What Your Exes Say and What That Says About You

If only Vivica Fox’s ex, Omar “Slim” White had received the memo everyone else got that you don’t need to put all your business in the streets. Over the weekend, news broke that the on-again, off-again couple had ended their 10-month engagement. Though White says he and Fox are on good terms, he didn’t miss the opportunity to kick a few rocks her way. “I hate negativity and drama. I hate arguing, and I value communication no matter what the problem may be,” he told TooFab. “So as in any relationship, tension can build up and I finally had to walk away.”

Fox took a more mature route to addressing the break-up, skipping the details when she responded to inquiries on Twitter. “I’m fine!” she tweeted Thursday. “At work and being very productive! God has got me! As always.”

Most of us will never get a national forum to address our past relationships, but when friends and family come prying from details, taking the high road is always the best options. What happened between you and your ex is business that should remain between the two of you. If it’s over, make peace with it and move on. And if you haven’t? Keep your mouth shut anyway. What so many of us forget is spilling our tea about our relationships says as much about us (i.e., we’re bitter and disloyal) as it does about the people we throw under the bus.

Demetria L. Lucas is a life coach and author of “A Belle in Brooklyn: The Go-to Girl for Advice on Living Your Best Single Life” (Atria) in stores now. Follow her on Twitter @abelleinbk