I'm Just Bitter: 5 Ways To Get Over Bitterness
Are you that woman? You know, the woman that thinks ‘all men are dogs,’ walks around angry and skeptical of every man because of what the last man did, and the first one to jump up and say ‘I told you so’ if a friend’s relationship goes south? You know who we’re talking about…the bitter woman. The woman so consumed by the hurt of the past that she’s blocking the happiness for her future. Bad relationships happen to the best of us, they are an unfortunate part of life, but letting the experience take over your life to the point where you’re just bitter and angry at all men is simply not healthy. Here are 5 ways to shed the bitterness of yesterday and embrace the journey towards the happiness and love that awaits you.
Sometimes when we go through nasty relationships we’re quick to blame the other person for the end of the ‘happy times.’ However a relationship takes two to start and two to end. Sure the man in your life at the time might have been a royal screw up, but what’s your ownership in the situation? Did you ignore some glaring red flags? Were you too clingy? Was he truly Mr. Right, or more like Mr. Right Now and you settled for it? Take some time to take a hard look at your behavior and actions in all your past relationships and make it a point to learn from your mistakes.
Take A Dating Hiatus
Being bitter doesn’t mean you don’t date, it just means that you date while bitter, which is why your relationships continuously fail. Instead of going out on dates and inflicting your bitterness on your potential suitor, try taking a dating hiatus. While on hiatus focus on yourself and the things that make you happy, take time out to reevaluate what matters most to you personally and romantically. There’s no limit on how long your hiatus has to be, stay out of the game as long as it will take for you to rejuvenate and change your outlook on men and dating.
Let It Out
Many times when relationships end they end without any real closure, so instead of finding a way to let the built up emotions out, we hold them inside until they eat us alive. Take a moment to write out your hurt and frustrations, be brutally honest with your feelings and say all the things that you’ve been holding in. Writing down the hurt from the past allows you to release it from your mind and heart. When you’re done rip it up, burn it or if you must, mail it to the person who hurt you, and once you do…
Let It Go
Let it go! Put that baggage outside of the door, next to the trash and leave it there. Not saying you should forget what has happened before, the experience is definitely a learning tool, but stop carrying it around with you everywhere. It’s heavy, it’s weighing you down and it’s keeping you from living the life ahead of you to the fullest. The past hurt, but you can’t live for yesterday, only today. Start over with a clean slate…let go and let love!!
Stop Being Bitter!
Look, let’s be real here, happiness is a choice. No one can make you sad, angry crazy or bitter unless you choose to let them have that power and control over your life. If you’re still walking around angry and bitter 3 years after you’ve broken up with your ex, it’s because you’re choosing to still be angry and bitter. Don’t let one person have that much control over you, take your life back. If you want to be happy, be happy…you deserve it!