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Actress Malinda Williams: 'Prince Charming Doesn't Exist & Neither Does Cinderella'

When MadameNoire.com posted a controversial article entitled, “8 Reasons To Date a White Man,” in September, the sh*t hit the fan. Blogs and message boards were set ablaze with e-fury because of what they felt was a ridiculous list consisting of reasons like, “White Men Turn a Hoe Into A House Wife,” “White Men Don’t Have Babymama Drama,” and more. Still, the article received over 1,000 comments and 14,000 shares on Facebook so Madame Noire decided to continue the discussion. Last week, they held a panel at Columbia University, featuring Madame Noire’s Editor-in-Chief China Okasi, Amanda Diva, Michaela Angela Davis, Mark Anthony Neal, Egypt and actress Malinda Williams who discussed romance in the Black community. VIBE caught up with Williams for her insight on improving romantic relationships.

We definitely have issues in [the Black community] that we need to address. We certainly can’t address them in two minutes, two hours, 20 minutes or 20 days. But any dialogue that gets started on this subject is dialogue that needs to happen. There’s always gonna be a solution to any problem. What could that solution possibly be? I don’ t know, I’m no expert but what I think could happen is that a bunch of people who really care equally enough to make those things happen, who have the right type of training, can get those things started but again we have hundreds of years of teaching and oppression and ignorance⎯a whole slew of other adjectives that I can name so it’s going to take many years to fix this.

What everyone needs to understand is that relationships don’t come with warranties and a lot of times people think that what they get at the beginning of a relationship is what they’re going to have for the rest of their lives. But things change in relationships. Your environment changes and sometimes things happen that are unexpected. And when unexpected things happen⎯things that you didn’t necessarily know were going to happen in the relationship⎯that’s when you gotta get down and dirty.

You gotta pull on your gloves and you gotta go to work and a lot of us become lazy, like, this is too much emotionally and things are going come out that you never knew were inside of you. And if you’re not ready to deal with those things then you should not get into a relationship. I think sometimes single women wear it as a badge of honor that we’re suffering for our men and that we’re waiting for the right one. There is no unbruised fruit. It all has marks on it so you better go in there get you one, clean it up and make it work for you.

I’m not saying just settle, I’m saying get the one that’s right for you and make it work. Prince Charming doesn’t exist and neither does Cinderella. Someone said on the panel that we have to look at ourselves. Fix yourself and then we can fix each other as we go along but there has to be two people willing to put in the work. ⎯As Told To Starrene Rhett

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Schoolboy Q Drops New Album 'CrasH Talk'

Schoolboy Q's new album, CrasH Talk is here. The rapper's fifth studio album arrived on Friday (April 26).

The album is comprised of 14 tracks and features special appearances from Travis Scott, Ty Dolla $ign, 21 Savage, YG, Kid Cudi, Lil Baby, and 6lack. It includes the pre-released track, "CrasH."

According to Q, this wasn't the first version of his album. He actually canned two albums because "they were trash." At the time, he said he was going through a lot of lows in his life. "I'd be in the house smoking weed, just waiting to go to the studio every day," Q told GQ. "That's not a good life. That brings on depression."

It was his fellow TDE members Kendrick Lamar and Jay Rock that inspired him to keep working on the album. And the rest is history. CrasH Talk follows 2016's Blank Face. Stream the new project below.

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Wendy Williams Reportedly Hires New Manager After Firing Estranged Husband

Wendy Williams hired a new team members after splitting from her estranged husband, Kevin Hunter, earlier in the month and firing him as her manager.

Veteran producer Bernie Young has signed on as Williams’ manager and executive producer of The Wendy Williams Show, Page Six reports. Young replaces Williams’ estranged husband who was reportedly booted as executive producer of the show after she served him with divorce papers.

Young worked as co-executive producer of the Rosie O’Donnell Show from 1996 until 2002, and Martha Stewarts’s talk show, Martha, from 2005 until 2012.

Williams split from Hunter amid rumors that he had been cheating on her for several years with a woman named, Sharina Hudson. Hunter and Hudson allegedly welcomed a child together late last month. Williams supposedly gave Hunter only 48 hours to move out, and cut off his funds.

Following news of the split, Hunter released a statement apologizing to Williams. “I am not proud of my recent actions and take full accountability and apologize to my wife, my family and her amazing fans,” he said. “I am going through a time of self-reflection and am trying to right some wrongs.”

Aside from a few jokes and flirty comments, Williams hasn’t said much about the split from Hunter. The 54-year-old daytime talk show host, who has battled drug addiction, announced that she was moving out of the sober house that she had been living in following a reported relapse.

 

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California Approves Bill Banning Racial Discrimination Based On Hairstyles

California is set to become the latest state to ban racial discrimination based on hairstyles. Senate Bill 188, also known as The Crown Act, was introduced by state Sen. Holly Mitchell (D-Los Angeles) in January and unanimously approved in a 37-0 vote Monday (April 22).

The bill outlines the proximity between race and hair and how the history of the U.S. has been “riddled with laws and societal norms” that equate  “blackness’” which includes physical traits such as “dark skin, kinky and curly hair” with inferiority, and therefore subjecting black people to “separate and unequal treatment.”

“This idea also permeated societal understanding of professionalism,” Morgan states in the bill. “Professionalism was, and still is, closely linked to European features and mannerisms, which entails that those who do not naturally fall into Eurocentric norms must alter their appearances, sometimes drastically and permanently, in order to be deemed professional.

“Despite the great strides American society and laws have made to reverse the racist ideology that Black traits are inferior, hair remains a rampant source of racial discrimination with serious economic and health consequences, especially for Black individuals,” Morgan continues.

Furthermore, dress codes and grooming policies prohibiting “natural hair” have a “disparate impact on Black individuals as these policies are more likely to deter Black applicants and burden or punish Black employees than any other group.”

The 1964 Civil Rights Act banning racial discrimination extends to afros as well, but doesn’t include other hairstyles. As pointed out in SB 188, “courts do not understand that afros are not the only natural presentation of Black hair. Black hair can also be naturally presented in braids, twists, and locks.”

Although the bill has yet to be signed into law, the state isn't alone in making moves to end the racist bias against natural hair. In February, New York City passed a similar bill in February imposing a $250,000 penalty for hair discrimination.

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