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How Do You Know When You're Ready To Date Again

I could start this piece by trying to paint a picture of the perfect Mona Lisa of a guy, but for time sake you know what, where and who he is. He’s everything you want and you just can’t get enough. If you could replay every moment in time you two were together over and over again, you would.

Get the picture?

You’ve both devoted some heavy time in getting to know each other – which might be new for you. I mean you’re not looking for your next ‘husband’ because you actually enjoy the time and space you’re in. However, for some reason you feel like things are just moving too fast and you’re just not ready.

We’ve all envisioned our life’s journey to be full of life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness, but what actually happens to us when these carefree destinations are heading in opposite directions.

No matter what you do in life, once you’ve committed to making yourself better personally then you extremely increase your chances of being happy. Although I hate to use a cliché, being happy starts within. Once you’ve figured out what makes you happy and make the time for those activities, you’ll know where to place the efforts. Yes, this includes dating too.

There is a bold-thin line between casually dating and dating for commitment. Pending your goal, you have to decide which one works best for you. Engaging in committed relationships just to keep the other side of the bed warm is a beautiful blueprint for chaos and busted car windows. That’s not a good situation for anyone.

You both have to know what you’re walking into because relationships are made up of two people’s emotions, two people’s wants and two people’s needs. Trying to manage and get on the same page isn’t always simple. Either way, respect has to be given on both sides because if you’re at a point in your life where you selfishly indulged in your own well being then dating is not the answer.

When to date is always a self-reflection on how much we love ourselves. Dating is an integrity sport full of good and bad quarters, even with a little overtime. Not only do you have to be properly equipped with the endurance and skill set, but you also have to be honest with your current situation and state of mind. Conditioning and constant improvement will allow you to overcome yourself by allowing someone to be an effective part of your life.

So quickly, we can shut ourselves down from thinking we aren’t ready for this commitment. Can I give what I’m wiling to receive? If our package, meaning self, doesn’t have the most luxurious perks and incentives attached, we often drive people away.

We all strive to have success in our personal relationships and those who reciprocate respect and concern for us, while staying progressive. Developing strong relationships in every facet of our lives are important. Once you realize if you’re ready to date, allow others the opportunity to develop interest. Don’t be afraid to get out and meet guys who fit into your life. Dating is a part of life which helps you mature, no matter what’s going on around you- but only if you’re dating him for the right reasons.

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Six years ago, Kelly Rowland released her fourth studio album titled Talk a Good Game. The project boasted hit singles like "Kisses Down Low" and the transparent "Dirty Laundry." Now, the Houston native is preparing to release a project that'll surely satisfy fans' patient earbuds.

In an interview with Billboard, Rowland shared her hopes for putting out a new body of work and the pressure that she's encountered since she's been in the studio. "This is by far the longest, most pressure-filled process ever, only because I know what it's supposed to be and I have been so hard on myself. I know it," she said. "And it's the first time I've said it out loud. I've been extremely hard on myself. But it's definitely coming, and I'm more so excited about this project than anything else."

The news follows the recent release of Rowland's "Kelly" track, which was met with critical acclaim in November 2018. In addition to preparing the release of new music, the "Motivation" singer discussed fans' wish for a Destiny's Child reunion. The rumors have been fueled by social media photographs of Rowland with either Beyonce or Michelle or all three, especially during Beyonce's past Coachella performance. But Rowland assures readers that it's not what they think.

"It's so funny. I guess every time people see us together, they just see music but I see sisterhood, and that's what we are and that's what me, her, Michelle [Williams] and Solange and I are. People see us all together, they immediately think music. I'm like, no. Just family." As Rowland previously mentioned Solange, she hopes to one day work with her again.

"I'm a huge fan," she said. "I love her writing and how detailed and particular she is. I always wanted to figure out how the heck she has so many different layers of harmonies when she is constructing these vocals, and it's so complex but simple. It's genius. It's the genius in her genius mind that she has in there." One of the last times the pair collaborated was on Rowland's "Simply Deep" track off her debut solo album of the same name. Solange also penned a few songs off the same project. Fast forward to 2016, and Rowland's vocals were featured on Solange's iconic A Seat at the Table.

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Teyana Taylor To Pay Homage To Ballroom Culture In "WTP" Video

Teyana Taylor aims to keep her hot streak of innovative videos coming thanks to this recent announcement. Taking to Instagram on Wednesday (Jan. 9), the "Gonna Love Me" singer will show adoration to ballroom culture in the visual for "WTP."

Directed by Gregory "Beef" Jones, The Aunties Inc., and Taylor herself, the Harlemite takes viewers on her journey to the expression-filled space where she hopes to rack up 10s across the board from a group of judges. The premise of the video also seems to follow a mockumentary format airing on a fictional network named FEMTV. Alongside Taylor, other men and women get ready to display their talents and confidence on the ballroom floor.

"WTP" is featured on the mother-of-one's sophomore album, K.T.S.E., which was released in June 2018. While the rollout's controversy didn't entirely muddle the excitement behind the project's debut, Taylor said she was sold on the idea that her album would be treated as the biggest out of G.O.O.D. Music's string of releases last year.

"I didn't know ahead of time that there wouldn't be any singles or visuals. But I knew that it was going to be the five-album thing," she said during a HOT 97 interview. "[Kanye] wanted [my album] to be last, he wanted mine to be the biggest. That's the way they sauced it up. I was sold."

The video will debut on Jan. 19. Check out the teaser below.


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👀 1.19.19 👀 #WTP Directed by @teyanataylor & @ogbeefjones @theauntiesinc 🙏🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾 The wait is ALMOST over. 😏 @museumofsex

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Trina Braxton’s Ex-Husband, Gabe Solis, Dies After Battle With Cancer

Gabe Solis, the ex-husband of Trina Braxton, lost his battle with cancer, Thursday (Dec. 20),  TMZ reports. He was 43.

Solis passed away at his home in Texas, surrounded by friends and family, according to the outlet. No official details have been released about his passing.

Solis had reportedly been keeping his cancer battle private. His death came as a shock to his loved ones. On Friday (Dec. 21), Braxton seemingly mourned the loss of her ex-husband with a cryptic Instagram meme reading, “I need a hug..E bottle of wine.”

The former couple tied the knot in 2003, and appeared together on previous seasons of WEtv’s Braxton Family Values. Despite finalizing their divorce in 2015, Braxton and Solis confronted lingering issues from their marriage during an episode of Iyanla: Fix My Life, earlier in the year.

Braxton has since moved on to a new relationship, but remained friends with Solis.


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