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Lest We Forget: Weddings Are Not Just About the Bride

With each day, I hear of another engagement or another to-be-bride finalizing her wedding plans. For most women, it is a day that we dream of from adolescence: picking out the dress designer, location, bridesmaids, first dance song and more. Little girls are conditioned into loving the idea of weddings and that dream carries on into adulthood, when the fantasy turns into reality.

I remember seeing the first Sex and the City film in which Carrie gets left at the altar after Big's overwhelming apprehension and fear. As I watched I thought, "How could he do that? He got her all the way there to leave her? What a punk", among other not so kind words. Their saga was ten years in the making and though made for television, their story mimicked many of the couples I knew in real life who had struggled and made-up numerous times to eventually see themselves facing their day of matrimony. Not to be forgotten is the groom's aforementioned apprehension, which he voiced numerous times to let his fiancée know that he was not into the whole pomp and circumstance that "The Last Single Lady" was turning his wedding into. At the time, I thought him to be ridiculous: isn't the wedding all about the bride and what she has envisioned forever? Why wouldn't a man concede to all the wishes his wife has? Clearly, she wouldn't do anything too outrageous without his approval and knowledge right?

I couldn't help but think of this whole idea again upon seeing Kim Kardashian's People cover. Word of her raking in $17.9 mil for media rights from her wedding was astonishing, but I mean, can you knock her hustle? Since the start of her family's reality show, she has expressed the desire to get married and have a family, even showing jealousy at the idea that little sister, Khloe, was tying the knot before she was. We all knew that when it came time, it would be a grandiose affair. She does nothing small and we all know that her business-savvy mother and manager would not let the wedding happen unless it was larger than life. She made bank off of her dream, which is what most would call success.

What struck me as odd about the cover was the absence of something important. Or should I say someone. Nowhere to be found was Kim's hubby, Kris Humphries. Ok, Kim is who we want to see and quite frankly, I could care less about the groom, but he is indeed the second half of the union. Regardless of my feelings about it, without him, indeed the wedding would not be possible. At all. So why wasn't his face shown alongside Kim's in an image that expressed their marital bliss? Is it because Kim is the star, or that it was her day and thus the groom was just an extraneous detail to be eliminated?

I, for one am very confused about it and it is an idea that speaks to my point: weddings are not just about the bride. Yes, we might have our dreams locked away to be fully realized and manifested when the right person comes along, but we cannot forget about the man who might have also had his own set of dreams for a day that is his, just as much as it is ours. It isn't just about making the bride happy or doing what she wants, but instead making the day memorable for both her and the groom. This is not to say that most women do not consult their fiancés before making wedding plans, but the emphasis sure is placed on us and what we want.

Kim Kardashian has already had her day and Carrie and Big managed to keep it small and make it work for the greater marital good, but we should all remember that when that special day comes to include the man and keep him just as involved as we would our parents, family, friends and even the wedding planner. It's a celebration for both parties and who knows? Your man might have dreams of his own.

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Kelly Rowland Says Her Highly-Anticipated Project Is "Definitely Coming"

Six years ago, Kelly Rowland released her fourth studio album titled Talk a Good Game. The project boasted hit singles like "Kisses Down Low" and the transparent "Dirty Laundry." Now, the Houston native is preparing to release a project that'll surely satisfy fans' patient earbuds.

In an interview with Billboard, Rowland shared her hopes for putting out a new body of work and the pressure that she's encountered since she's been in the studio. "This is by far the longest, most pressure-filled process ever, only because I know what it's supposed to be and I have been so hard on myself. I know it," she said. "And it's the first time I've said it out loud. I've been extremely hard on myself. But it's definitely coming, and I'm more so excited about this project than anything else."

The news follows the recent release of Rowland's "Kelly" track, which was met with critical acclaim in November 2018. In addition to preparing the release of new music, the "Motivation" singer discussed fans' wish for a Destiny's Child reunion. The rumors have been fueled by social media photographs of Rowland with either Beyonce or Michelle or all three, especially during Beyonce's past Coachella performance. But Rowland assures readers that it's not what they think.

"It's so funny. I guess every time people see us together, they just see music but I see sisterhood, and that's what we are and that's what me, her, Michelle [Williams] and Solange and I are. People see us all together, they immediately think music. I'm like, no. Just family." As Rowland previously mentioned Solange, she hopes to one day work with her again.

"I'm a huge fan," she said. "I love her writing and how detailed and particular she is. I always wanted to figure out how the heck she has so many different layers of harmonies when she is constructing these vocals, and it's so complex but simple. It's genius. It's the genius in her genius mind that she has in there." One of the last times the pair collaborated was on Rowland's "Simply Deep" track off her debut solo album of the same name. Solange also penned a few songs off the same project. Fast forward to 2016, and Rowland's vocals were featured on Solange's iconic A Seat at the Table.

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Teyana Taylor To Pay Homage To Ballroom Culture In "WTP" Video

Teyana Taylor aims to keep her hot streak of innovative videos coming thanks to this recent announcement. Taking to Instagram on Wednesday (Jan. 9), the "Gonna Love Me" singer will show adoration to ballroom culture in the visual for "WTP."

Directed by Gregory "Beef" Jones, The Aunties Inc., and Taylor herself, the Harlemite takes viewers on her journey to the expression-filled space where she hopes to rack up 10s across the board from a group of judges. The premise of the video also seems to follow a mockumentary format airing on a fictional network named FEMTV. Alongside Taylor, other men and women get ready to display their talents and confidence on the ballroom floor.

"WTP" is featured on the mother-of-one's sophomore album, K.T.S.E., which was released in June 2018. While the rollout's controversy didn't entirely muddle the excitement behind the project's debut, Taylor said she was sold on the idea that her album would be treated as the biggest out of G.O.O.D. Music's string of releases last year.

"I didn't know ahead of time that there wouldn't be any singles or visuals. But I knew that it was going to be the five-album thing," she said during a HOT 97 interview. "[Kanye] wanted [my album] to be last, he wanted mine to be the biggest. That's the way they sauced it up. I was sold."

The video will debut on Jan. 19. Check out the teaser below.

 

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👀 1.19.19 👀 #WTP Directed by @teyanataylor & @ogbeefjones @theauntiesinc 🙏🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾 The wait is ALMOST over. 😏 @museumofsex

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Trina Braxton’s Ex-Husband, Gabe Solis, Dies After Battle With Cancer

Gabe Solis, the ex-husband of Trina Braxton, lost his battle with cancer, Thursday (Dec. 20),  TMZ reports. He was 43.

Solis passed away at his home in Texas, surrounded by friends and family, according to the outlet. No official details have been released about his passing.

Solis had reportedly been keeping his cancer battle private. His death came as a shock to his loved ones. On Friday (Dec. 21), Braxton seemingly mourned the loss of her ex-husband with a cryptic Instagram meme reading, “I need a hug..E bottle of wine.”

The former couple tied the knot in 2003, and appeared together on previous seasons of WEtv’s Braxton Family Values. Despite finalizing their divorce in 2015, Braxton and Solis confronted lingering issues from their marriage during an episode of Iyanla: Fix My Life, earlier in the year.

Braxton has since moved on to a new relationship, but remained friends with Solis.

 

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