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Lying About Your Sexual Partners, Is It Cool?

There's always that weird pause after a person asks a woman how many sex partners she's had. Ladies, we've all survived this moment. You don't want to pause for too long as you tally up the skeletons in your closet, so you may (or may not) spout the very unlikely fact that you're still a virgin or produce the lowest, most reasonable number you can think of. The question is Eleven8 at BallerAlert asks is: Why lie?

 


I recently read an article on the net about Beyonce claiming that she's only had one boyfriend other than Jay Z and that Jay Z was her first. Now, by first I was hoping she meant her first marriage. Unfortunately, she meant her first sexual partner. Now I'm by no means the hall monitor of Bey's womb so I don't know who has or has not been in and out of there, but I did give her a swift side-eye.

I started to realize that when it comes to sex, you can never be too sure about a person's body count. Men tend to over-exaggerate while women tend to give or take a few. But what's the purpose? I'm not saying that you have to tell everyone who has been in and out of your bedroom, but if you're going to speak on it why don't you speak the truth? For some reason (if this article about Beyonce is real) Bey felt a need to speak on her sex life. Not saying it would be necessary for her to say "Yeah, I slept with the entire football team at 13" but why say "Jay Z took my virginity" if that could possibly not be true. Once again, I'm not saying that this is impossible, but let's be honest, it's not as likely as Beyonce would like to have us think.

So why do we as women feel the need to lie about sexual partners? When posed with the question why do so many of us choose to cut our number in half? I'm a firm believer in standing by your actions, whether good or bad. Unfortunately society is so backwards and full of double standards that it's somehow okay for men to have multiple sexual partners, but the minute a woman has slept with over one person in her life she's deemed a slut. So according to society, men can sleep with multiple women and be praised and when a women sleeps with any man other than the one she's destined to marry, she's damaged goods. Interesting.

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Aside from rave reviews and a genius promo run that included simultaneous screenings in major media markets, Us earned a 95 percent approval rating on Rotten Tomatoes.

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Peele recently spoke to VIBE about casting Duke (our April 2019 cover star) in the role of patriarch, Gabe Wilson. “I have to have somebody voice what the audience was saying,” he said. “In the case of Get Out, it’s Rod, like, ‘How have you not left yet?’ [In Us], Winston is largely that voice. There’s one moment where Lupita [Nyong’o] takes a step into the unknown, where black people [will think], ‘I don’t know.’ But to have Winston say, ‘Aaaand she left. Your mother just walked out of the car.’ That’s all we need.”

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Since people tend to ask Bardi to use what has become her signature catch phrase, she figured that it was time to cash in. “You think I ain’t gonna’ profit off this sh*t? B*tch white folks do it all the motherf**king time,” she said. “So you gon’ be mad at me ‘cuz I want to get some motherf**king money?

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