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Dropping an Athlete’s Baby isn’t All the Money it’s Cracked Up to Be

Financial stability is a trait most women seek in a partner. Some just want a man with equal pay, others prefer the man be the breadwinner, and then there are some ladies who are are looking for a full lifestyle upgrade courtesy of a well-paid athlete. We call these women groupies.

If we’ve learned one thing from recent headlines surrounding struggling athletes and their ex-wives/girlfriends/baby mamas, its knowing how to handle a ball doesn’t mean knowing how to handle balling. And the women who got with these players thinking it would be all Gucci Bags and Monolo Blahniks from there on out—and dropping a baby or two would seal their financial future—are finding out its actually possible for the well to run dry. Quickly.

Common sense tells me many money mis-managing athletes came before football player Antonio Cromartie, who appears to be on a mission to spread his seed as far across the US as possible; but I think he was the first to sound the I-make-millions-on-the-field-but-can’t-pay-my-child-support-alarm. In March 2010, the Jets had to give this man a $500,000 advance just so he could make outstanding child support payments to his nine children, fathered by eight women, in six states. What happened one month later? Baby number 10 came into the world; three months later, the 27-year-old married the child’s mother. Something tells me a pre-nup wasn’t needed.

Terrell Owens’ financial woes are secret to none. Claiming to make absolutely zero dollars, just a month ago the NFLer filed papers to have child support payments sent to his four baby mamas reduced. He claimed to be keeping up with payments for the women which range from $5,000-$15,000/month, but lawsuits issued for backpay suggest otherwise. With absolutely no income, I’m thinking these women who saw dollar signs at the height of T.O’s career, are thinking there might have been easier ways to make the money that don’t involve court proceedings and TMZ reports.

Allen Iverson is the latest inductee to the famous deadbeat dad club. His high school sweetheart and wife of 10 years, Tawanna, claims ever since she filed for divorce in June, the once-hot hooper stopped depositing money in their joint bank account and then made several large cash withdrawals, including one for $20,000 to purchase diamond jewelry. Now, with an account that’s $23,000 in the red, Tawanna says she can’t pay the bills or provide for their five kids, despite her claim that Allen is worth $20 million.

And then comes Bob Whitfield. Sorry, I-haven’t-paid-child-support-in-four-years-because-my-ex-wife-wears-Gucci-bags, Bob Whitfield. Looking at that man, it’s painfully obvious Sheree married him for the money—the money he used to have anyway. A true example of how the mighty have fallen, rather than take Sheree’s plea for child support payments to heart, he turned around and asked for a pay adjustment, claiming to only make $3,000/month--$3k?! For a $50,000 salary, Sheree could have gotten with a physically attractive man who might have actually had some morals.

While there are a couple of wives and ex-wives in this bunch, what we’re mostly dealing with is men who don’t know how to control their pockets or their penises, and women who see million dollar sports contracts and a ripe uterus as their financial holy grail. In the end, pros lose money, women lose their freedom, and both sides lose self-respect. But as long as there are reality shows waiting to chronicle that rise and fall, I imagine we won’t see any decline in get-knocked-up-by-a-pro-baller trend.

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Kush & Splendor: 5 CBD Beauty Products That’ll Take Your Self-Care Routine From 0 To 100

Lotions, creams, and salves—oh my! With cannabidiol (CBD) popping up in just about every product you can imagine, the cannabis-infused beauty industry is clearly on the come-up. In fact, analysts predict that the “wellness” movement—as well as the legalization of Mary Jane across the world—will help rake in $25 billion globally in the next 10 years, according to Business Insider. That’s 15 percent of the $167 billion skincare market.

And what better way to up the ante on one’s wellness routine than with all-natural CBD? Just ask Dr. Lana Butner, naturopathic doctor and acupuncturist at NYC’s Modrn Sanctuary, who incorporates CBD in her treatments.

“CBD is a fantastic addition to acupuncture sessions for both its relaxation and anti-inflammatory, pain-relieving effects,” Butner shares with Vixen. “The calming effects of CBD allows for patients to deeply relax into the treatment and really tap into the parasympathetic nervous system, which is responsible for rest, digestion and muscle repair/regeneration.”

She adds that CBD’s pain-relieving effects are “far-reaching,” from muscular and joint pains to migraines and arthritis—and even IBS and indigestion.

The magic lies in CBD’s ability to impact endocannabinoid receptor activity in our bodies. Without getting too wordy, our bodies come equipped with a system called the endocannabinoid system (ECS), which is the HBIC over our sleep, appetite, pain and immune system response. Also known as cannabidiol, CBD teams up with this system to help reduce inflammation and interact with neurotransmitters. According to Healthline, CBD has also been scientifically shown to impact the brain’s receptors for serotonin, the neurotransmitter responsible for regulating our mood and social behavior.

All that said, it’s important to note that not all CBD products are created equal. Many brands cashing in on the green beauty wave use hemp seed oil, sometimes referred to as cannabis sativa seed oil, in place of CBD... which doesn’t make them any less great! Hemp seed oil is actually high in antioxidants, amino acids, and omega-3 and -6 fatty acids—all of which are thebomb.com for your skin.

“It’s generally viewed as a superfood and is great for adding nutritional value to your diet,” Ashley Lewis, co-founder of Fleur Marché, told Well and Good last month. “In terms of skin care, it’s known as a powerful moisturizer and skin softener that doesn’t clog pores or contribute to oily skin.”

However, when companies start marketing CBD and hemp oil as one-in-the-same, that’s when things get a bit tricky.

“The biggest issue is that hemp seed oil and CBD are two totally different compounds that come from different parts of the hemp plant, have different makeups, and different benefits,” Lewis added. “Marketing them as the same thing just isn’t accurate and does a disservice to consumers who are expecting certain benefits that they won’t get from hemp seed oil and who are often paying more for what they think is CBD.”

So if you’re looking to benefit from the perks specifically attributed to CBD, make sure you’re reading labels before buying, and don’t be afraid to ask questions. Hell, ask for a product’s test results, while you’re at it. It never hurts to be sure.

Now that we’ve got that out of the way, are you ready to see what all the hype is about? For this 4/20, we rounded up a few CBD (and hemp!)-infused products to help give your self-care routine a bit of a boost. Looks like your holiday just got that much kushier. You’re welcome!

Note: Data and regulations surrounding CBD and its use are still in development. That said, please don’t take anything written in this post as medical or legal advice, and definitely double check the laws in your state. Also, please do your body a favor and hit up your doctor before trying any new supplements. We’re just tryna look out for you. Okay? Okay. Read on.

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Vivica A. Fox Explains Past Hesitance Behind 'Two Can Play That Game' Script

In a new interview with Essence, actress Vivica A. Fox discussed how she initially turned down her role in Two Can Play That Game based on the script. The established entertainer said it's her mission to ensure that black people are positively portrayed onscreen, and noticed the aforementioned film's prose didn't live up to those standards.

"I think the reason why—no I know the reason why—I've been doing this for such a long time is that I fight," Fox said. "When we did Two Can Play That Game, I fought for the way we talked, walked, the way we loved each other." The Set It Off actress continued to state that she consistently declined Two Can Play That Game before signing on to play the lead role. "Because the script, when I first got it, I turned it down three times because it just wasn't a good representation of African-Americans, so I fought them on everything," she noted. "I want to make sure that the images of African-Americans are as positive and as true as they can possibly be."

In 2001, the romantic comedy debuted to fanfare, boasting an all-star cast of Morris Chestnut, Mo'Nique, Anthony Anderson, Bobby Brown, Gabrielle Union, Wendy Raquel Robinson, and more. Directed by Mark Brown (Barbershop, Iverson, How To Be A Player), Fox plays a career driven person named Shante Smith who navigates a curveball when her boyfriend Keith Fenton (Chestnut) cheats on her with a co-worker.

After its release, Two Can Play That Game raked in over $22 million at the box office.

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Actress Gabrielle Union attends the Being Mary Jane premiere, screening, and party on January 9, 2017 in New York City. (Photo by Bennett Raglin/Getty Images for BET)
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BET To Unveil Edible Billboard For 'Being Mary Jane' Wedding Finale

As Being Mary Jane comes to an end, BET is willing to offer fans a taste of what's to come in the series finale.

The network has enlisted the help of Ayesha Curry, celebrity cook and cookbook author, to create an edible billboard that also doubles as a wedding cake. The sweet treat will commemorate Mary Jane's (played by Gabrielle Union) nuptials in the two-hour series finale.

On April 20 from 1:00 P.M. to 7:00 P.M. at Brooklyn's Atlantic Terminal in New York, fans will be presented with the edible billboard. At the intersection of Ashland Place and Hanson Place, the closer Being Mary Jane enthusiasts get to the billboard the quicker they'll notice that the four-tiered wedding cake is created from individual boxes, each containing a slice of Curry's prized wedding cake.

All fans have to do is pull a box from the billboard, snap a picture for the 'Gram, take a bite and enjoy. Although lovers of the show won't be able to celebrate with Mary Jane herself, biting into a slice of her wedding cake, for free, is the next best thing.

Don't forget to tune into the series finale of Being Mary Jane on Tues. (April 23) at 8/7 c.

Also, check out what's to come on the series of Being Mary Jane below.

Save the date! 👰🏾It'll be worth the wait. Join us for the series finale of #BeingMaryJane TUES APR 23 8/7c only on @BET! pic.twitter.com/jEwkbC71OW

— #BeingMaryJane (@beingmaryjane) March 29, 2019

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