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Why NOT Having a Valentine Matters

Since the days of St. Valentine (whom the holiday is named after), the requirement to have a valentine has dwindled, especially for women. At a time where Valentine’s Day is seen more as a commercialized holiday for candy and flower companies to profit from, the fourteenth of February is an excuse to distinguish the single from the sappy and not offer solace to the former. While some might opt to spend tonight reading romance novels and eating boxes of chocolates by themselves, there are actually great reasons why not having a valentine does matter. -Adelle Platon

Independent women never need anything, especially a valentine.

Valentine’s Day is a tiny calendar label that gets written over in an already-filled planner for today’s working women. Busy business beauties don’t evade the holiday, but they sure as hell won’t spend their day sulking. According to a March 2011 “Women at Work” report from the Bureau of Labor Statistics, numbers suggest that young women now earn 8% more than their male counterparts, which means ladies are starting to bring in more of the paycheck. If President Obama was too busy running the country on February 14th or planning a $3.8 trillion budget plan proposed the day before, there is little doubt Michelle Obama would spend her Valen-time waiting for Barack to come home rather than use the free time to hang out with Bo and her daughters or fight against child obesity.

Heartbroken women seem to be more successful.
At the Grammy Awards, Adele snatched up six golden record players for her hit “Rolling in the Deep” and 21 album, including Best Record of the Year and Best Album of the Year. Inspired by her money-seeking ex, the heartbreak compilation earned her adoration from artists and fans of nearly every genre. A blue-do’d Katy Perry, who is also known for giving a musical finger to her exes, performed her new single “Part Of Me” which was decked with insinuating blows to her ex-husband Russell Brand. Rihanna brought the supposed-Chris-Brown-inspired “We Found Love” to the Grammy audience (Breezy included), the lamenting lover’s anthem for both the clubgoers and Caribbean island natives that has killed radio rotations around the world. It’s safe to say that these women at their single prime were more concerned about their passions than their valentines.

If Rome wasn’t built in a day, finding a valentine shouldn’t be either.

Unless you’re a Kardashian, cementing romance within a day, weeks or even months won’t come as easily for the rest of us. Valentine’s Day shouldn’t be treated like Christmas where people scramble to find a last-minute stand-in just to have the audacity to say they weren’t alone on February 14th. If having a valentine doesn’t matter, settling for the right person to spend your time with should. With all the Hallmark hoopla that takes up unnecessary shelving in drug stores as soon as New Year’s is over, it’s easy to default to thoughts of loneliness. But once the calendar flips to the next day, the world is back to being exactly what it was without the pink and red adornments. Being colorblind to the capitalist interests of Valentine’s day will support there is no law that states every person should have a valentine or should feel horrible about not having one.

Since written cards and candy hearts in elementary school, I’ve grown a little tougher, pickier and a lot more critical of the title “valentine.” I have met less than a handful of gentlemen in my 22-year-young lifetime who have ever been worthy of being crowned as such. I’ve been treated to candlelit dinners in apartments-turned-restaurants, taken to see rom-com chick flicks, serenaded with guitar melodies and gifted tickets to see my favorite artist in concert, but the tangible gifts were more voluntary than necessary.

Valentine’s Day is open to many interpretations: a day-long fling, a milestone in a serious relationship or a traumatic memory of romance better left forgotten. Like the meaning of February 14th, women have evolved and grown into their own entity needing the men to assist or overshadow us. When it comes to a female’s status on love’s holiday, there are now more outside factors to take into account: busy careers, post-relationship success and simply, the inability to find the right one. Each just signifies a smarter, priority-driven woman who’ll know a viable Valentine when she sees one.

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Six years ago, Kelly Rowland released her fourth studio album titled Talk a Good Game. The project boasted hit singles like "Kisses Down Low" and the transparent "Dirty Laundry." Now, the Houston native is preparing to release a project that'll surely satisfy fans' patient earbuds.

In an interview with Billboard, Rowland shared her hopes for putting out a new body of work and the pressure that she's encountered since she's been in the studio. "This is by far the longest, most pressure-filled process ever, only because I know what it's supposed to be and I have been so hard on myself. I know it," she said. "And it's the first time I've said it out loud. I've been extremely hard on myself. But it's definitely coming, and I'm more so excited about this project than anything else."

The news follows the recent release of Rowland's "Kelly" track, which was met with critical acclaim in November 2018. In addition to preparing the release of new music, the "Motivation" singer discussed fans' wish for a Destiny's Child reunion. The rumors have been fueled by social media photographs of Rowland with either Beyonce or Michelle or all three, especially during Beyonce's past Coachella performance. But Rowland assures readers that it's not what they think.

"It's so funny. I guess every time people see us together, they just see music but I see sisterhood, and that's what we are and that's what me, her, Michelle [Williams] and Solange and I are. People see us all together, they immediately think music. I'm like, no. Just family." As Rowland previously mentioned Solange, she hopes to one day work with her again.

"I'm a huge fan," she said. "I love her writing and how detailed and particular she is. I always wanted to figure out how the heck she has so many different layers of harmonies when she is constructing these vocals, and it's so complex but simple. It's genius. It's the genius in her genius mind that she has in there." One of the last times the pair collaborated was on Rowland's "Simply Deep" track off her debut solo album of the same name. Solange also penned a few songs off the same project. Fast forward to 2016, and Rowland's vocals were featured on Solange's iconic A Seat at the Table.

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Teyana Taylor To Pay Homage To Ballroom Culture In "WTP" Video

Teyana Taylor aims to keep her hot streak of innovative videos coming thanks to this recent announcement. Taking to Instagram on Wednesday (Jan. 9), the "Gonna Love Me" singer will show adoration to ballroom culture in the visual for "WTP."

Directed by Gregory "Beef" Jones, The Aunties Inc., and Taylor herself, the Harlemite takes viewers on her journey to the expression-filled space where she hopes to rack up 10s across the board from a group of judges. The premise of the video also seems to follow a mockumentary format airing on a fictional network named FEMTV. Alongside Taylor, other men and women get ready to display their talents and confidence on the ballroom floor.

"WTP" is featured on the mother-of-one's sophomore album, K.T.S.E., which was released in June 2018. While the rollout's controversy didn't entirely muddle the excitement behind the project's debut, Taylor said she was sold on the idea that her album would be treated as the biggest out of G.O.O.D. Music's string of releases last year.

"I didn't know ahead of time that there wouldn't be any singles or visuals. But I knew that it was going to be the five-album thing," she said during a HOT 97 interview. "[Kanye] wanted [my album] to be last, he wanted mine to be the biggest. That's the way they sauced it up. I was sold."

The video will debut on Jan. 19. Check out the teaser below.


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👀 1.19.19 👀 #WTP Directed by @teyanataylor & @ogbeefjones @theauntiesinc 🙏🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾 The wait is ALMOST over. 😏 @museumofsex

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Trina Braxton’s Ex-Husband, Gabe Solis, Dies After Battle With Cancer

Gabe Solis, the ex-husband of Trina Braxton, lost his battle with cancer, Thursday (Dec. 20),  TMZ reports. He was 43.

Solis passed away at his home in Texas, surrounded by friends and family, according to the outlet. No official details have been released about his passing.

Solis had reportedly been keeping his cancer battle private. His death came as a shock to his loved ones. On Friday (Dec. 21), Braxton seemingly mourned the loss of her ex-husband with a cryptic Instagram meme reading, “I need a hug..E bottle of wine.”

The former couple tied the knot in 2003, and appeared together on previous seasons of WEtv’s Braxton Family Values. Despite finalizing their divorce in 2015, Braxton and Solis confronted lingering issues from their marriage during an episode of Iyanla: Fix My Life, earlier in the year.

Braxton has since moved on to a new relationship, but remained friends with Solis.


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