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The Female Bromance: Girl Crushes

Every girl needs a girl crush. No, not the type that fills male sexual fantasies with two (or more) women romping around in their undies. The girl crush is more along the lines of a female bromance. It’s a strictly-platonic, straight girl kind of longing where a hetero woman becomes infatuated with a fellow lady who possesses traits— inside and out— that the crusher admires (like say, beauty, sophistication, sass, confidence, etc.), and too, hopes to emulate.

Much like a girl-boy crush, which girls you crush on can actually tell you a bit about your own personality. “Whoever your girl crush is, it's probably a result of somehow feeling connected to the star's personality and values," Dr. Helen Fisher, PhD, a biological anthropologist and author of the new book Why Him? Why Her? said in a Cosmo interview about girl crushes.

Having a girl crush also tells something else about you. There’s a certain type of woman who can see a fabulous fly woman and lift her up, instead of tear her down. If you’ve got a crush, you’re the type that bypasses buying into the negativity that is often associated with women’s social interactions (thanks Wives’ franchises). Girls who crush on girls offer a positive expression for how we ladies, really--no, seriously--actually do get along.

A girl crush comes as a great antidote to all the madness, a small, bright reminder that all women aren’t insecure, catty and crazy. Yes, there are those of us left who see a woman who seemingly has it all, or at least something we like, and instead of tearing her down, we raise her a little higher, and use her as inspiration to be a little better, sexier, more confident, whatever it is about our crush that gives a grown woman the giggles.
My girl crush(es)? Start with Amber Rose. It’s her… Gosh, I hate to use this word, but it’s the only one that sums it up properly: swag. She’s got an intrinsic I-am-who-I-am confidence that makes her gym-run, clad in spandex and kicks, look like she’s on a European runway in haute couture. And she’s got an unbridled sex appeal, obvious when she’s wearing one of her curve-hugging, cat suit getups, and also when she’s in flared pants and a turtleneck.

I also have a thing for Tracee Ellis Ross. Her fashion, hair game, and shape are bonkers, of course, but my awe comes from the way she walks around like she’s got ever-present theme music, probably something like Frank Sinatra’s “I Did It My Way” on a loop in her head. She’s also incredibly random. Who rocks Jordans and a Birkin bag? Tracee! That’s who! Ever seen her on the mic at an awards show? She’s in front of a room full of people, millions of viewers watching, and she’s just chilling in ball gown, effortlessly cracking jokes and dropping one-liners like it’s her and a bathroom mirror. Loves it!

Yesterday on Twitter and Facebook, I asked female readers to spill on their own girl crushes and the responses poured in. Apparently, ya’ll have a lot of love to give! Many ladies gushed over Tracee and Amber too, and a good chunk of women have it bad for Rihanna. ”I love her style and that witty/candid mouth of hers when she does interviews,” one of you said. ”I also love the random places she gets her tattoos on her body.”

As expected, Beyonce made several lists. “She is the epitome of all things beautiful,” another commenter boasted. “Her grace, talent, beauty, simplicity in nature & humility is something to admire.”

Sanaa Lathan (“Laid back, cool, and beautiful”), Zoe Saldana (“She’s funny, she can dance and kick your butt”) Jill Scott (“Gorgeous, talented, down to earth”), Angela Bassett (“Simplistic elegance”) and Scarlett Johansson (“Hot white girl. Exudes sex”), Condoleeza Rice (“Ballsy and plain fierce”), Kelly Rowland, (Impeccable style and sweet spirit”), and finally, Kerry Washington (“Poised, classic”) also got a lot of much-deserved love.
I’m feeling the love, ladies! Share some more! Who’s your girl crush?
Demetria L. Lucas is the author of “A Belle in Brooklyn: The Go-to Girl for Advice on Living Your Best Single Life” (Atria) in stores now. Follow her on Twitter @abelleinbk

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"I'm sorry for the state of the world honestly, for everybody in this room and I pray that all of us just get through it a little bit easier and just try not to lash out at each other," she said.

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Beyoncé, Rihanna, And J. Lo Make Forbes’ Highest-Paid Women In Music List

As November comes to a close, many publications will be crafting their year-end lists for all things pop culture. Forbes released a ranking of the world's highest-paid women in music on Monday (Nov. 19), with Beyoncé, Jennifer Lopez, and Rihanna holding it down for women of color.

Beyoncé comes in at No. 3 on the list with an earning of $60 million as she made most of her money through her historical Coachella performance, the joint album with husband JAY-Z, Everything is Love, and the Carters' On The Run II Tour in support of its release.

Jennifer Lopez made No. 6 for earnings tallying of over $47 million thanks to her lucrative Las Vegas residency, endorsements, and shows including World of Dance where she serves as a judge.

Rihanna follows behind the "Love Don't Cost A Thing" diva at No. 7 with earnings of over $37.5 million. Although she hasn't toured since 2016—thanks to her cosmetics and lingerie lines, Fenty Beauty and Savage Lingerie—the Bajan pop star has been keeping herself busy.

Forbes' annual list (which factors in pretax earnings from June 1, 2017, through June 1, 2018) has placed Katy Perry at the top with over $83 million in profits due to her gig as an American Idol judge and her 80-date Witness: The Tour that brought in an estimated $1 million per night.

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Kelly Rowland Hops In Her Bag With New Single "Kelly"

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Released Thursday (Nov. 22), the singer goes the clubby, confident route while rightfully dropping her attributes like her relationship with God, smoldering looks (a.k.a the drip) among other things. With "Kelly" being the first single since her 2013's Talk a Good Game, the singer comes out swinging, reminding everyone of her power in the game.

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