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5 Ways To Get Through The Holidays Alone

Whether celebrating Christmas, Kwanzaa or Hanukkah, the holiday season is a time to be together with the ones we love again. As adults, many go away from home to chase dreams, ending up in cities and countries thousands of miles away from the familiar smiles and faces they love. A trip home for the holidays is the ultimate pick-me-up that's craved when the real world gets unbearable, but what happens when your pockets aren't providing the weight to fly you home for the holidays? Don't worry. Here's five ways to get through the season sans family, without being a complete Scrooge. --Natelege Whaley
1) Skype your loved ones.

Why call your family, when you can connect with them face-to-face through your web cam? If you're immediate and extended family gathers together for the holiday, have a point person set up a time to speak with everyone, one-by-one. Of course it's not the same as seeing them in person, but it is much better than not seeing their faces at all.
2) Send cards/gifts.

Hopefully your loved ones sent you cards, especially since you're not going to make the journey home. And even better, UPS and Fedex may have shown up to your door with a special box, with your name on it. It feels great when someone thinks of you, doesn't it? Sending out cards and or presents to everyone on your "nice" list will make them feel better about you being absent during this time.  Remember they miss and want you to be there just as much as you do, so take part in the giving too.
3) Spend time with the people around you.

Maybe you're not the only person you know celebrating the holidays away from home. Perfect! Link up with these folks and create your own traditions. Have a dinner preparing all of your holiday favorites. This may not be your 'real family', but the stress is eased when you're sharing the struggle with those facing it as well.
4) Spend the holiday with a friend's family.

If a friend invites you over to dinner with their family during the holidays, then consider going (but only if you know this person well enough). You may just find all families are the same, and that you're friend has a snarky aunt just like yours, and an uncle who is the family comedian just like your favorite uncle. Even if being around someone else's family makes you miss the ones you adore, you'll still feel the warmth that radiates from all loving families. This could hold you over until you see your own.
5) Plan a trip back home ASAP!

You don't have the funds to make it back this time around, but you know you want to make this trip soon! Set a date when you WILL travel home and let your family know in advance. This way you can plan dates with your loved ones to make up for the lost time. It will also give you something to look forward to so that you can remain the cool and focused VIXEN that you are!

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Six years ago, Kelly Rowland released her fourth studio album titled Talk a Good Game. The project boasted hit singles like "Kisses Down Low" and the transparent "Dirty Laundry." Now, the Houston native is preparing to release a project that'll surely satisfy fans' patient earbuds.

In an interview with Billboard, Rowland shared her hopes for putting out a new body of work and the pressure that she's encountered since she's been in the studio. "This is by far the longest, most pressure-filled process ever, only because I know what it's supposed to be and I have been so hard on myself. I know it," she said. "And it's the first time I've said it out loud. I've been extremely hard on myself. But it's definitely coming, and I'm more so excited about this project than anything else."

The news follows the recent release of Rowland's "Kelly" track, which was met with critical acclaim in November 2018. In addition to preparing the release of new music, the "Motivation" singer discussed fans' wish for a Destiny's Child reunion. The rumors have been fueled by social media photographs of Rowland with either Beyonce or Michelle or all three, especially during Beyonce's past Coachella performance. But Rowland assures readers that it's not what they think.

"It's so funny. I guess every time people see us together, they just see music but I see sisterhood, and that's what we are and that's what me, her, Michelle [Williams] and Solange and I are. People see us all together, they immediately think music. I'm like, no. Just family." As Rowland previously mentioned Solange, she hopes to one day work with her again.

"I'm a huge fan," she said. "I love her writing and how detailed and particular she is. I always wanted to figure out how the heck she has so many different layers of harmonies when she is constructing these vocals, and it's so complex but simple. It's genius. It's the genius in her genius mind that she has in there." One of the last times the pair collaborated was on Rowland's "Simply Deep" track off her debut solo album of the same name. Solange also penned a few songs off the same project. Fast forward to 2016, and Rowland's vocals were featured on Solange's iconic A Seat at the Table.

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Teyana Taylor To Pay Homage To Ballroom Culture In "WTP" Video

Teyana Taylor aims to keep her hot streak of innovative videos coming thanks to this recent announcement. Taking to Instagram on Wednesday (Jan. 9), the "Gonna Love Me" singer will show adoration to ballroom culture in the visual for "WTP."

Directed by Gregory "Beef" Jones, The Aunties Inc., and Taylor herself, the Harlemite takes viewers on her journey to the expression-filled space where she hopes to rack up 10s across the board from a group of judges. The premise of the video also seems to follow a mockumentary format airing on a fictional network named FEMTV. Alongside Taylor, other men and women get ready to display their talents and confidence on the ballroom floor.

"WTP" is featured on the mother-of-one's sophomore album, K.T.S.E., which was released in June 2018. While the rollout's controversy didn't entirely muddle the excitement behind the project's debut, Taylor said she was sold on the idea that her album would be treated as the biggest out of G.O.O.D. Music's string of releases last year.

"I didn't know ahead of time that there wouldn't be any singles or visuals. But I knew that it was going to be the five-album thing," she said during a HOT 97 interview. "[Kanye] wanted [my album] to be last, he wanted mine to be the biggest. That's the way they sauced it up. I was sold."

The video will debut on Jan. 19. Check out the teaser below.


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👀 1.19.19 👀 #WTP Directed by @teyanataylor & @ogbeefjones @theauntiesinc 🙏🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾 The wait is ALMOST over. 😏 @museumofsex

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Trina Braxton’s Ex-Husband, Gabe Solis, Dies After Battle With Cancer

Gabe Solis, the ex-husband of Trina Braxton, lost his battle with cancer, Thursday (Dec. 20),  TMZ reports. He was 43.

Solis passed away at his home in Texas, surrounded by friends and family, according to the outlet. No official details have been released about his passing.

Solis had reportedly been keeping his cancer battle private. His death came as a shock to his loved ones. On Friday (Dec. 21), Braxton seemingly mourned the loss of her ex-husband with a cryptic Instagram meme reading, “I need a hug..E bottle of wine.”

The former couple tied the knot in 2003, and appeared together on previous seasons of WEtv’s Braxton Family Values. Despite finalizing their divorce in 2015, Braxton and Solis confronted lingering issues from their marriage during an episode of Iyanla: Fix My Life, earlier in the year.

Braxton has since moved on to a new relationship, but remained friends with Solis.


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