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Can You Be A Good Father Without Paying Child Support?

There’s an unhealthy obsession that the public has with celebrity child support cases. A judge rules that Nas has to pay $5,000 per month in child support (and $20,000 in spousal support). The crowd cheers. 50 Cent’s baby mama gets a reduction in child support to $6,700 per month. The crowd boos. Diddy’s child support payments are concealed, but word on the street is that Misa, one of his children’s mothers, can pay him what he pays her for their son. The crowd scratches their heads in disbelief.

While it’s extremely important that fathers share financial responsibility in providing for their children, there’s more to fatherhood than a monthly money transfer, even if you’re a celebrity. Fatherhood requires participation in childrearing, spending quality time with your children, and supporting each child in their interests. The core of being a good father lies in these responsibilities, not simply making monthly payments.

It may not be as salacious, but it’s interesting that the public shows a lack of concern for the non-financial matters of celebrity fatherhood. If 50 Cent, Diddy, or Nas aren’t in court battling out finances with their children’s mothers, we rarely hear about their roles as fathers and how else they’re contributing to their children’s lives. While we don’t know the details of each parent-child relationship or if there is anything positive for the press to cover, in general, we could use more testimonies of good fathers in pop culture.

Imagine the impact of more stories featuring great celebrity dads spending time with their children. Imagine the inspiration that these stories would provide ordinary dads trying to figure out their roles as fathers. Fatherhood isn’t always innate, and some men need more motivation than others. Role modeling is powerful, and giving men famous references for how to show their children love and affection would do kids more good.

Think Bill Cosby, and how he reaffirmed black fatherhood in pop culture spaces. Think Will Smith and how he’s publicly spoken about the importance of fatherhood and his role in his children’s lives. Think Barack Obama, and how he’s even written a book dedicated to his daughters, while showing them so much love and affection as he simultaneously performs his duty as President of the United States.

Do all of these men financially provide for their children? Absolutely. And while they’re all married, Will Smith also has another child apart from his wife, for whom he also shows public affection and takes joy in his role as a father. Do we hear about his child support payments? Hardly. Simply put, that’s not why he’s a great father. These men are amazing dads because they’re active participants in their children’s lives. That should be the conversation and story that we align with celebrity fatherhood.

Has our obsession with celebrity child support cases gone too far? How do you measure good fatherhood? Is it by monthly payments? Or quality time? Weigh in.

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Six years ago, Kelly Rowland released her fourth studio album titled Talk a Good Game. The project boasted hit singles like "Kisses Down Low" and the transparent "Dirty Laundry." Now, the Houston native is preparing to release a project that'll surely satisfy fans' patient earbuds.

In an interview with Billboard, Rowland shared her hopes for putting out a new body of work and the pressure that she's encountered since she's been in the studio. "This is by far the longest, most pressure-filled process ever, only because I know what it's supposed to be and I have been so hard on myself. I know it," she said. "And it's the first time I've said it out loud. I've been extremely hard on myself. But it's definitely coming, and I'm more so excited about this project than anything else."

The news follows the recent release of Rowland's "Kelly" track, which was met with critical acclaim in November 2018. In addition to preparing the release of new music, the "Motivation" singer discussed fans' wish for a Destiny's Child reunion. The rumors have been fueled by social media photographs of Rowland with either Beyonce or Michelle or all three, especially during Beyonce's past Coachella performance. But Rowland assures readers that it's not what they think.

"It's so funny. I guess every time people see us together, they just see music but I see sisterhood, and that's what we are and that's what me, her, Michelle [Williams] and Solange and I are. People see us all together, they immediately think music. I'm like, no. Just family." As Rowland previously mentioned Solange, she hopes to one day work with her again.

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Teyana Taylor aims to keep her hot streak of innovative videos coming thanks to this recent announcement. Taking to Instagram on Wednesday (Jan. 9), the "Gonna Love Me" singer will show adoration to ballroom culture in the visual for "WTP."

Directed by Gregory "Beef" Jones, The Aunties Inc., and Taylor herself, the Harlemite takes viewers on her journey to the expression-filled space where she hopes to rack up 10s across the board from a group of judges. The premise of the video also seems to follow a mockumentary format airing on a fictional network named FEMTV. Alongside Taylor, other men and women get ready to display their talents and confidence on the ballroom floor.

"WTP" is featured on the mother-of-one's sophomore album, K.T.S.E., which was released in June 2018. While the rollout's controversy didn't entirely muddle the excitement behind the project's debut, Taylor said she was sold on the idea that her album would be treated as the biggest out of G.O.O.D. Music's string of releases last year.

"I didn't know ahead of time that there wouldn't be any singles or visuals. But I knew that it was going to be the five-album thing," she said during a HOT 97 interview. "[Kanye] wanted [my album] to be last, he wanted mine to be the biggest. That's the way they sauced it up. I was sold."

The video will debut on Jan. 19. Check out the teaser below.


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Gabe Solis, the ex-husband of Trina Braxton, lost his battle with cancer, Thursday (Dec. 20),  TMZ reports. He was 43.

Solis passed away at his home in Texas, surrounded by friends and family, according to the outlet. No official details have been released about his passing.

Solis had reportedly been keeping his cancer battle private. His death came as a shock to his loved ones. On Friday (Dec. 21), Braxton seemingly mourned the loss of her ex-husband with a cryptic Instagram meme reading, “I need a hug..E bottle of wine.”

The former couple tied the knot in 2003, and appeared together on previous seasons of WEtv’s Braxton Family Values. Despite finalizing their divorce in 2015, Braxton and Solis confronted lingering issues from their marriage during an episode of Iyanla: Fix My Life, earlier in the year.

Braxton has since moved on to a new relationship, but remained friends with Solis.


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