Tank's Sex Column: 'Do It Like You're Doing It For The First Time'




1) "Make it new every time and don’t be so predictable. Try to impress your woman every time you have sex with her. I think it’s more about the feeling and the attitude when you approach it rather than what you actually do because it’s like when you meet somebody new, it could be the same old tricks but the energy that you put into it because it’s somebody new is gonna make it feel that much different, so it’s like an attitude. Get in there and try to be impressive with whatever it is you’re doing. Just because you’ve done it before, don’t just do it like you’ve don it before. Do it like you’re doing it for the first time."

2) "Focus all of your sexual energy on that one person. When you start diverting your attention with anything like porn or just other women and other conversations you can lose some of the intensity that you would have with that person as opposed to if you were just longing for that one thing. Like, if you wake up with some kind of craving on your mind--like if you gotta have cold stone ice cream that day and you're not gonna stop until you get it and when you finally get it it feels so good to you, that’s the type of focus that you need for the woman that you with. Kill all that other stuff. Make her the focal point of all your sexual energy."

3) "Don’t be afraid of toys, they’re fun. Toys only on the women! No toys on me! But the silver bullet is one of my favorites, and the g spot dildo--the one that curves up--that’s another one of my personal favorites. Food doesn’t count as a toy. Walk in the store with your lady and don’t be embarrassed. Men try to act like we’re not as nasty as we are so that we won’t give off the trueness about it but women can make a man feel more comfortable by introducing it like, "Let's go to this store, let’s watch a porn together," and they’ll be surprised at how a man will react to it. We get excited about knowing we’re not the only nasty creatures In the world."

Tank's fourth album, Now Or Never, led by the single "Sex Music," drops later this year on Atlantic Records.


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