The Psychology Of A Big Butt: How Society Went From Flat To Phat

VIBE caught up with celebrity psychologist Dr. Thema Bryant-Davis to chat about why so many women are killing themselves for bigger butts and why society needs to embrace diverse standards of beauty.

VIBE: Why are women now more than ever risking their lives for dangerous plastic surgery?

Dr. Thema Bryant-Davis: I think that women have long been victims of objectification where we are being told that our worth is based on our looks and there is what’s considered⎯this Western beauty myth where there’s only one idea of what beauty looks like and so whatever gets held up in the moment everybody strives to be like that and if you don’t match that then you’re somehow unworthy of love and you’re not good enough. It’s important to keep in mind these aren’t just issues that are in the heads of a few individuals but it really is a massive issue that affects everybody when we look at research, the impact that women feel about their self esteem just based on the magazines they look at, music videos⎯all of these images have an effect at how we look at ourselves. In terms of growing numbers of people going to surgery I think a part of it is how more available certain plastic surgery is becoming whether it’s through legal or illegal means. Unfortunately women do report that they are treated differently based on how they look so this feeling of, if I had these particular features then more people are going to pursue and someone is going to want me are increased. That’s what people are hungry for. That affirmation that validation and unfortunately we’re willing to pay the price not only the financial price but also the price of their health.

Even though we’re subjected to the European standard of beauty, now we have women like Kim Kardashain and Jennifer Lopez who are glorified for having big butts—

Right. Here’s the challenge that we have to remember: It’s a balancing act because it’s not a negative thing that people are holding up more examples of fuller figured women and they’re not even really full figured when we think about average women, but in comparison to their Hollywood counterparts, they’re fuller figured so I think it’s not that we need to demonize them or be upset that they’re being celebrated. It’s more so the message that we want to get out that there are multiple images of beauty. So whether you are thin or fuller whatever complexion you are whatever your hair is whatever your eyes are, learning to see beauty within ourselves is critical as opposed to the one idea that if I don’t have the behind and the breasts and a small waist and a thin nose and long straight blonde hair then I’m not acceptable, so it’s not that we want to be upset about people seeing that as beautiful but to know that that’s not the only example of beauty.

When you watch people who get plastic surgery on TV we know that they consult with a surgeon first but is it ever recommended to see a psychologist beforehand?

Sure. We really recommend that, especially for surgeons who are having people come repeatedly and sometimes there are ethical surgeons who their warning lights will go off that someone is having some deeper challenges and issues and they may say to them before the surgery, “I want to recommend that you go talk to somebody.” Unfortunately, there are those who are unethical and their priority is the money and not your health, not only physically but emotionally. But I think it’s important for people to talk through and it’s not that you come to speak to a therapist for them to talk you out of it but just so that you can be very clear about what is your expectation. How are you hoping your life with be different as the result of this? Are you fully aware of the different risks, and to challenge this idea of you are not beautiful? So, we talk through that and then you can make an informed decision. That’s not to control women⎯women and men, men are getting surgeries too⎯but it’s not to control women but so that you can make an empowered decision because it is a big decision.

How did we go from denouncing the what happened to Venus Hottentot to doing the same thing to ourselves, in essence?

I think what we have in a lot of ways mistaken is we have bought into the myth that if I do it to myself it’s empowering, so it’s like, you’re not gonna do it to me, I’m gonna do it to me but it ends up with the same effect that in essence we’re on auction blocks and those auction blocks are now the street corners, those auction blocks are on tables when I’m feeling like I have to give lap dances to get my college tuition, those auction blocks are standing in line hoping to be chosen for a rap video. A lot of times these are girls who actually have dance training. Some of them just woke up and decided to show up but several of them actually have talent. But unfortunately in our community, there have been a lack of celebration and recognition for people who are doing the right thing. It’s not that we don’t have sisters holding it down, it’s not that we don’t have brothers who are very respectful of women but they don’t get highlighted. They don’t get the big commercials. Like, the big commercial is the guy sitting there and three women standing behind him with their bikinis on and that becomes the hero, and people want to be that so I think we really have to alter who it is we have to give our power to and really start to acknowledge those who are doing incredible things. It’s not to demonize those who create videos, they’re doing what they do but we have to be clear about putting forward to our young people and to ourselves other examples of heroes and sheros so that there’s a better balance.

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Rich The Kid's newest album The World Is Yours 2 dropped today (Mar. 22), and before his highly-anticipated LP dropped, he took to Instagram to make some pretty bold statements.

"I am the hottest rapper out of New York," he wrote in a now-deleted IG story post. "Name a ny rapper who get more a show than me? Name a new york artist got more Platinums."

In a repost of his story to his page, he captioned his sentiment with "FACT... name a New York male artist that bigger than rich...ON GOD ... no rapper in nyc other than @iamcardib get paid more a show & in this business than RICH #funfact."

This year, we've seen several rappers making spirited and confident declarations about their spots in the game. Soulja Boy claimed he was the hottest rapper in the game back in January, and Tory Lanez dubbed himself the "best rapper alive right now." Just yesterday (Mar. 21), Kodak Black told us to put some respect on his name, urging us to place him at the same level as legends like Tupac, Biggie and Nas.

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Wendy Williams' Husband Speaks On Talk Show Host's Recent Treatment Disclosure

In front of a live studio audience and viewers at home, Wendy Williams shared that she's been living in a sober house to seek treatment for previous cocaine addiction. On Tuesday (March 19), the 54-year-old pop culture commentator said after each taping, her sober coach ushers her back to the residence to continue rehabilitation.

During her speech, Williams said only her husband, Kevin Hunter, knew of her ongoing assistance. In an interview with Entertainment Tonight, Hunter shared that his wife's health is on the upswing and they're taking it one day at a time. "We are moving forward with working on her sobriety and doing the work to help others, not just ourselves," he said. "It is a family process. Anybody that has to deal with this knows this is a family process."

To further support those in similar situations to Williams', the couple established The Hunter Foundation in 2014. The outreach program assists young people cemented between addiction and recovery. The non-profit organization also administers information on outlets of healing.

Williams said she's steadily fighting this addiction that she described as a "10-year ride with the cocaine and the crack." The news arrived several days after the mother-of-one returned to center stage on her eponymous talk show. Williams noted under medical orders that she needed to take an extended hiatus to treat her Graves' disease, and during a taping, she divulged on the thyroid condition and thanked her doctors for helping to strengthen her health.

Wendy's back!

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Rich The Kid, Nav, And More Friday Music Releases You Need To Hear

Mar. 2019 was a pretty slow month, but we are back with a new list of the hottest Friday releases. From Rich the Kid to Nav and more, here are all of the Friday music releases that you need to hear below.


Rich The Kid – The World Is Yours 2

Rich the Kid is back with The World Is Yours 2. The 16-track project features Offset, Big Sean, Tory Lanez, Gunna, Ty Dolla $ign, and more. The album also includes the pre-released singles, "Splashin'" and "4 Phones."

This is Rich the Kid's second studio album. It is a sequel to The World Is Yours, which was released in Mar. 2018.

Listen to Rich the Kid's new album below.

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Nav – Bad Habits

Nav's sophomore studio album is here. Bad Habits consists of 16 tracks and includes guest appearances by Meek Mill, The Weeknd, Young Thug, Gunna, and more.

Nav dropped the tracklist and video teaser ahead of the album's release. The preview includes behind-the-scenes footage of the rapper's past live concerts.

The album is completely produced by The Weeknd. Listen to Bad Habits below.

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Megan Thee Stallion – "Sex Talk"

Raunch and debauchery ensue in Megan Thee Stallion's newest single "Sex Talk." The track, which arrived early Friday morning (March 22), is sexy, empowering, and strong as the 24-year-old takes charge of her sexual nature in this single that puts a women's pleasure over a man's.

"Can I f**k ya to a trap beat? He said girl you tryin' to trap me?/Ah hell nah, ni**a no I ain't (What?)/You can hit that door, here go ahead leave," she raps over the bass-heavy beat.

"Sex Talk" is projected to land on the Houston rappers forthcoming album Fever, which is slated to hit streaming shelves in Apr 2019. Stream the Stallion's "Sex Talk" below.

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Jacquees ft. Lil Baby – "Your Peace"

Jacquees, or the King of R&B, as he likes to call himself, just released a new single featuring Lil’ Baby. “Your Peace” features Jacquees' signature sound and the Atlanta rapper riding on the R&B beat. Listen to the track to hear the two Georgia artists try to find peace with a special someone.

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