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We Don’t Believe You Shaq: Men Can’t Cheat or Lie Respectfully

How many times have you wanted your man to just tell the truth when you know he’s lying. Lying is so fundamental to most men’s personalities that it has become a virtue. Begrudgingly, we’ll follow “good” liars into situations that we know don’t feel right, but he knows that we most of the time we’re addicted to some of the perks that come from being with him, making his lies seem like his way of showing me he’s protecting from something I’m not ready to face.

Recently, former Los Angeles Lakers center Shaquille O’Neal leaked excerpts from his “highly-anticipated” memoir, “Shaq Uncut: My Story,” and judging from the snippets, Shaq wants people to get to know the man, not the myth.

After talking about his then feud with Kobe, the seven-footer goes on about his on-and-off love affair on with his now ex-wife Shaunie Nelson. Shaq admits that his infidelity problems led to a rift between him and Shaunie, who has three children by the future hall-of-famer:

"At one time my ex-wife Shaunie and I were happy, but I admit it--I was a guy. I was a guy with too many options. Choosing to be with some of those women, well, that's on me. In my mind, I never did it disrespectfully, but obviously I shouldn't have done it all."

Really!?! You didn’t do it disrespectfully? How does one cheat respectably? Does that mean he places a tracking device in my phone so he can steer clear of me while he’s with his side-piece? Or, maybe, he doesn’t stalk a chick until she needs an order of protection to keep him away from her apartment?

But we can’t make Shaq the face for sorry-ass-excuses-men-tell-to-rationalize-lying-to-everyone-including-themselves because, keep it way real, he’s part of a larger isolated mass of men, lumbering through the American streets looking for something -- anything -- that can make him feel alive.

Seriously, how do we explain a man who looks for love outside himself or his family, creating a whole different life with another partner based solely on his illusions of who he “really” is, not any truth. These illusions eventually hurt everyone involved mainly because he has told his main lady half-truths and his side-piece full-blown truths. But hey, he’ll need someone to vouch for his character after the main lady finally gets sick of his lies and leaves. What part of the game is this?

The most depressing aspect of men’s lying or cheating ways is the fact that they have a built-in excuse for their lack of integrity: I’m a man. Case in point, Look at what Shaq said about what he learned from being a cheater:

"You know as well as I do relationships are about maintaining... It wasn't the big stuff, it was the small stuff, and that's my fault. I had things to do. I was trying to win, trying to make some money. I admit I wasn't the best partner. I just didn't know how. I'm learning now."

He totally excuses himself right after he admits fault by saying, “I had things to do.” The things you had to do were the little things you say you missed. It’s sad that now that he is retired he feels like he has the time take care of the little, but not with Shaunie -- but Hoops from Flava of Love!? I’m not hating on Hoops, (girl, get where you can) but if Shaq was really all broken up about his divorce, don’t you think he could try to patch up his relationship with the mother of kids, romantically.

This situation screams secrecy and more lies! Maybe that’s why Shaq’s lawyer sent VH1, preventing his ex-wife from discussing their relationship on "Basketball Wives." Why do that Shaq?

All I’m saying is that we give men way too much credit when they admit fault and too little attention to their pathologies. Little boys grow up learning how to be men from men who live without integrity, creating adolescents and young adults who can’t see women as equals, deserving of respect. What kind of example is that?

The time is over for grown men who refuse to grow up and take responsibility for their actions beyond what they say. It’s time for men to stop lying to themselves -- you know Shaq, the small things -- and step up handle their life not like a business but like an organic human being.

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Lotions, creams, and salves—oh my! With cannabidiol (CBD) popping up in just about every product you can imagine, the cannabis-infused beauty industry is clearly on the come-up. In fact, analysts predict that the “wellness” movement—as well as the legalization of Mary Jane across the world—will help rake in $25 billion globally in the next 10 years, according to Business Insider. That’s 15 percent of the $167 billion skincare market.

And what better way to up the ante on one’s wellness routine than with all-natural CBD? Just ask Dr. Lana Butner, naturopathic doctor and acupuncturist at NYC’s Modrn Sanctuary, who incorporates CBD in her treatments.

“CBD is a fantastic addition to acupuncture sessions for both its relaxation and anti-inflammatory, pain-relieving effects,” Butner shares with Vixen. “The calming effects of CBD allows for patients to deeply relax into the treatment and really tap into the parasympathetic nervous system, which is responsible for rest, digestion and muscle repair/regeneration.”

She adds that CBD’s pain-relieving effects are “far-reaching,” from muscular and joint pains to migraines and arthritis—and even IBS and indigestion.

The magic lies in CBD’s ability to impact endocannabinoid receptor activity in our bodies. Without getting too wordy, our bodies come equipped with a system called the endocannabinoid system (ECS), which is the HBIC over our sleep, appetite, pain and immune system response. Also known as cannabidiol, CBD teams up with this system to help reduce inflammation and interact with neurotransmitters. According to Healthline, CBD has also been scientifically shown to impact the brain’s receptors for serotonin, the neurotransmitter responsible for regulating our mood and social behavior.

All that said, it’s important to note that not all CBD products are created equal. Many brands cashing in on the green beauty wave use hemp seed oil, sometimes referred to as cannabis sativa seed oil, in place of CBD... which doesn’t make them any less great! Hemp seed oil is actually high in antioxidants, amino acids, and omega-3 and -6 fatty acids—all of which are thebomb.com for your skin.

“It’s generally viewed as a superfood and is great for adding nutritional value to your diet,” Ashley Lewis, co-founder of Fleur Marché, told Well and Good last month. “In terms of skin care, it’s known as a powerful moisturizer and skin softener that doesn’t clog pores or contribute to oily skin.”

However, when companies start marketing CBD and hemp oil as one-in-the-same, that’s when things get a bit tricky.

“The biggest issue is that hemp seed oil and CBD are two totally different compounds that come from different parts of the hemp plant, have different makeups, and different benefits,” Lewis added. “Marketing them as the same thing just isn’t accurate and does a disservice to consumers who are expecting certain benefits that they won’t get from hemp seed oil and who are often paying more for what they think is CBD.”

So if you’re looking to benefit from the perks specifically attributed to CBD, make sure you’re reading labels before buying, and don’t be afraid to ask questions. Hell, ask for a product’s test results, while you’re at it. It never hurts to be sure.

Now that we’ve got that out of the way, are you ready to see what all the hype is about? For this 4/20, we rounded up a few CBD (and hemp!)-infused products to help give your self-care routine a bit of a boost. Looks like your holiday just got that much kushier. You’re welcome!

Note: Data and regulations surrounding CBD and its use are still in development. That said, please don’t take anything written in this post as medical or legal advice, and definitely double check the laws in your state. Also, please do your body a favor and hit up your doctor before trying any new supplements. We’re just tryna look out for you. Okay? Okay. Read on.

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"I think the reason why—no I know the reason why—I've been doing this for such a long time is that I fight," Fox said. "When we did Two Can Play That Game, I fought for the way we talked, walked, the way we loved each other." The Set It Off actress continued to state that she consistently declined Two Can Play That Game before signing on to play the lead role. "Because the script, when I first got it, I turned it down three times because it just wasn't a good representation of African-Americans, so I fought them on everything," she noted. "I want to make sure that the images of African-Americans are as positive and as true as they can possibly be."

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BET To Unveil Edible Billboard For 'Being Mary Jane' Wedding Finale

As Being Mary Jane comes to an end, BET is willing to offer fans a taste of what's to come in the series finale.

The network has enlisted the help of Ayesha Curry, celebrity cook and cookbook author, to create an edible billboard that also doubles as a wedding cake. The sweet treat will commemorate Mary Jane's (played by Gabrielle Union) nuptials in the two-hour series finale.

On April 20 from 1:00 P.M. to 7:00 P.M. at Brooklyn's Atlantic Terminal in New York, fans will be presented with the edible billboard. At the intersection of Ashland Place and Hanson Place, the closer Being Mary Jane enthusiasts get to the billboard the quicker they'll notice that the four-tiered wedding cake is created from individual boxes, each containing a slice of Curry's prized wedding cake.

All fans have to do is pull a box from the billboard, snap a picture for the 'Gram, take a bite and enjoy. Although lovers of the show won't be able to celebrate with Mary Jane herself, biting into a slice of her wedding cake, for free, is the next best thing.

Don't forget to tune into the series finale of Being Mary Jane on Tues. (April 23) at 8/7 c.

Also, check out what's to come on the series of Being Mary Jane below.

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