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Like Father, Like Boyfriend?

Jay-Z recently summed it up well with his new song "Glory," when he said "Got-damn I can't deliver failure...the most beautifulest thing in the world is daddy's little girl." We don't all get to experience that father-daughter relationship, but we all need it.

Let's say you live alone and someone breaks into your house but doesn't steal anything. Weird, right? Creepy, even. This news comes after receive a letter from your landlord to be careful because break-ins and car thefts are reoccurring in the neighborhood. They try to reassure you and say that police are investigating the crime, so what do you do now? Do you look to a friend, your man, a sibling or your dad to calm your late night jitters?

I was in this situation recently, and I called my boo first. I was two and a half hours away from my immediate family, and he was the only person I trusted in the area. I hoped that would he would just be there for me, but he wasn't. He blamed it on having work the next day, but I wasn't asking him to stay awake all night and guard the door, just to be there with me. He low-key brushed it off and told me I could handle the situation myself because of where I was from.

Now, I appreciate the confidence he had in me, but I still felt like something was missing. Despite how well I may carry myself and despite how strong I may be or where I'm from, I wasn't feeling it that day. So, I told him how I felt the following morning, and he said I was being selfish. Um, maybe?

But my dad dropped everything. He probably should've been the first person I called. Protective? That, he is. He ended up staying with me for the entire weekend. His quick response was pretty awesome, and it always has been, so why would I expect anything less from any other man? Especially, one I'm giving all my attention to. I guess I expected my boo to react in the same way.

I started thinking, I'd be S-O-L without my dad. What do women without dads do? Who are their examples, who do they have to compare their men to?

Looking back at history's norms where men were providers and protecters, and women were nurturing and loyal, it seems as if traditional roles and chivalry are fading today. As baby-daddy/baby-mama drama and single-parenthood continues to heighten, Hov's "Glory" exemplifies that unconditional love women--and men--need in their lives. He calls baby Blue his greatest creation and, basically, says failure is not an option. Just think about it: Is there really any other man in our lives who could promise all this?

Vixens, in 2012, should we still depend on a man aside from our fathers and brothers to protect us 100 percent?  

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“We never talked about labels, like lesbian or gay,” writes Crawford. “We just lived our lives and I hoped it could go on that way forever.”

As their journey continued, Whitney's star began to rise which put allegedly put their romance on ice. “She said we shouldn’t be physical anymore,” writes Crawford. "Because it would make our journey even more difficult. She said if people find out about us, they would use this against us....and back in the ’80s, that’s how it felt. I kept it safe. I found comfort in my silence.”

Whitney's relationship with Crawford was mentioned in the 2018 documentary Whitney. Created by the singer's estate, the film focused on the singer's legacy and didn't include first-hand accounts from Crawford. Family members were weary of their special friendship.

"I’ve never seen them do anything but I know that she was something that I didn’t want my sister to be involved with," Whitney's brother Gary stated in the documentary.

But Crawford is finally ready to tell her own story while "lifting" Houston's legacy.

“I wanted to lift her legacy, give her respect and share the story of who she was before the fame, and in that, to embrace our friendship,” she tells People. "I'd come to the point where I felt the need to stand up for our friendship. And I felt an urgency to stand up and share the woman behind the incredible talent."

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The vocalist continued to state that fans can follow her pregnancy journey on her YouTube series The Keke Show where she gives an intimate look at how she balances her career and motherhood.

 

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My husband Zackariah Darring and I are so happy to announce that we are expecting our new bundle of joy! We are excited to welcome the 10th addition to our beautiful family. Stay tuned for the release date & information for my new YouTube Series “The Keke Show” where you will see me balancing Wife, Mommy and Artist!!! Trust me.. it’s never a dull moment with my family. Love ya sugars💋💋💋 photo credit: @keever_west Styled/Designed by: @keever_west Asst: @freddyoart

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Sharing his love with more than a few emojis, the rapper reveals the song inspired him to pen two new songs at the crack of dawn.

 

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