Bilal On J. Dilla's Influence, Independent Women, And The Best Kind Of Sex [Pg.2]
Another thing I remember from your advice columns is that you constantly implicated that males are likely to cheat. Tyrese even said “it’s expected for men to cheat”. Do you think men are more prone to cheating? And in your opinion, do you think a woman should tolerate it if it’s only physical versus emotional?
I don’t know; that’s according to the persons and their relationship. I think that the way society is set up nowadays, yeah, men do cheat; even women cheat. I think the lines are very hard to see nowadays in relationships. Relationships are kind of taking on a different kind of meaning nowadays. It’s not as cut and dry as it was in my mother’s time.
A lot that has also changed is female independence, which has been promoted by female role models like Beyonce. Her comeback now is about to continue this female empowerment movement. How do you feel about having a self-made woman?
I think it’s sexy. I like a woman that knows what she wants and isn’t waiting for someone to get it for her. [Someone] that is aggressive with her ideas and her drive, that’s what I like. No one likes a needy person, or a person that just feeds off of your energy. It’s good to have someone whose energy you can feed off too.
Would it ever bother you if she was more successful than you?
Oh hell yeah! F*ck yeah! [Laughs] Nah, I don’t know. I don’t think so. I’ve always been the kind of person that doesn’t need much anyways. I don’t think someone having more than me would really affect me. I really don’t need much with how my lifestyle is anyways
A lot of women are gaining success and money from these reality shows like Basketball wives, Hip Hop Wives, Mob Wives, where they use their past (or current) relationships to make a name for themselves and be “independent”. How do you feel about this?
Man, I don’t know. I don’t really dig that too much. But I guess they can say they are somewhat. I mean, reality TV is big money now.
How would you react to one of your exes being on one?
My kind of person wouldn’t even want to be on a reality TV show. But if that were to happen, I don’t know. It’d just be comedy. [Laughs]
Would we find out some good secrets about you?
Aw yeah. [Laughs] You might. I don’t know what a person would take from their experience of being with me and putting it on TV. I don’t know what they’d share. [Laughs]
Now you’ve made some sexy music before… What is your definition of the best kind of sex?
Hmm. That’s easy. Best kind of sex is if you both climax at the same time! That’s the best kind of sex.
What kinda music would you put on to set the mood?
I don’t really even do that anymore. I like natural sounds.
Are you currently working on more music?
Yeah, I’m always writing music. Always.
When can we expect more music soon?
I don’t know; whenever I’m finished. I don’t think it’s going to take that long for me to do a record. It usually only takes me two to three years to make a record. It’s been so long for me to come out with Airtight’s Revenge because I was going through a lot of behind the scenes shit. As far as creativity and making the music, it doesn’t really take that long.