3 Signs He IS Just That Into You
--There have been a million articles telling women what they should and shouldn’t be doing if they’re looking to get a man. I understand. There are all things that we could do better, but there’s also a burden of proof (of interest) that falls on the other person. When it comes to developing relationships, there’s no time that it doesn’t take two people. So it’s fair to spend some time thinking about the other side and not just yourself.
I got a question from a reader a few days asking how she could tell if the guy she was interested in was interested in her. I gave pause before realizing that this is probably one of the most unnecessarily popular questions on earth. My immediate answer was “He will show you,” but that wasn’t clear enough. And since I’m guessing this comes up a lot, it led me to the post you’re reading today.
Sometimes we men folk have a way of not being completely clear about our intentions. Other times we make what we want as obvious as a muffin top in ill-fitting jeans. Don’t spend too much time thinking about that.
But for whatever reason, women miss the signs. It happens. You can’t know everything. But you should know if you’re wasting your time. Life is too short to be living in uncertainty.
If the man you’re talking to isn’t doing at least two out of these three things, then cut your losses and win back your time. I say two out of three because the last one may take some time to get to.
I’ll be the first to tell you that you can’t change a man. If he is gonna make adjustments when it comes to you, it has to be because he wants to — not just because you need him too. He has to feel that you’re worth it. Often times we don’t do a good enough job conveying that. Or…we’re just plain lazy…because you allow us to be.
You’re probably tired of meeting men, giving them your number, and then they choose to text you instead of call. You’re tired of having to virtually beg him to pick up the phone because he hates it when all you want to do is hear his voice and smile. I won’t front. I hate the phone too. But if a woman I’m interested in tells me that she needs me to call rather than just texting or gchatting my affinity for her, I’m going to do it. There should be no difference with the man that claims to be interested in you.
If you need him to stop being late to pick you up — even though you probably weren’t ready — then he will step it up and get to your door 10 minutes early. If you feel strongly about him not opening the car door for you, then he should adjust and make sure it becomes second nature. It may take some time, but he should get there. These are basic examples, but the idea behind them can be applied to anything else, within reason of course. If you expect him to serenade you while you stand on the balcony and have candlelight dinners every week at Chez Josephine, you’re waiting for a knight that will never make it across the moat.
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