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Working With Your Ex

and Chris Brown have already set the standard for best relationship formula not to follow. Even if they exude sexiness in a way many artists have yet to master or create music that tops the charts, the two former flames have made a controversial pair, together and separated.

Last weekend’s Grammys marked the third anniversary of the occurrence that tore the two apart. As heard in their recent albums, RiRi and Breezy have never fully gotten over their breakup or had the chance to sulk in private. It took a restraining order, a shattered window on a morning news show and a club-banger heartbreak anthem to prove it.

Now three years later, sources say the two are reuniting in the name of music, something not witnessed since their “Umbrella” collaboration. The media is on high alert for the release of a remix on one of the better Talk That Talk tracks, “Birthday Cake.” The ex-couple was also reportedly seen arriving together at Rihanna’s birthday party earlier this week. But the only people who seem to be celebrating their “platonic” reunion is them.

This has VIBE Vixen wondering: is it ever a good thing to work with your ex? Before you do (or do again in Rihanna’s case), ask yourself these simple “yes, hell no, or secretly maybe” questions to avoid a controversial mess. --Adelle Platton
Are you really over the relationship?
Just because you chucked the deuces to your relationship however long ago, you’ll never forget the way a person from your past made you feel, especially if you’re Ms. Fenty or Mr. Brown and you have the emotions preserved in a musical catalogue. You may have given back, burned or tucked away in a box all the tangible items that were given to you from your ex, but the emotional residue lingers even if the cards and stuffed animals are nowhere in sight. Working with an ex only worsens these suppressed feelings because it resurrects the. Only until you are able to be in the same room with an ex and feel no inklings of romance or remorse about the past will you be able to work with the person on a professional level.

Does working together excite you more than the actual project?
If the priority lies in making sure he notices how much you’ve changed so that he or she may want to pick up where the both of you left off, you may want to rethink your motives. Don’t let the project be the reason that shrouds your true feelings about collaborating with your former half. Focus on the goal and be clear about each of your contributions. Success isn’t spelled with an ex.

Do you still hang out with your ex after the project is completed?
Carrying the one always helps solve problems in math, but in relationships, no logic can be deducted from adding extra baggage, especially old ones. As busy women with little time to waste, always double-check the amount of time you spend on someone else, 'specifically an ex. It is hard to pinpoint the exact beginning and end of Rihanna and Chris Brown’s recording process, but the suspicion that the two spend quality time together is enough to assume that their relationship extends beyond the music.

Are you okay with the contact ending once the collaboration is done?
Maybe you embarked on a new endeavor with your ex, not realizing that once the work is over, it’s back to a normal reality sans him or her. Before beginning the project, visualize the end result and your emotional reaction to it. The task may be temporary, but your response to lingering feelings for your former beau will dictate how you deal with the final product. It’s safe to say that the revised version of “Birthday Cake” is prime and ready to leak, but rumors of Rih and Breezy hanging out on the low and showing up together for her birthday party rouse suspicions. Regardless of who they’ve been with post-Chrianna, they just can’t escape each other in music and love.

If in a relationship at present, does your beau know?
Selective truth-telling is a guaranteed sign you are not working with your ex for the right reasons. Take Brown’s stylist girlfriend, Karreuche Tran. Her recent tweets made her sentiments about Rihanna clear and after seeing that the male love interest in Rih’s “We Found Love” looks like a mirror image of Breezy, it’s expected that Karreuche has her guards up. Those who are cuffed need to be honest with their significant others when it comes to any aspect of their prior relationships. Chris may have tatted the face of his present girl to let her know it’s real, but if she was the last to know about this remix, it will need more than ink to prove where his heart lies. Lying to someone who loves you is just as bad as lying to yourself.

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Six years ago, Kelly Rowland released her fourth studio album titled Talk a Good Game. The project boasted hit singles like "Kisses Down Low" and the transparent "Dirty Laundry." Now, the Houston native is preparing to release a project that'll surely satisfy fans' patient earbuds.

In an interview with Billboard, Rowland shared her hopes for putting out a new body of work and the pressure that she's encountered since she's been in the studio. "This is by far the longest, most pressure-filled process ever, only because I know what it's supposed to be and I have been so hard on myself. I know it," she said. "And it's the first time I've said it out loud. I've been extremely hard on myself. But it's definitely coming, and I'm more so excited about this project than anything else."

The news follows the recent release of Rowland's "Kelly" track, which was met with critical acclaim in November 2018. In addition to preparing the release of new music, the "Motivation" singer discussed fans' wish for a Destiny's Child reunion. The rumors have been fueled by social media photographs of Rowland with either Beyonce or Michelle or all three, especially during Beyonce's past Coachella performance. But Rowland assures readers that it's not what they think.

"It's so funny. I guess every time people see us together, they just see music but I see sisterhood, and that's what we are and that's what me, her, Michelle [Williams] and Solange and I are. People see us all together, they immediately think music. I'm like, no. Just family." As Rowland previously mentioned Solange, she hopes to one day work with her again.

"I'm a huge fan," she said. "I love her writing and how detailed and particular she is. I always wanted to figure out how the heck she has so many different layers of harmonies when she is constructing these vocals, and it's so complex but simple. It's genius. It's the genius in her genius mind that she has in there." One of the last times the pair collaborated was on Rowland's "Simply Deep" track off her debut solo album of the same name. Solange also penned a few songs off the same project. Fast forward to 2016, and Rowland's vocals were featured on Solange's iconic A Seat at the Table.

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Teyana Taylor To Pay Homage To Ballroom Culture In "WTP" Video

Teyana Taylor aims to keep her hot streak of innovative videos coming thanks to this recent announcement. Taking to Instagram on Wednesday (Jan. 9), the "Gonna Love Me" singer will show adoration to ballroom culture in the visual for "WTP."

Directed by Gregory "Beef" Jones, The Aunties Inc., and Taylor herself, the Harlemite takes viewers on her journey to the expression-filled space where she hopes to rack up 10s across the board from a group of judges. The premise of the video also seems to follow a mockumentary format airing on a fictional network named FEMTV. Alongside Taylor, other men and women get ready to display their talents and confidence on the ballroom floor.

"WTP" is featured on the mother-of-one's sophomore album, K.T.S.E., which was released in June 2018. While the rollout's controversy didn't entirely muddle the excitement behind the project's debut, Taylor said she was sold on the idea that her album would be treated as the biggest out of G.O.O.D. Music's string of releases last year.

"I didn't know ahead of time that there wouldn't be any singles or visuals. But I knew that it was going to be the five-album thing," she said during a HOT 97 interview. "[Kanye] wanted [my album] to be last, he wanted mine to be the biggest. That's the way they sauced it up. I was sold."

The video will debut on Jan. 19. Check out the teaser below.


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👀 1.19.19 👀 #WTP Directed by @teyanataylor & @ogbeefjones @theauntiesinc 🙏🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾 The wait is ALMOST over. 😏 @museumofsex

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Trina Braxton’s Ex-Husband, Gabe Solis, Dies After Battle With Cancer

Gabe Solis, the ex-husband of Trina Braxton, lost his battle with cancer, Thursday (Dec. 20),  TMZ reports. He was 43.

Solis passed away at his home in Texas, surrounded by friends and family, according to the outlet. No official details have been released about his passing.

Solis had reportedly been keeping his cancer battle private. His death came as a shock to his loved ones. On Friday (Dec. 21), Braxton seemingly mourned the loss of her ex-husband with a cryptic Instagram meme reading, “I need a hug..E bottle of wine.”

The former couple tied the knot in 2003, and appeared together on previous seasons of WEtv’s Braxton Family Values. Despite finalizing their divorce in 2015, Braxton and Solis confronted lingering issues from their marriage during an episode of Iyanla: Fix My Life, earlier in the year.

Braxton has since moved on to a new relationship, but remained friends with Solis.


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