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Actress Malinda Williams: 'Prince Charming Doesn't Exist & Neither Does Cinderella'

When MadameNoire.com posted a controversial article entitled, “8 Reasons To Date a White Man,” in September, the sh*t hit the fan. Blogs and message boards were set ablaze with e-fury because of what they felt was a ridiculous list consisting of reasons like, “White Men Turn a Hoe Into A House Wife,” “White Men Don’t Have Babymama Drama,” and more. Still, the article received over 1,000 comments and 14,000 shares on Facebook so Madame Noire decided to continue the discussion. Last week, they held a panel at Columbia University, featuring Madame Noire’s Editor-in-Chief China Okasi, Amanda Diva, Michaela Angela Davis, Mark Anthony Neal, Egypt and actress Malinda Williams who discussed romance in the Black community. VIBE caught up with Williams for her insight on improving romantic relationships.

We definitely have issues in [the Black community] that we need to address. We certainly can’t address them in two minutes, two hours, 20 minutes or 20 days. But any dialogue that gets started on this subject is dialogue that needs to happen. There’s always gonna be a solution to any problem. What could that solution possibly be? I don’ t know, I’m no expert but what I think could happen is that a bunch of people who really care equally enough to make those things happen, who have the right type of training, can get those things started but again we have hundreds of years of teaching and oppression and ignorance⎯a whole slew of other adjectives that I can name so it’s going to take many years to fix this.

What everyone needs to understand is that relationships don’t come with warranties and a lot of times people think that what they get at the beginning of a relationship is what they’re going to have for the rest of their lives. But things change in relationships. Your environment changes and sometimes things happen that are unexpected. And when unexpected things happen⎯things that you didn’t necessarily know were going to happen in the relationship⎯that’s when you gotta get down and dirty.

You gotta pull on your gloves and you gotta go to work and a lot of us become lazy, like, this is too much emotionally and things are going come out that you never knew were inside of you. And if you’re not ready to deal with those things then you should not get into a relationship. I think sometimes single women wear it as a badge of honor that we’re suffering for our men and that we’re waiting for the right one. There is no unbruised fruit. It all has marks on it so you better go in there get you one, clean it up and make it work for you.

I’m not saying just settle, I’m saying get the one that’s right for you and make it work. Prince Charming doesn’t exist and neither does Cinderella. Someone said on the panel that we have to look at ourselves. Fix yourself and then we can fix each other as we go along but there has to be two people willing to put in the work. ⎯As Told To Starrene Rhett

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Vic Mensa Apologized To XXXTentacion's Mother Over BET Freestyle Diss

Vic Mensa sparked controversy earlier this year after he took jabs at XXXTentacion's abusive past during a freestyle at the 2018 BET Hip-Hop Awards. Many criticized the timing of his diss, saying he shouldn't have said it while X's mother was in attendance to accept her son's award. While Vic stated that he doesn't regret his comments, he admitted that he did apologize to X's mom.

"I actually reached out to his mother personally,” the rapper said during an appearance on radio's "The Breakfast Club" on Monday (Dec. 10). "I apologized to her because I didn’t know she would be in attendance… I wouldn’t walk back any of my statements because what I said, I meant. And some more truth came to light not long after."

He also mentioned that although his timing was inappropriate, his talking points were important and necessary. "At the end of the day, I do think that the conversation that I was trying to bring up and that I did bring up is a super necessary conversation," he continued. "Maybe the way of going about it was not the best for the time, but I think the conversation is one that had to be had – talking about violence against women and misogyny in hip-hop, but particularly violence against women. I had a lot of people on the low reach out to me and thank me for that."

As previously mentioned, XXXTentacion was accused of physically abusing his then-pregnant, ex-girlfriend. Vic's freestyle included the lines: "Only time you bear arms is in a wife beater, loser/Your favorite rapper is an abuser." Weeks after the viral diss, audio obtained by Pitchfork, revealed the rapper admitting to committing physical harm against her and others.

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Romeo May Have Landed A Role In 'Bad Boys For Life'

Bad Boys 3 is officially going down, and there's going to be a lot of new changes. The biggest change seems to be major additions to the film's cast. In fact, Romeo Miller recently hopped on social media on Tuesday (Dec. 11), suggesting that he could be the newest addition to the Bad Boys team.

Romeo shared a photo of an email for a callback to the Bad Boys set on his Instagram Stories on Dec. 11. "When you get callbacks and opportunity to work alongside your idols, @martinlawrence and @willsmith, you go study and go ghost," the rapper-turned-actor said, mentioning stars Martin Lawrence and Will Smith.

Romeo isn't the only hip-hop star to possibly land a role in the forthcoming movie. Nicky Jam also suggested he was going out for a part during an interview with TMZ in Nov. 2018. "I actually came her because I'm doing a casting for a movie," he said at the time.

As previously reported Will Smith and Martin Lawrence announced that the third installment of the Bad Boys franchise is finally happening after years of negotiating. The upcoming film, entitled, Bad Boys For Life, is expected to premiere in Jan. 2020.

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Looks like #Romeo May be joining the #BadBoys3 crew! Are y’all here for it, #Roomies!?

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Safaree Says He's Over His Beef With Meek Mill: "He Ain't On No B.S"

Safaree is ready to leave the ill feelings in 2018. In a forthcoming episode of BET's Rants, Safaree dished about his previously beef with Meek Mill, insisting that he was way over the drama.

During the episode, Safaree addressed Meek's new attitude and maturity level. "As far as Meek—and I can see in Meek and everything he does now—he's way more mature than he was even a year ago," Safaree said. "From what he's been through, I can tell he ain't on no B.S. because when I hosted the BET Pre-Awards and all that, [Rick] Ross was there. Me and Ross, we spoke, we chopped it up and Meek was right there."

He also stated that he's moving on and focusing his energy elsewhere. "It was what it was. The s**t happened. Ain't nobody die. I'm over that."

As previously reported, Safaree and Meek's beef started in 2017, over what seemed to be the common denominator: Nicki Minaj. Meek started dating the rapper after her 10-year long romance with the Love & Hip Hop star.

Things escalated after Safaree accused Meek and his crew of jumping him during the 2017 BET Awards weekend in Los Angeles. Footage taken during the incident shows Safaree talking to some people at the same time that Meek hops out of his vehicle a couple of feet away. Soon after, someone is seen throwing a punch at Safaree. At the time, Safaree called Meek the "biggest pu**y on the planet, but he clearly has a change of heart now.

It's unclear if Meek and Safaree have officially made up, but this wouldn't be the first reconciliation that happened involving the CHAMPIONSHIPS artist. He previously made up with Drake in Sept. 2018.

Safaree's episode of Rants airs on BET on Dec. 11.

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