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Willow Smith and Her Bald Head: Why Jada and Will Have It Right

Young girls today have the reputation of being too fast, too grown and just too much all the way around. From BET’s 106 & Park to the streets of Brooklyn and Atlanta, many adults feel that they are maturing at a rate that is detrimental to not only their safety on these mean streets, but to our communities’ evolution at large.

I beg differ.

Sure, booty-shorts and dance moves better suited for Magic City than a junior-high prom are no bueno. But behavior that out-of-order is suspect coming from any woman whether she’s thirteen or thirty-three and is a sure sign of immaturity not growth. The issue I see is the attempt of adults trying to equate over-sexualized behavior with freedom of expression when the two concepts are apples and oranges.

Take Willow Smith for example. She’s smart, precocious, free-spirited and has a penchant for whipping her hair back and forth while sporting punk-rock attire and an “I’m bad and I know it” attitude. Recently, the little diva – and her parents, Hollywood royalty Will Smith and Jada Pinkett-Smith – have come under fire after she tweeted photos of herself with a shaved head.

What many people don’t realize, is that much more than a mere act of defiance, Willow is friends with a young girl named Hayley Okines who suffers from Progeria – a rare genetic disorder that not only produces rapid aging but accelerated hair-loss. In her book, Old Before My Time, little Hayley details her life battles and exhibits a strength absent in women twice her age.

Could it be that Willow shaved her head in a show of solidarity and support? And if so, how powerful is that message for other young girls who have not been taught the concept “I am my sister’s keeper”? Even if she did it simply because she likes the feel of the wind on her dome, whom exactly is she hurting?

 

Willow SmithWhile many are rolling their eyes at what they feel is a sign of a young girl gone wild and parents gone crazy, maybe, just maybe, it’s a parenting technique that many of us should implement with our own daughters. It’s entirely possible that allowing our girls to grow into their individuality and purpose without the constraints of a society that only leaves room for them to be virgins or whores is something that we should seriously consider.

True, Willow’s tendency to speak to adults -- such as her infamous Oprah interview during which she called the business mogul Giiirrrl!” and the media’s head exploded -- is a little on the sit yo ass down somewhere little girl side, but her spontaneity and ability to know exactly who she at such a young age is something that should be encouraged, not suppressed.

Think about it. How many of us didn’t find out exactly who we were as women until we left home at 18-years-old and proceeded to go through men and money like there was no tomorrow in search of that illusive independence?

How many of us still don’t know?

There are many young girls who a need a lesson in common sense; but, there are just as many grown women who have absolutely no understanding of the term. From my perspective, it all falls back to not being allowed to express themselves in a healthy, structured environment where parents were there to catch them if they made mistakes. Freedom of creative expression doesn’t equal not having home-training. Yes, we need to ensure that our girls have positive role models. Yes, they need to be instilled with that old-school wisdom that nothing is open past midnight but hospitals and legs so they had better be home before we have to come looking for them. What they do not need is for us to pigeon-hole them into that small box labeled “How Young Girls Should Act.”

Are many of our girls out of control? Absolutely. Still, lack of parenting and parenting that takes who our children are as individuals into consideration are two very different beasts.

So, you go ‘head Willow, whip your bald head back and forth and kudos to Jada and Will for having the courage to allow you to do so.

Maybe, if we take heed to their example, there won’t be so many young girls trying to identify with who they think grown women are supposed to be by paying attention to stereotypical images that define us in mainstream media.

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Six years ago, Kelly Rowland released her fourth studio album titled Talk a Good Game. The project boasted hit singles like "Kisses Down Low" and the transparent "Dirty Laundry." Now, the Houston native is preparing to release a project that'll surely satisfy fans' patient earbuds.

In an interview with Billboard, Rowland shared her hopes for putting out a new body of work and the pressure that she's encountered since she's been in the studio. "This is by far the longest, most pressure-filled process ever, only because I know what it's supposed to be and I have been so hard on myself. I know it," she said. "And it's the first time I've said it out loud. I've been extremely hard on myself. But it's definitely coming, and I'm more so excited about this project than anything else."

The news follows the recent release of Rowland's "Kelly" track, which was met with critical acclaim in November 2018. In addition to preparing the release of new music, the "Motivation" singer discussed fans' wish for a Destiny's Child reunion. The rumors have been fueled by social media photographs of Rowland with either Beyonce or Michelle or all three, especially during Beyonce's past Coachella performance. But Rowland assures readers that it's not what they think.

"It's so funny. I guess every time people see us together, they just see music but I see sisterhood, and that's what we are and that's what me, her, Michelle [Williams] and Solange and I are. People see us all together, they immediately think music. I'm like, no. Just family." As Rowland previously mentioned Solange, she hopes to one day work with her again.

"I'm a huge fan," she said. "I love her writing and how detailed and particular she is. I always wanted to figure out how the heck she has so many different layers of harmonies when she is constructing these vocals, and it's so complex but simple. It's genius. It's the genius in her genius mind that she has in there." One of the last times the pair collaborated was on Rowland's "Simply Deep" track off her debut solo album of the same name. Solange also penned a few songs off the same project. Fast forward to 2016, and Rowland's vocals were featured on Solange's iconic A Seat at the Table.

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Teyana Taylor aims to keep her hot streak of innovative videos coming thanks to this recent announcement. Taking to Instagram on Wednesday (Jan. 9), the "Gonna Love Me" singer will show adoration to ballroom culture in the visual for "WTP."

Directed by Gregory "Beef" Jones, The Aunties Inc., and Taylor herself, the Harlemite takes viewers on her journey to the expression-filled space where she hopes to rack up 10s across the board from a group of judges. The premise of the video also seems to follow a mockumentary format airing on a fictional network named FEMTV. Alongside Taylor, other men and women get ready to display their talents and confidence on the ballroom floor.

"WTP" is featured on the mother-of-one's sophomore album, K.T.S.E., which was released in June 2018. While the rollout's controversy didn't entirely muddle the excitement behind the project's debut, Taylor said she was sold on the idea that her album would be treated as the biggest out of G.O.O.D. Music's string of releases last year.

"I didn't know ahead of time that there wouldn't be any singles or visuals. But I knew that it was going to be the five-album thing," she said during a HOT 97 interview. "[Kanye] wanted [my album] to be last, he wanted mine to be the biggest. That's the way they sauced it up. I was sold."

The video will debut on Jan. 19. Check out the teaser below.

 

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Trina Braxton’s Ex-Husband, Gabe Solis, Dies After Battle With Cancer

Gabe Solis, the ex-husband of Trina Braxton, lost his battle with cancer, Thursday (Dec. 20),  TMZ reports. He was 43.

Solis passed away at his home in Texas, surrounded by friends and family, according to the outlet. No official details have been released about his passing.

Solis had reportedly been keeping his cancer battle private. His death came as a shock to his loved ones. On Friday (Dec. 21), Braxton seemingly mourned the loss of her ex-husband with a cryptic Instagram meme reading, “I need a hug..E bottle of wine.”

The former couple tied the knot in 2003, and appeared together on previous seasons of WEtv’s Braxton Family Values. Despite finalizing their divorce in 2015, Braxton and Solis confronted lingering issues from their marriage during an episode of Iyanla: Fix My Life, earlier in the year.

Braxton has since moved on to a new relationship, but remained friends with Solis.

 

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