

“It’s one of my favorite things I’ve ever done. It’s one of the coolest experiences to be in a group, especially with somebody you care about. It reminds me of Marvel comic books, like Iron Man, Captain America movies and stuff like that. I think it’s cool to create all these different worlds in your own universe. I was really excited that she wanted to do it too.”

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Rihanna Taps Travis Scott, Ella Mai, Miguel For Savage x Fenty Fashion Show

Rihanna is gearing up for a major fashion moment! The beauty and fashion mogul announced her Savage x Fenty Show Vol. 2 on Thursday (Sept. 17), which is set to stream on Amazon Prime next month.

The unique fashion experience will showcase a combination of models, actors and dancers, and features performances from Travis Scott, Ella Mai, Bad Bunny, Miguel, Mustard and Roddy Rich.

Additional featured appearances include Lizzo, Demi More, Normani, Rico Nasty, Big Sean, Gigi Hadid, Willow Smith, Chika, and more. Rihanna serves as executive producer and creative director of Savage x Fenty Show Vol 2.

 

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Following last year’s groundbreaking, star-studded event, this year’s fashion show hopes to raise the bar debuting a bold and fearless Fall 2020 line, which features sizes ranging from XS-3X, and bra sizes from 30A-42H/46DDD.

Savage x Fenty Vol. 2, will stream exclusively on Amazon Prime Video in more than 240 countries beginning Friday, Oct. 2. Additionally, the line will be available to shop on Amazon’s Fashion Store  and Savagex.com.

 

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