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5 Ways to Know You're in the 'Friend Zone'

Arguably, men and women can't be friends. Very often, though, we find ourselves in a confusing sitch. We'll care about this guy so much, but things just aren't moving forward. Honestly, you just want to know: am I in the friend zone? (Without asking)

He could be giving you mixed signals for various reasons. Whatever they may be, however, you could be skipping around in the friend zone without any knowledge. I'd say the signs we've listed below are fairly obvious, but when you're lovestruck, the rose-colored specs can blind what's really going on. Not trying to have a first class ticket to the No Relationship zone with your guy pal? Then take notes, Vixens. Find out if you're chilling with "just a friend" or a potential partner.

1. He talks about the girls he likes with you.
This could very well be the number one indicator that you're sitting in cell block FZ. There's no way that a guy who likes you would even lightly touch on the subject of the women he's courting. He may dish about a couple celebrity crushes, but no way is he full-on spilling deets about the girl he dated last week. Once the conversation takes that route, pack up your feelings and accept that friendship seat.

2. You guys go dutch on 90% of your dates.
I happen to run with male friends who don't mind handling the bill. However, that's an isolated situation. Usually, if a guy is paying most of the time, you two go together. But if your friend (who you obviously want more with) makes you pay your way every time, the weather calls for a rainy day during your lovestruck parade. He wants to make sure that the signals don't get crossed. Got it?

3. Any flirting is shut down immediately and nicely.
You think it's time to go in for the kill, so you do. Sadly, he immediately cools your jets and lets you know it's not like that. Do you need another hint? The friend zone, it is, lady. Thank your lucky stars that he rejected you nicely; this, clearly, means that he really is your friend.

4. He lets you vent about the men in your life.
If he doesn't respond with the "I don't want to hear this" look, he's just not that into you. (See #1) Any guy who really likes you would never stand for "other guy" chit-chat. Men just aren't built to be anything less than territorial. Take this as a clear sign that maybe, just maybe, you should make one of those other guys the star player of your team.

5. He's trying to hook you up with someone else.
This is pretty self explanatory and closely related to #4. If this man is going out of his way to set you up, he wants you off his hands. Maybe not as a friend, but as someone who's way too into him romantically. It's time to tuck your emotions away and cherish your compadre.

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Kelly Rowland Says Her Highly-Anticipated Project Is "Definitely Coming"

Six years ago, Kelly Rowland released her fourth studio album titled Talk a Good Game. The project boasted hit singles like "Kisses Down Low" and the transparent "Dirty Laundry." Now, the Houston native is preparing to release a project that'll surely satisfy fans' patient earbuds.

In an interview with Billboard, Rowland shared her hopes for putting out a new body of work and the pressure that she's encountered since she's been in the studio. "This is by far the longest, most pressure-filled process ever, only because I know what it's supposed to be and I have been so hard on myself. I know it," she said. "And it's the first time I've said it out loud. I've been extremely hard on myself. But it's definitely coming, and I'm more so excited about this project than anything else."

The news follows the recent release of Rowland's "Kelly" track, which was met with critical acclaim in November 2018. In addition to preparing the release of new music, the "Motivation" singer discussed fans' wish for a Destiny's Child reunion. The rumors have been fueled by social media photographs of Rowland with either Beyonce or Michelle or all three, especially during Beyonce's past Coachella performance. But Rowland assures readers that it's not what they think.

"It's so funny. I guess every time people see us together, they just see music but I see sisterhood, and that's what we are and that's what me, her, Michelle [Williams] and Solange and I are. People see us all together, they immediately think music. I'm like, no. Just family." As Rowland previously mentioned Solange, she hopes to one day work with her again.

"I'm a huge fan," she said. "I love her writing and how detailed and particular she is. I always wanted to figure out how the heck she has so many different layers of harmonies when she is constructing these vocals, and it's so complex but simple. It's genius. It's the genius in her genius mind that she has in there." One of the last times the pair collaborated was on Rowland's "Simply Deep" track off her debut solo album of the same name. Solange also penned a few songs off the same project. Fast forward to 2016, and Rowland's vocals were featured on Solange's iconic A Seat at the Table.

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Teyana Taylor To Pay Homage To Ballroom Culture In "WTP" Video

Teyana Taylor aims to keep her hot streak of innovative videos coming thanks to this recent announcement. Taking to Instagram on Wednesday (Jan. 9), the "Gonna Love Me" singer will show adoration to ballroom culture in the visual for "WTP."

Directed by Gregory "Beef" Jones, The Aunties Inc., and Taylor herself, the Harlemite takes viewers on her journey to the expression-filled space where she hopes to rack up 10s across the board from a group of judges. The premise of the video also seems to follow a mockumentary format airing on a fictional network named FEMTV. Alongside Taylor, other men and women get ready to display their talents and confidence on the ballroom floor.

"WTP" is featured on the mother-of-one's sophomore album, K.T.S.E., which was released in June 2018. While the rollout's controversy didn't entirely muddle the excitement behind the project's debut, Taylor said she was sold on the idea that her album would be treated as the biggest out of G.O.O.D. Music's string of releases last year.

"I didn't know ahead of time that there wouldn't be any singles or visuals. But I knew that it was going to be the five-album thing," she said during a HOT 97 interview. "[Kanye] wanted [my album] to be last, he wanted mine to be the biggest. That's the way they sauced it up. I was sold."

The video will debut on Jan. 19. Check out the teaser below.


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👀 1.19.19 👀 #WTP Directed by @teyanataylor & @ogbeefjones @theauntiesinc 🙏🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾 The wait is ALMOST over. 😏 @museumofsex

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Trina Braxton’s Ex-Husband, Gabe Solis, Dies After Battle With Cancer

Gabe Solis, the ex-husband of Trina Braxton, lost his battle with cancer, Thursday (Dec. 20),  TMZ reports. He was 43.

Solis passed away at his home in Texas, surrounded by friends and family, according to the outlet. No official details have been released about his passing.

Solis had reportedly been keeping his cancer battle private. His death came as a shock to his loved ones. On Friday (Dec. 21), Braxton seemingly mourned the loss of her ex-husband with a cryptic Instagram meme reading, “I need a hug..E bottle of wine.”

The former couple tied the knot in 2003, and appeared together on previous seasons of WEtv’s Braxton Family Values. Despite finalizing their divorce in 2015, Braxton and Solis confronted lingering issues from their marriage during an episode of Iyanla: Fix My Life, earlier in the year.

Braxton has since moved on to a new relationship, but remained friends with Solis.


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