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Vixen Chat: 'Tough Love Miami's' Claudia Lopez Talks Top 5 Dating Rules + Balance

of Tough Love Miami is no stranger to the glitz and glam of a television star. A Spanish network soap opera actress and TV host, the Colombian born Lopez was living the vida loca in Miami until she decided to put down the scripts to discover her love style, love hardships, and ultimately, love for herself. Unlike soap operas, there are no on-screen touch-ups or do-overs, and Claudia wouldn’t have it any other way. Holding nothing back, the buxom beauty discusses separating from her daughter's father, her first date rules and her own mini Tough Love boot camp. – Mireya Fernandez (@MsMFer)

VIBE VIXEN: What made you interested in being on a show like Tough Love Miami?
CLAUDIA LOPEZ: Well, I work on television. I’m an actress, a TV host and a producer for Spanish networks, so I have been too busy to even think about dating or being in a relationship. But of course it’s always been my dream to transcend into the English market. An agent I know had approached me about the show, and I immediately said, no, then a casting director approached me via Facebook and told me more about the show. I was very hesitant, then I started to really think about it. I started evaluating my life, and I knew I had my issues. [Work] just became like a trend, from one shoot to the next set to the next shoot, so I figured it was the best opportunity to work and work on myself. I could be on television in the American industry and figure out what was going on with my love issues at the same time.

Would you say the show taught you the balance between work and a love life?
I can’t begin to describe all the ways it helped. I would have to live a hundred lifetimes to completely heal from everything that the show really helped me open my eyes to. I became very close with JoAnn [Ward]. She is a sweetheart. The entire production of the show was just so real and I just can’t emphasize that enough. It was a breath of fresh air. These were real scenarios and people really wanted to help us. I’m not saying I’m the relationship expert now, but I did learn a lot.

What have you been working on since the show?
I usually tend to sabotage relationships. I’m either scared to get hurt, or I pick the wrong guy. I set myself up, and I know these men are going to mess up. It’s the same story, and once again, I would bury myself in work. I’m now trying to find the right kind of guy and be open to a healthy relationship. Something to look forward to.

What is the most difficult moment in your love history to date?
It’s so hard to think of just one. I think that all breakups are difficult, especially when you break up with someone who is a good catch. That’s the hardest. You can’t actually force yourself to be in love. You cannot force yourself to be with somebody just because they are a good person. I was in a relationship [with] my daughter’s father. He was a good man, very decent, hard worker, loyal and those qualities should have been enough, but the love never grew from there. I was with him when I was really young and we grew apart. I looked for reasons to stay, just like a lot of women do. That was the hardest moment.

What are your dating 101 tips for your daughter?
What’s funny is that even though she is not of the dating age, I have been kind of molding her. They are like my own little Tough Love boot camp lessons. Besides the obvious, which are to have morals, guys like you to be a lady. I think that men, at the end of the day, are hunters. They like the chase, so if a woman is just going to serve them everything on a platter and give it to them all at once, he won’t want to chase her. I have spoken to so many of my guy friends, and they all agree with me. Of course, we aren’t talking make the guy wait for a whole year, but take it easy. I am really against sex on the first date or even a really intense kiss. This is what sets up the potential to go on a second date, so control yourself.

Okay, so what would be your top five first date rules?
First Rule: Don’t let it get physical at all. I know that at times we have chemistry with our date, but under no circumstance do you let it get physical. Second Rule: Keep it simple. You don’t have to share your whole life story, especially about your ex. They don’t need to know that on a first date. It’s pretty much a conversation about what do I do, what are my aspirations, just very simple nothing too deep. Third Rule: Be careful what you wear. This is the main one for me because I’m a voluptuous woman. I might be sending the wrong signals in the same dress as someone who is thin. It's okay to be sexy, but don’t put it all out there. Forth Rule: Be a good listener. A lot of times, we are so eager to talk and share, we forget to listen. Fifth Rule: Be open-minded. Girls have a lot of superficial deal breakers. 'I want a guy who is 6’5 who makes $200,000, or I can’t date him because his eyes are slanted this way.' Some girls are too superficial. Maybe he is only 5’8'', but are you really going to let a few inches stop you from being happy? So that is absolutely the fifth and most important rule! Be open-minded.

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In a new interview with Essence, actress Vivica A. Fox discussed how she initially turned down her role in Two Can Play That Game based on the script. The established entertainer said it's her mission to ensure that black people are positively portrayed onscreen, and noticed the aforementioned film's prose didn't live up to those standards.

"I think the reason why—no I know the reason why—I've been doing this for such a long time is that I fight," Fox said. "When we did Two Can Play That Game, I fought for the way we talked, walked, the way we loved each other." The Set It Off actress continued to state that she consistently declined Two Can Play That Game before signing on to play the lead role. "Because the script, when I first got it, I turned it down three times because it just wasn't a good representation of African-Americans, so I fought them on everything," she noted. "I want to make sure that the images of African-Americans are as positive and as true as they can possibly be."

In 2001, the romantic comedy debuted to fanfare, boasting an all-star cast of Morris Chestnut, Mo'Nique, Anthony Anderson, Bobby Brown, Gabrielle Union, Wendy Raquel Robinson, and more. Directed by Mark Brown (Barbershop, Iverson, How To Be A Player), Fox plays a career driven person named Shante Smith who navigates a curveball when her boyfriend Keith Fenton (Chestnut) cheats on her with a co-worker.

After its release, Two Can Play That Game raked in over $22 million at the box office.

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BET To Unveil Edible Billboard For 'Being Mary Jane' Wedding Finale

As Being Mary Jane comes to an end, BET is willing to offer fans a taste of what's to come in the series finale.

The network has enlisted the help of Ayesha Curry, celebrity cook and cookbook author, to create an edible billboard that also doubles as a wedding cake. The sweet treat will commemorate Mary Jane's (played by Gabrielle Union) nuptials in the two-hour series finale.

On April 20 from 1:00 P.M. to 7:00 P.M. at Brooklyn's Atlantic Terminal in New York, fans will be presented with the edible billboard. At the intersection of Ashland Place and Hanson Place, the closer Being Mary Jane enthusiasts get to the billboard the quicker they'll notice that the four-tiered wedding cake is created from individual boxes, each containing a slice of Curry's prized wedding cake.

All fans have to do is pull a box from the billboard, snap a picture for the 'Gram, take a bite and enjoy. Although lovers of the show won't be able to celebrate with Mary Jane herself, biting into a slice of her wedding cake, for free, is the next best thing.

Don't forget to tune into the series finale of Being Mary Jane on Tues. (April 23) at 8/7 c.

Also, check out what's to come on the series of Being Mary Jane below.

Save the date! 👰🏾It'll be worth the wait. Join us for the series finale of #BeingMaryJane TUES APR 23 8/7c only on @BET! pic.twitter.com/jEwkbC71OW

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Ella Mai On The North Face's 'Explore Mode' Campaign, New Music And Living In The Moment

Ella Mai is in her own age of exploration. Her eponymous debut album scored her a platinum plaque with her breakout hit, "Boo'd Up" earning her a Grammy for Best R&B Song. But the accolades aren't driving her creative path. The arc in her compass is all about the places she's traveled, the people she's met and the lessons learned along the way.

"To be honest, personally, exploration is like growth. I feel like if you don't explore new things, whether it's going outside, meeting people or trying new food, you won't ever grow because you're just stuck in your little comfort zone which can be super scary to come out of," she tells VIBE at The North Face's Explore Mode event in New York on Monday (April 15). The singer is one of three women (including model-activist Gabrielle Richardson and chef Angela Dimayuga) who teamed up with the brand to share a message of enjoying the outside world without digital confinement and the global initiative to make Earth Day a national holiday.

The London native's urge to explore came in handy over the weekend when she performed in the brisk desert of Coachella. Inspired by artists like Rihanna and Ms. Lauryn Hill, Mai helped fans enjoy the hazy sunset as she performed hits like "Trip" and her latest No. 1 song, "Shot Clock."

"It's such a good feeling, especially when it comes to radio," she shared about her track reaching No. 1 on the airplay chart. "I wasn't even sure if people listened to the radio because people have so much access to streaming platforms, but obviously having all three of my singles from my debut album, go number one on urban radio is incredible."

That energy was brought to the Coachella stage with the festival being her biggest artistic exploration so far.

"My favorite part of the performance would have to be when I performed "Naked" and because it was dark, and I performed when the sun went down, I couldn't see how far the crowd actually went back. But during "Naked," it was such an intimate moment I asked everyone to put their lights up (phones) and when I saw how far it went back I was like, "Woah." That moment sealed it for me."

"Even there were two people in the audience, I still would've done my best," she added. "But just to see the crowd be so engaged, even if they didn't know the music, was a really good feeling. I had so much fun."

As the festival energy in Indio, Calif. continued to thrive, another rested on the streets of Los Angeles following the loss of Nipsey Hussle. With the singer having ties to those close to the rapper like DJ Mustard, she says the shift in the city was hard to ignore.

"As weird as it sounds, you felt it," she said. "Even in the weather, it was super hot and then everyone got the news and it started raining. Just a weird energy shift." As a new L.A. resident, the singer says Nipsey's influence cannot be denied.

"I feel like the energy shift went both ways; everyone was really sad, grieving and mourning but everyone feels more inspired by what he was doing that they want to go out and do something and change in their community. It's still a very touchy subject in L.A., especially the people that I'm around since they were very close to him. I think everyone is super inspired to do better and try to be more like him, which is great to see. YG's whole set at Coachella was dedicated to him, I know Khalid had a dedication to Mac Miller. Everyone is super aware of what Nipsey was trying to do and how he wanted to change the world."

Engaging in The North Face's mission to explore seemed to be in the cards for Mai. Like many of us, Mai was familiar with the brand's effective coolness factor. "I remember running home and telling my mom that I needed a Jester Backpack because my cousin had one as well, and it's similar to the other stories, I wanted to be like my older cousin (laughs) so my mom ended up getting me one." But there's also the incentive to showcase the importance of stepping away from the phone screens and into leafy green forests.

"I'm such a live-in-the-moment person," she says of her lack of identity on social media. While she might share a thought or two on social media, Mai is interested in appreciating the world around her. "I feel like everyone is so consumed about documenting the day, you don't really get to live the day. You just watch it back but I like to have the memories in my head. Of course, sometimes, I'll take out my phone but I try to live in the moment as much as possible."

Part of that mission is ensuring Earth Day is celebrated the right way. With the support of Mai, Richardson, and Dimayuga, The North Face officially launched a petition to make Earth Day a national holiday.

“The North Face is no stranger to exploration and this Earth Day we are proud to join our partners and fellow explorers in a global effort to make Earth Day a national holiday,” said Global General Manager of Lifestyle at The North Face, Tim Bantle. “We believe that when people take time to appreciate the Earth, they feel more connected to it and are more likely to protect it. Explore Mode urges us to unplug from our digital lives to connect in real life to the world, each other, and ourselves in the effort to move the world forward.”

Mai hasn't hit her all of her exploration goals just yet. "I really want to go to Indonesia or Bali," she said. "That's one of my Bucket List places I really, really, really wanna go." For her essentials, the singer knows she has to bring along a windbreaker set and of course, a jester backpack. "I think the backpack is the most important thing."

In addition to a few trips around the globe, one destination includes the studio for new music. While she hasn't had time to lock down a moment to record, the inspiration is sizzling.

"When I work in the studio, I like to be like there for a good amount of time," she explains. "I like to block off two to three weeks at a time, I don't like to go to different studios and different places, it's just a comfort thing but I'm very excited to get back cause I have a lot of talk about. I've seen so many different places and met so many new people and a lot that I didn't get to experience last year."

Learn more about The North Face's petition for Earth Day here.

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