The Up and Down


We do it in groups. We do it alone. We do it in public. We do it behind closed doors. We’ve done it to our co-workers, classmates, even strangers on the street. At times it’s been unconscious. Other times, we were well aware. Yes, we’re guilty of sizing up other women. Our eyes almost instinctively travel from the tip of their toes to the top of their heads. We compare our outfits, our bodies, our makeup and our hair.

She thinks she’s so cute.

The thoughts begin. A woman walks into the bar or boardroom, and we’re immediately assessing her appearance. Sometimes it’s as subtle as, “Those jeans do nothing for her.” Or, “Ugh, what was she thinking when she got dressed?” Whether it occurs daily or every so often, many of us put other women down in order to feel better about ourselves. We nitpick and compare, notice others’ flaws as a distraction from our own. There’s the pressure to compete, outperform and even impress other women. But why?

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