Vixen’s Guide to Dating in the Digital Age


3) Don’t tell him you blog: If you have a blog, especially a personal one, it’s not a good idea to share your digital space with a potential. Why? It’s your room to speak freely about whatever and whomever (which may include them) that you want. You can’t do that if you know your potential boo is lurking on your blog trying to interpret every word you say.

4) Don’t rely on texting, tweeting, or Facebook: If the only way you talk to your boo is by texting or tweeting him, you’re not in a real relationship. Period. While there’s nothing wrong with sending quick hellos and flirty messages via text, at the end of the day, you need to talk to each other to make a relationship work. Communication is key. And having conversations digitally is one way to become disconnected from your partner and leave the door open for someone else to fill in the gaps.

5) Keep it light and don’t over think it: Sometimes we get so caught up in what could happen, what might happen, if we’d “work” as a couple that sometimes you forget it’s really just dinner, or a walk in the park, or a trip to the museum. It’s easy to get all up in your feelings–especially in the beginning–but pump your breaks and keep it light. Even if you’re deep, deep into liking someone, don’t limit your options to just that person until you both have a) discussed exclusivity, and b) have BOTH agreed to be each other’s steady.

Dating can be tough, but the beauty of being single is having the freedom to see whomever you want, do whatever you want (responsibly), and enjoy yourself while you do it. Live it up, because if you’re enjoying your life, you’re more inclined to attract someone who enjoys theirs as well.

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