Don't Be Bitter Toward Love + Relationships
Springtime is approaching and we can already see that love in beginning to bloom. While many of you are shaking off cuffing season to sow single, wild oats, others are lovestruck, ready to frolic under the vernal equinox with a cutie. Either way, relationships are coming...
And what's to come of those still bitter from cold of relationship pasts. I hate when women are called bitter, but sometimes it's quite justifiable. We heard the unnecessary whispers from the bitter brigade around V-Day, and still, mumbles of those unlucky in love float around. It's easier said than done to shake off bitterness, but identify why you've turned cold and move forward. You don't want to miss the chance to be warmed up in love, right?
Get an early start on spring cleaning started in your love life with a bit of Vixen advice.
Problem: Daddy Issues
Solution: Admittedly, a lot of women deal with issues stemming from absentee fathers. Even unnoticeable at times, the complexes that we deal with from abandonment can rear their ugly heads on our perspective of men. Not only is it unfair to pre-judge anyone because of your daddy's faults, it's unfair to allow bitterness to stop you from having a healthy relationship. Deal with everything head on! If your father is alive, speak to him. Get some answers if necessary. Think you don't need to have that conversation? Grow from it, then, and move on.
Problem: Unhealthy Relationships in the Past
Solution: Men hate paying for your ex's mistakes. It's not always a seamless transition into another relationship with old haunts, but try your absolute hardest to let it go. Cheated on? Abused? Make all the effort you can to heal beyond the hurt. Holding on to the past will only keep the bitterness alive and your heart on chill.
Problem: Unhappy About Your Current State of Life
Solution: Bitterness is the offspring of your own personal unhappiness. It's really sad when you can't have one single positive thought about relationships because you're not quite where you want to be. You may not have received a promotion at work or you're not currently financially stable, but there's still room to be happy about love. Be active in getting what you want, and you'll notice more energy for a healthy relationship.
Is there something leaving a not-so-sweet taste in your life about love?