Vivica Taught Me: Beware of Falling in Love with a Six Pack and a Smile

Putting looks first on your list of qualifications for a man only (potentially) works if you’re going to keep things totally casual. If you know you have a tendency to fall for any man you’re intimate with, it’s best to not even put yourself in that situation—or else you could wind up singling the same lonely tune as Vivica. This, unfortunately, is easier said than done, but when you think about all the important things you really want in a man like loyalty, honesty, faithfulness, dependability, integrity, an occupation, sense of purpose, etc.—all of those things trump smiles and abs big time.

Of course it’s completely possible to meet an amazingly gorgeous man who also has his stuff together, but it’s more typical to meet an OK-looking guy and write him off for his average looks before you get a chance to learn about his positive personality traits. Although men tend to get all the blame for being looks obsessed, women are pretty visual too. We just have to remember sometimes it’s better to look and lust rather than touch if we’re going to end up falling in love with someone whose looks are the only thing he has going for him.

Can you relate to Vivica’s dilemma of falling in love with a six pack and a smile? How did it work out for you in the end?