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7 Ways To Find Mr. Right Now Before Valentine's Day

As Valentine's Day approaches many females will be attending and hosting Independence Parties or going out with their girls. While you may blame men, the lack of Black men, the "down low" theory, contemplate "something new" and pull up statistics of the Black male prison rate, sometimes you're single because of YOU. The guys that you do come in contact with may have looked the other direction because of your actions. You may not have realized those little things that you do and say that leaves you unapproachable and how ended a potential relationship before it started.

With one week left until the big day, it's still time to snag a Valentine if you acknowledge the error of your ways and follow a few simple steps. Remember, first impressions last forever and casual conversations are free. Hopefully, Cupid shoots you with his arrow before it's too late!


1.  Do Things Alone - It's hard for men to get a girl's attention if she is huddled with her girls while out at events.  In romantic comedies, men will often approach a group of females and ask to dance or ask to speak with a young lady, but the reality is that the girls who look available get chosen.  If you're interested in getting chose next time you're out, consider ditching your girls and making yourself open to conversation.
2.  Leave Something To The Imagination - The fact that you just got out of a relationship, graduated at the top of your class and make X amount at your current job never makes for a good first conversation. While most men appreciate an educated and accomplished women, running down your résumé at the first meeting can either make a guy intimidated or make you seem extremely uptight.

3.  Take Things Slow - Yes, you're getting older, you don't have time for games and you choose not to waste your time, but asking too much information during a first conversation is never good. People share information with those they are comfortable with. Unfortunately, it may take a few dates to figure out that someone isn't for you.
4.  Step Out The Box - From listening to any female conversations or scrolling through twitter timelines, it's clear that most women want a dark-skinned brother that's six feet tall like Lance Gross, a light-skinned brother with light eyes like Michael Ealy or a distinguished gentleman like Idris Elba or Denzel Washington. Unfortunately, these brothers aren't available, so ditch the height, weight and physical appearance requirements and work with what's standing in front of you. If you genuinely enjoyed the conversation at the bar, and he would like to continue the conversation on the phone, email or over a meal, let him do so.

5.  Expecting Something For Nothing - Asking a guy to buy you a drink, snack, lunch or dinner is never okay upon first meeting. If a guy is willing to purchase a drink for you, he will offer. Asking or expecting is the fastest way to guarantee that you will be drinking or dining alone.
6.  Assume That Every Dude Is Attempting To Hit On You - When you are out, it is to be expected that you may be interested in a dance or willing to participate in a conversation. You always have a choice in who you dance or converse with, but responding with an attitude means that you probably should've stayed home. Every dance or conversation doesn't mean that a guy wants to instantly take you home. Sometimes, a dance and a conversation is just that, so engage and find out his intentions before shutting him down.

7. Getting Too Comfortable on the First Date - How you met him is how you should look on the first date and how you should remain until after a few ones. While honesty is important, showing your true colors is not always appreciated so soon. Getting to know the REAL you is all a part of the process, so no change in appearance or attitude should be drastic before deeper feelings are at play.

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CupcakKe Reveals Abusive Boyfriend Led Her To Contemplate Suicide

Months of abuse led to the suicidal tweet posted by Chicago native CupcakKe, earlier this month. In a lengthy message posted to her Twitter account over the weekend, the 21-year-old rapper admitted that she’s been battling depression, brought on by an abusive ex-boyfriend.

In the post titled “my disturbing read,” CupcakKe accuses a man named, Christopher Terrell, of stealing her credit cards and terrorizing her throughout their relationship.

“This is someone I’ve been dating for the past [five] months,” she wrote in the now deleted post. “Out of the kindness of my heart I gave this man over [$30,000] during this period [of] time because I understand how it feels to be without (especially after me being homeless). He also has threatened to shoot my mom in the face [and] has threatened me on multiple occasions [and] said he can do it because he will get away with it!!!! I have screenshots, recorded calls, bank statements and all types of proof.

“Me being stupid in love I have [taken] this man back multiple times but every time I take him back the abuse gets [worse],” she added.

Further in the post, CupcakKe explains that her depression from feeling trapped in the relationship resulted in her contemplating suicide. “He [has] snatched off my wig in public, broke phones [and] continues to traumatize me every step of the way! This is what [led] to my ‘I’m committing suicide’ tweet…I have called the cops multiple times and they have yet to do anything about it,” she wrote, adding that Terrell is threatening her with revenge porn. She also admitted to posting his number on social media, and the numbers of women that he “plotted” with  to steal her money.

“Yes I am wrong for that,” she said. “But by me sending this message out it is not for harm to be sent his way, it’s for the police to make things way more serious!!!! Also this message is for every young girl or anyone in general that is struggling with abuse right now. I get u (once you see the first sign) leave!!!”

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@Chicago_Police y’all really need to do something about @CupcakKe_rapper and her situation, she’s mentioned reaching out to y’all multiple times about this and nothings happened! Please do something before it’s too late...

— moonlight_baes (@m00nlight__baes) January 20, 2019

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Kelly Rowland Says Her Highly-Anticipated Project Is "Definitely Coming"

Six years ago, Kelly Rowland released her fourth studio album titled Talk a Good Game. The project boasted hit singles like "Kisses Down Low" and the transparent "Dirty Laundry." Now, the Houston native is preparing to release a project that'll surely satisfy fans' patient earbuds.

In an interview with Billboard, Rowland shared her hopes for putting out a new body of work and the pressure that she's encountered since she's been in the studio. "This is by far the longest, most pressure-filled process ever, only because I know what it's supposed to be and I have been so hard on myself. I know it," she said. "And it's the first time I've said it out loud. I've been extremely hard on myself. But it's definitely coming, and I'm more so excited about this project than anything else."

The news follows the recent release of Rowland's "Kelly" track, which was met with critical acclaim in November 2018. In addition to preparing the release of new music, the "Motivation" singer discussed fans' wish for a Destiny's Child reunion. The rumors have been fueled by social media photographs of Rowland with either Beyonce or Michelle or all three, especially during Beyonce's past Coachella performance. But Rowland assures readers that it's not what they think.

"It's so funny. I guess every time people see us together, they just see music but I see sisterhood, and that's what we are and that's what me, her, Michelle [Williams] and Solange and I are. People see us all together, they immediately think music. I'm like, no. Just family." As Rowland previously mentioned Solange, she hopes to one day work with her again.

"I'm a huge fan," she said. "I love her writing and how detailed and particular she is. I always wanted to figure out how the heck she has so many different layers of harmonies when she is constructing these vocals, and it's so complex but simple. It's genius. It's the genius in her genius mind that she has in there." One of the last times the pair collaborated was on Rowland's "Simply Deep" track off her debut solo album of the same name. Solange also penned a few songs off the same project. Fast forward to 2016, and Rowland's vocals were featured on Solange's iconic A Seat at the Table.

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Teyana Taylor To Pay Homage To Ballroom Culture In "WTP" Video

Teyana Taylor aims to keep her hot streak of innovative videos coming thanks to this recent announcement. Taking to Instagram on Wednesday (Jan. 9), the "Gonna Love Me" singer will show adoration to ballroom culture in the visual for "WTP."

Directed by Gregory "Beef" Jones, The Aunties Inc., and Taylor herself, the Harlemite takes viewers on her journey to the expression-filled space where she hopes to rack up 10s across the board from a group of judges. The premise of the video also seems to follow a mockumentary format airing on a fictional network named FEMTV. Alongside Taylor, other men and women get ready to display their talents and confidence on the ballroom floor.

"WTP" is featured on the mother-of-one's sophomore album, K.T.S.E., which was released in June 2018. While the rollout's controversy didn't entirely muddle the excitement behind the project's debut, Taylor said she was sold on the idea that her album would be treated as the biggest out of G.O.O.D. Music's string of releases last year.

"I didn't know ahead of time that there wouldn't be any singles or visuals. But I knew that it was going to be the five-album thing," she said during a HOT 97 interview. "[Kanye] wanted [my album] to be last, he wanted mine to be the biggest. That's the way they sauced it up. I was sold."

The video will debut on Jan. 19. Check out the teaser below.


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👀 1.19.19 👀 #WTP Directed by @teyanataylor & @ogbeefjones @theauntiesinc 🙏🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾 The wait is ALMOST over. 😏 @museumofsex

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