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And This Is Why Men Hate Weaves?

A couple of days ago, I came across an article in the blogosphere written by a black male who went on and on about why he hated weaves. One of his arguments could have been warranted – and when I say some I mean one, most of his points were ridiculous and ill-researched.

Yes we are all entitled to our own opinion but I am tired of people, black men in particular, attacking black women who wear weaves as if we are the only race wearing them. Not to mention, why is it your concern what another woman chooses to do with her hair?

As an avid weave-wearer and devoted natural-haired sista, I could care less if you, random black man, like what’s going on with my hair. It’s my hair whether it’s bought from a store or growing out of my scalp. Most can agree, the whole natural hair versus weaved hair discussion is so overdone. However, I felt compelled to debunk or refute some of the many reasons men absolutely hate weaves on our heads.

1. Weaves are fake and look fake.

Ok weave haters, you might be correct with this first thought. Weaves are indeed fake in the sense that they did not naturally grow from the wearer’s head. True story, I can’t argue with you on that. With that being said, I assume you also hate fake nails, fake boobs and Nicky Minaj’s butt.

As for the second part of this statement, “weaves look fake”, is only true on a case-by-case basis. Yes, I have seen some atrocious hot mess weaves. And yes, some of the best weaves may see a bad day. However, I can assure you that there are fabulous, you-can’t-tell-it’s-a-weave hairstyles out there. Gabrielle Union, Lauren London and Kim Kardashian (a non-black weave-wearer) just to name a few are proof that some weaves exist that do not look fake. It’s not only celebrities who can achieve believable weaves either. I have seen some great weaves on everyday women in my day. Fellas, I’m sure when approached by a woman rocking a good weave, you wouldn’t even be able to tell the difference.

2. I can’t run my fingers through your hair.

When I have my weave in, I don’t like when anyone plays in it or touches it but that goes the same for when my hair is natural or pressed. When my hair is done, I don’t want you putting your hands all in it messing it up. But hey, that’s just me. I can’t speak for all the women in the world.

3. It’s not sanitary.

Most store-bought hair is cleaned and chemically treated prior to being packaged. As for Virgin Indian hair, most retailers shampoo and condition the hair before selling. Not to mention, many weave-wearers will wash their hair to keep it fresh and clean. Do you honestly think women who wear weaves neglect to wash their hair? Again, I can’t speak for all women who wear weaves but maintaining healthy and clean hair is always a priority, whether weaved up or not.

4. A weave-wearer has a false sense of beauty and ultimately hates herself.

Again, this is another statement that can only be applied on a case-by-case basis. Yes, I agree there are some women who feel that they only look beautiful when they have their straight Yaki hair in. These women have not come to love their naturally kinky hair and prefer a more European aesthetic. However, this is not the case for all black women who wear weave. For instance, sometimes I wear a weave because I want to drastically change up my hair, whether it be experimenting with texture, color, or length. If I fried and died my natural hair, like I did some of my weaves, it would be safe to say that I would have no hair left. Weaves can be great protective hairstyles, if your real hair is maintained and treated properly. Not all of weave wearers hate ourselves.

5. She’s high maintenance.

This stereotype is annoying and silly. According to some ignorant people, natural hair sistas are down-to-earth, not afraid to get their hands dirty and care more about feminism and black rights. On the other hand, weaved up ladies or those with relaxers care more about labels, looking fly and being promiscuous. I don’t even feel the need to address these lies, so I’m just going to move down to the final reason men hate weaves.

6. It’s unethical.

For those who purchase Indian hair, there are some ethical issues that come into play. If you saw Chris Rock’s Good Hair, you know that many of these women are tricked into believing that they are sacrificing their hair for religious purposes. Unfortunately, in actuality, their hair is being sold without them knowing about it or receiving any compensation. For many of us, the ethics involved in hair purchase don’t even cross our minds; however it should be something we consider and educate ourselves in. There are many hair companies including Indian hair retailers that pride themselves in providing ethically sourced hair. Not all weave hair is unethical.

So there you have it! Note: this is just my opinion on some of black men’s many reasons why they hate weave. You can agree or disagree. But one thing is for sure, we should care more about what is on our own head than judging and categorizing others for what they choose to do to theirs.

What do you think about weave critics?

-Chelsea Wilkins

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