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The Eldrick Woods Relationship Blog: I Want My Woman to be More like Badu, less like Minaj

Let’s just say, hypothetically, I had to choose between two women solely off the following sentences.

Woman 1: “I want somebody to kiss me on my neck.”

Woman 2: “Let me put this pussy on your sideburns.”

Chances are I would take Woman 1, right? Chances are most of us would.

Okay, let’s say Woman 1 had three children by three different men, one of whom she is currently dating but not married, all three of them are rappers. Woman 2, on the other hand, has never been associated with dating a rapper, though she sure does hang out with a lot of them.

Both women essentially have the same profession. They’re performers. Both women have shown a lot of skin for the sake of public consumption.

Which one would you encourage me to choose now?

I am going to take my chance and say Woman 2 will get the benefit of the doubt, because we all know what kind of irrational judgments we make on women who have kids with rappers.

Now, let’s give these two women names.

Woman 1 is Erykah Badu.

Woman 2 is Nicki Minaj.

Now, which one should I choose? Is it back to Woman 1, if so, why?

Today, I’m not writing about deciding between Nicki Minaj (been there, done that) and Erykah Badu, so much as I am talking about the way we let some artists get passes because they make the music we like, while other artists get snap decisions made about them simply because we associate their music with our more sinful sides, or we don’t like their music at all.

For her artistry, I have nothing but the utmost respect for Erykah Badu, largely because I know her in no other capacity but through her art. The music she makes resonates deeply with me. Even as a man, she is probably one of the best singers at conveying a wide range of emotions through the power of song. So I will say this again, just so we understand each other: I have nothing but the up most respect for Erykah Badu.

That being said, I do have a fundamental problem with many of her female fans who are quick to tear down other female artists like Lil Kim and Nicki Minaj on superficial grounds such as sexuality. For reasons I cannot possibly understand, Erykah Badu’s level of respect is far and above some of the highest given by her fan base, and yet, I am pretty sure, these same fans would have asked for the head of any female rapper with enough nerve to film a video entirely naked. And many men aren’t any better. Though I am sure plenty of men fantasized over Badu after her “Window Seat” video, I’m sure in their heads they were making sweet love to that woman. Meanwhile, the fantasies they have of any sexualized female rapper probably don’t even include kissing on the mouth.

I cannot lay claim to be some scientist who studies behavior for a living, but I have seen enough behavior by men and women to know the woman with dreads or the woman who sings always gets more respect than the woman with a perm or the woman who raps. And frankly, it’s a bad look.

Though there were plenty who cried foul over Badu’s latest video, and plenty more who declared it art on another level, what became clear to me is this: Badu, because she makes the kind of music we light incense to, was getting a pass by everyone except the good old boys down at the Dallas Police Department. And even though I most certainly am one of those who did see the video’s artistic value, I also recognize the artistic value in pole dancing. Of course I would like to date a woman who is more like Badu, less like Minaj, but it wouldn’t be because one is on a higher level than the other. It would probably be because I like women who wear head wraps. Don’t judge me.

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Jozen Cummings is a frequent contributor of VIBE.com and hosts his own blog Until I Get Married.

 

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Schoolboy Q's new album, CrasH Talk is here. The rapper's fifth studio album arrived on Friday (April 26).

The album is comprised of 14 tracks and features special appearances from Travis Scott, Ty Dolla $ign, 21 Savage, YG, Kid Cudi, Lil Baby, and 6lack. It includes the pre-released track, "CrasH."

According to Q, this wasn't the first version of his album. He actually canned two albums because "they were trash." At the time, he said he was going through a lot of lows in his life. "I'd be in the house smoking weed, just waiting to go to the studio every day," Q told GQ. "That's not a good life. That brings on depression."

It was his fellow TDE members Kendrick Lamar and Jay Rock that inspired him to keep working on the album. And the rest is history. CrasH Talk follows 2016's Blank Face. Stream the new project below.

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Wendy Williams Reportedly Hires New Manager After Firing Estranged Husband

Wendy Williams hired a new team members after splitting from her estranged husband, Kevin Hunter, earlier in the month and firing him as her manager.

Veteran producer Bernie Young has signed on as Williams’ manager and executive producer of The Wendy Williams Show, Page Six reports. Young replaces Williams’ estranged husband who was reportedly booted as executive producer of the show after she served him with divorce papers.

Young worked as co-executive producer of the Rosie O’Donnell Show from 1996 until 2002, and Martha Stewarts’s talk show, Martha, from 2005 until 2012.

Williams split from Hunter amid rumors that he had been cheating on her for several years with a woman named, Sharina Hudson. Hunter and Hudson allegedly welcomed a child together late last month. Williams supposedly gave Hunter only 48 hours to move out, and cut off his funds.

Following news of the split, Hunter released a statement apologizing to Williams. “I am not proud of my recent actions and take full accountability and apologize to my wife, my family and her amazing fans,” he said. “I am going through a time of self-reflection and am trying to right some wrongs.”

Aside from a few jokes and flirty comments, Williams hasn’t said much about the split from Hunter. The 54-year-old daytime talk show host, who has battled drug addiction, announced that she was moving out of the sober house that she had been living in following a reported relapse.

 

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California Approves Bill Banning Racial Discrimination Based On Hairstyles

California is set to become the latest state to ban racial discrimination based on hairstyles. Senate Bill 188, also known as The Crown Act, was introduced by state Sen. Holly Mitchell (D-Los Angeles) in January and unanimously approved in a 37-0 vote Monday (April 22).

The bill outlines the proximity between race and hair and how the history of the U.S. has been “riddled with laws and societal norms” that equate  “blackness’” which includes physical traits such as “dark skin, kinky and curly hair” with inferiority, and therefore subjecting black people to “separate and unequal treatment.”

“This idea also permeated societal understanding of professionalism,” Morgan states in the bill. “Professionalism was, and still is, closely linked to European features and mannerisms, which entails that those who do not naturally fall into Eurocentric norms must alter their appearances, sometimes drastically and permanently, in order to be deemed professional.

“Despite the great strides American society and laws have made to reverse the racist ideology that Black traits are inferior, hair remains a rampant source of racial discrimination with serious economic and health consequences, especially for Black individuals,” Morgan continues.

Furthermore, dress codes and grooming policies prohibiting “natural hair” have a “disparate impact on Black individuals as these policies are more likely to deter Black applicants and burden or punish Black employees than any other group.”

The 1964 Civil Rights Act banning racial discrimination extends to afros as well, but doesn’t include other hairstyles. As pointed out in SB 188, “courts do not understand that afros are not the only natural presentation of Black hair. Black hair can also be naturally presented in braids, twists, and locks.”

Although the bill has yet to be signed into law, the state isn't alone in making moves to end the racist bias against natural hair. In February, New York City passed a similar bill in February imposing a $250,000 penalty for hair discrimination.

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