Vixen Chat: 'Tough Love Miami's' Claudia Lopez Talks Top 5 Dating Rules + Balance
of Tough Love Miami is no stranger to the glitz and glam of a television star. A Spanish network soap opera actress and TV host, the Colombian born Lopez was living the vida loca in Miami until she decided to put down the scripts to discover her love style, love hardships, and ultimately, love for herself. Unlike soap operas, there are no on-screen touch-ups or do-overs, and Claudia wouldn’t have it any other way. Holding nothing back, the buxom beauty discusses separating from her daughter's father, her first date rules and her own mini Tough Love boot camp. – Mireya Fernandez (@MsMFer)
VIBE VIXEN: What made you interested in being on a show like Tough Love Miami?
CLAUDIA LOPEZ: Well, I work on television. I’m an actress, a TV host and a producer for Spanish networks, so I have been too busy to even think about dating or being in a relationship. But of course it’s always been my dream to transcend into the English market. An agent I know had approached me about the show, and I immediately said, no, then a casting director approached me via Facebook and told me more about the show. I was very hesitant, then I started to really think about it. I started evaluating my life, and I knew I had my issues. [Work] just became like a trend, from one shoot to the next set to the next shoot, so I figured it was the best opportunity to work and work on myself. I could be on television in the American industry and figure out what was going on with my love issues at the same time.
Would you say the show taught you the balance between work and a love life?
I can’t begin to describe all the ways it helped. I would have to live a hundred lifetimes to completely heal from everything that the show really helped me open my eyes to. I became very close with JoAnn [Ward]. She is a sweetheart. The entire production of the show was just so real and I just can’t emphasize that enough. It was a breath of fresh air. These were real scenarios and people really wanted to help us. I’m not saying I’m the relationship expert now, but I did learn a lot.
What have you been working on since the show?
I usually tend to sabotage relationships. I’m either scared to get hurt, or I pick the wrong guy. I set myself up, and I know these men are going to mess up. It’s the same story, and once again, I would bury myself in work. I’m now trying to find the right kind of guy and be open to a healthy relationship. Something to look forward to.
What is the most difficult moment in your love history to date?
It’s so hard to think of just one. I think that all breakups are difficult, especially when you break up with someone who is a good catch. That’s the hardest. You can’t actually force yourself to be in love. You cannot force yourself to be with somebody just because they are a good person. I was in a relationship [with] my daughter’s father. He was a good man, very decent, hard worker, loyal and those qualities should have been enough, but the love never grew from there. I was with him when I was really young and we grew apart. I looked for reasons to stay, just like a lot of women do. That was the hardest moment.
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What are your dating 101 tips for your daughter?
What’s funny is that even though she is not of the dating age, I have been kind of molding her. They are like my own little Tough Love boot camp lessons. Besides the obvious, which are to have morals, guys like you to be a lady. I think that men, at the end of the day, are hunters. They like the chase, so if a woman is just going to serve them everything on a platter and give it to them all at once, he won’t want to chase her. I have spoken to so many of my guy friends, and they all agree with me. Of course, we aren’t talking make the guy wait for a whole year, but take it easy. I am really against sex on the first date or even a really intense kiss. This is what sets up the potential to go on a second date, so control yourself.
Okay, so what would be your top five first date rules?
First Rule: Don’t let it get physical at all. I know that at times we have chemistry with our date, but under no circumstance do you let it get physical. Second Rule: Keep it simple. You don’t have to share your whole life story, especially about your ex. They don’t need to know that on a first date. It’s pretty much a conversation about what do I do, what are my aspirations, just very simple nothing too deep. Third Rule: Be careful what you wear. This is the main one for me because I’m a voluptuous woman. I might be sending the wrong signals in the same dress as someone who is thin. It's okay to be sexy, but don’t put it all out there. Forth Rule: Be a good listener. A lot of times, we are so eager to talk and share, we forget to listen. Fifth Rule: Be open-minded. Girls have a lot of superficial deal breakers. 'I want a guy who is 6’5 who makes $200,000, or I can’t date him because his eyes are slanted this way.' Some girls are too superficial. Maybe he is only 5’8'', but are you really going to let a few inches stop you from being happy? So that is absolutely the fifth and most important rule! Be open-minded.