Could You Be In A Celibate Relationship?


Recently, actress Tamera Mowry-Housley sat down for a candid interview where she revealed that her and her new hubby Adam Housley waited three years before having sex and then decided to refrain from sex again before their wedding earlier this year.

According to Tamera:

“I’m being very honest. We actually didn’t wait before we got married to be intimate…but we did wait 3 years. (The two have been together for 6 years). I wanted to do what felt right for me.  I became re-virginized. It’s something that just felt right for me. It was just a personal choice.  And even after being intimate, we decided as a couple to be celibate until the wedding.”

Now this isn’t the first time I’ve heard of a couple deciding not to have sex as they prepare for their wedding, and it’s definitely not the first time I’ve heard of a couple waiting a while before they have sex for the first time. But three years? I totally respect Tamera and Adam’s decision to wait for the right time to have sex. I personally have waited a year and a half in one relationship, but three? I’m not sure I could do it. Not because I’m some freak horndog who needs to get it in all the time, but just because the temptation would probably be too great. Now three years without being in a relationship? I can do that standing on my head.

However, I guess that’s kind of the point. Celibacy is about more than just giving up sex. It’s about strength and resisting the natural temptations that can so easily lead us all down the wrong path. It’s about going through the fire together and coming out on the other side as a stronger unit. Relationships that are supposed to stand the test of time have ended over lack of sex.  Happy homes have been destroyed by the betrayal of affairs, and many of us have thrown potential life partners to the wayside because the sex was right.  But if sex is that big of a deal breaker, and you could hold out three years before taking that intimate step, isn’t it possible that your relationship could withstand anything?  Isn’t that one less obstacle to come between you two, one less worry for those times when the sex isn’t as hot as it used to be?  Maybe Tamera, Adam and all the other celibate couples out there are on to something.  On to something that could help us take control of our lives and create the strong and healthy relationships we’re all searching for.

Could you be in a celibate relationship? Have you ever been celibate? If so, how did it affect your relationship?