Talking Points With Lisa Wu-Hartwell (Pg. 3)


On Escaping Domestic Violence:

I got out because I started loving myself more than loving him. At the end of the day that’s where it starts and you have to love yourself and respect yourself and that’s why the name of my book is called, When the Cake Gets Made, because I said you deal with something for so long and you think you can change people but that’s like baking a cake. Once you make that cake the ingredients are there. You can’t undo it because you’ve allowed it to go on for too long and one day you have to be like, “This is going to stop.” You either take the cake away or you eat it so you have to realize, “I deserve better. I love myself and I respect myself,” so if you truly respect yourself then others have no choice but to respect you.