Nick Cannon Mariah Nick Cannon Mariah

Why Younger Men Love Older Women

For the single ladies, comfort lies in the thought that there are plenty of fish in the sea, but it seems that more and more men are now bringing cougars into the territory. The long-lasting trend in Hollywood romance has been a significant age difference with women on the more “experienced” side. Here are three possible reasons why the fellas tend to love above their age limit.

1. Older Women Are Great At Babying
The radio disc jockey and entertainment CEO Nick Cannon can vouch for that. After appearing on ABC’s Good Morning America this past week to discuss his rare form of lupus, he called his wife Mariah Carey his doctor. “She made me an egg-white sandwich before I left the house this morning,” he said. “Those are the things I have to be eating now, no more bacon. She takes care of me, makes sure I’m eating what I’m supposed to be.”

The America’s Got Talent host makes sure to keep the happy meals away as long as his happy wife is around. Although fairly odd couple boasts an 11-year age difference (Cannon, 31 and Carey, 42), their almost four-year romance has remained strong, even baring the high-pitched singer her first children, twins Monroe and Moroccan. Cannon even admitted to Oprah in 2008 that he grew up crushing on Carey and begged for a chance right before the pair tatted each other’s names on their bodies. Regardless of his hectic schedule and her diva glam lifestyle, she still finds time to be the household wife, keeping Cannon from firing away from her any time soon.

2. Older Women Don’t Make Break-Ups Awkward
Before wifin' up Jessica Biel, Justin Timberlake brought Cameron Diaz’s sexy back in early 2003, when they began dating for four years on-and-off. At the time of their split, Diaz was 34 and Timberlake was 25, nearly a decade’s difference. But it wasn’t the fact that the former N-SYNC’er pined for her as a teen that brought his big boy dreams to life. It was their shared sense of quirky humor and love for adventure and surfing that kept their bond locked for a good while."It's not like this is the first time in the history of human relationships that people were drawn to one another because of who they are, not what age they are," Diaz told W Magazine in 2004.

Nearly four years later, they were able to enjoy on-screen sex scenes together post-breakup on the set of the film Bad Teacher, but there was no awkward tension to complain about. “No, it's great. Justin and I have always had a good laugh together, and to make a movie where we get to have a laugh together, and there really was no one else who was more perfect for this part," Diaz told Us Magazine, even gushing that he was a comedic genius. Guys can appreciate a woman who won’t write emo love songs Taylor Swift-style once the tie is cut, especially one who can work with their younger exes like a professional in the most intense situations.

3. Older Women Rarely Slow Down
Even if 53-year-old Madonna has been divorced twice and has a 15-year-old daughter, she can still sing and dance the pants off some of today’s young female artists. I’m sure her 24-year-old boyfriend can agree.

Brahim Zaibat is the dapper French dancer who has cuffed Madge since 2010. She told ABC’s 20/20 in January, “I didn't, like, write down on a piece of paper 'I'm now going to have a relationship with a younger man.' That's just what happened. You see, that's the romantic in me. I just met someone that I cared for, and this happened to be his age." With her new album M.D.N.A. set to release later this year, it’s no wonder Zaibat has reportedly already gotten down on one knee to wed the pop icon. She also said that he “feels a connection with my children and respects the idea that they have to be a role model as well.” Even if Madonna’s age shows no signs of stopping her from doing what and who she wants, Zaibat understands the expectations that come with being with a high-profile celebrity and is probably enjoying the ride. Let’s just hope he’s not a material boy.

From the Web

More on Vibe

VIBE Vixen/ Jessica Xie

VIBE Vixen's Boss Talk Podcast: Meet Peppermint, The Boss Using Her Gifts For Good

VIBE Vixen's Boss Talk podcast amplifies the voices of women and she/her-identifying individuals in their respective industries as they discuss their journeys toward becoming the bosses we know today. From their demeanor and confidence and persevering through life’s pitfalls to make a name for themselves in their own way, being a boss is much more than 'just running sh*t.'

Miss Peppermint started as a staple in the New York nightlife scene, and after appearing as a contestant on the ninth season of RuPaul's Drag Race, she’s continued to make a name for herself.

Outside of the show, she's traveled the world and is hoping to release her third album, which she hints will be influenced by the '90s, R&B, and neo-soul. She's also planning on re-releasing her debut album, Hardcore Glamour, for its 10-year anniversary.

"I'll be doing a lot in New York this year for World Pride," she explains to Boss Talk's host, J'na Jefferson. Pride takes place throughout June. "The last album I dropped was 2017... I'm excited about that, I'm writing it now. It's just poems, but I'm excited."

Peppermint, who was the first openly transgender contestant on the Emmy Award-winning show, was also the first transgender woman to originate a principal role on Broadway for her role as Pythio in Head Over Heels. 

 

View this post on Instagram

 

A post shared by Head Over Heels (@hohmusical) on Jan 31, 2019 at 12:26pm PST

"On paper, it shouldn't make sense... it's hard to explain what it is," she says of the musical, which combined a loose adaptation of 16th-century piece The Countess of Pembroke's Arcadia with the music of the new wave group, The Go-Go's. It closed in late-2018.

"The better way to explain it now that it's over and closed is 'a revolutionary show about dismantling the patriarchy...'" she says about Head Over Heels. "I knew that they wanted to cast a trans actor... I wanted to put as much as I could into it, and try to do our non-binary siblings well and proud... [the show] became something I really believed in."

Peppermint continues to share her love of performing all over the world and is also an activist, who aims to promote the importance of LGBTQIA representation and advancement. She has worked and supported organizations such as The Point Foundation, which aims to help LGBTQIA students attend college. 

"People are just starting to catch on that having queer voices is essential and inevitable," she says of further representation of LGBTQIA individuals in media and entertainment. She praises Pose creator Ryan Murphy for showcasing trans people of color both in front of the camera and behind-the-scenes.

"Giving [trans people] the power to speak for themselves, rather than slapping the community with stereotypes or archetypes... we're past that," she continues. "We're not in the phase where they're feeling comfortable to be who they are, but I think we're getting close."

Listen to the full episode below.

Continue Reading
Getty Images

Kush & Splendor: 5 CBD Beauty Products That’ll Take Your Self-Care Routine From 0 To 100

Lotions, creams, and salves—oh my! With cannabidiol (CBD) popping up in just about every product you can imagine, the cannabis-infused beauty industry is clearly on the come-up. In fact, analysts predict that the “wellness” movement—as well as the legalization of Mary Jane across the world—will help rake in $25 billion globally in the next 10 years, according to Business Insider. That’s 15 percent of the $167 billion skincare market.

And what better way to up the ante on one’s wellness routine than with all-natural CBD? Just ask Dr. Lana Butner, naturopathic doctor and acupuncturist at NYC’s Modrn Sanctuary, who incorporates CBD in her treatments.

“CBD is a fantastic addition to acupuncture sessions for both its relaxation and anti-inflammatory, pain-relieving effects,” Butner shares with Vixen. “The calming effects of CBD allows for patients to deeply relax into the treatment and really tap into the parasympathetic nervous system, which is responsible for rest, digestion and muscle repair/regeneration.”

She adds that CBD’s pain-relieving effects are “far-reaching,” from muscular and joint pains to migraines and arthritis—and even IBS and indigestion.

The magic lies in CBD’s ability to impact endocannabinoid receptor activity in our bodies. Without getting too wordy, our bodies come equipped with a system called the endocannabinoid system (ECS), which is the HBIC over our sleep, appetite, pain and immune system response. Also known as cannabidiol, CBD teams up with this system to help reduce inflammation and interact with neurotransmitters. According to Healthline, CBD has also been scientifically shown to impact the brain’s receptors for serotonin, the neurotransmitter responsible for regulating our mood and social behavior.

All that said, it’s important to note that not all CBD products are created equal. Many brands cashing in on the green beauty wave use hemp seed oil, sometimes referred to as cannabis sativa seed oil, in place of CBD... which doesn’t make them any less great! Hemp seed oil is actually high in antioxidants, amino acids, and omega-3 and -6 fatty acids—all of which are thebomb.com for your skin.

“It’s generally viewed as a superfood and is great for adding nutritional value to your diet,” Ashley Lewis, co-founder of Fleur Marché, told Well and Good last month. “In terms of skin care, it’s known as a powerful moisturizer and skin softener that doesn’t clog pores or contribute to oily skin.”

However, when companies start marketing CBD and hemp oil as one-in-the-same, that’s when things get a bit tricky.

“The biggest issue is that hemp seed oil and CBD are two totally different compounds that come from different parts of the hemp plant, have different makeups, and different benefits,” Lewis added. “Marketing them as the same thing just isn’t accurate and does a disservice to consumers who are expecting certain benefits that they won’t get from hemp seed oil and who are often paying more for what they think is CBD.”

So if you’re looking to benefit from the perks specifically attributed to CBD, make sure you’re reading labels before buying, and don’t be afraid to ask questions. Hell, ask for a product’s test results, while you’re at it. It never hurts to be sure.

Now that we’ve got that out of the way, are you ready to see what all the hype is about? For this 4/20, we rounded up a few CBD (and hemp!)-infused products to help give your self-care routine a bit of a boost. Looks like your holiday just got that much kushier. You’re welcome!

Note: Data and regulations surrounding CBD and its use are still in development. That said, please don’t take anything written in this post as medical or legal advice, and definitely double check the laws in your state. Also, please do your body a favor and hit up your doctor before trying any new supplements. We’re just tryna look out for you. Okay? Okay. Read on.

Continue Reading
Matt Winkelmeyer/Getty Images

Vivica A. Fox Explains Past Hesitance Behind 'Two Can Play That Game' Script

In a new interview with Essence, actress Vivica A. Fox discussed how she initially turned down her role in Two Can Play That Game based on the script. The established entertainer said it's her mission to ensure that black people are positively portrayed onscreen, and noticed the aforementioned film's prose didn't live up to those standards.

"I think the reason why—no I know the reason why—I've been doing this for such a long time is that I fight," Fox said. "When we did Two Can Play That Game, I fought for the way we talked, walked, the way we loved each other." The Set It Off actress continued to state that she consistently declined Two Can Play That Game before signing on to play the lead role. "Because the script, when I first got it, I turned it down three times because it just wasn't a good representation of African-Americans, so I fought them on everything," she noted. "I want to make sure that the images of African-Americans are as positive and as true as they can possibly be."

In 2001, the romantic comedy debuted to fanfare, boasting an all-star cast of Morris Chestnut, Mo'Nique, Anthony Anderson, Bobby Brown, Gabrielle Union, Wendy Raquel Robinson, and more. Directed by Mark Brown (Barbershop, Iverson, How To Be A Player), Fox plays a career driven person named Shante Smith who navigates a curveball when her boyfriend Keith Fenton (Chestnut) cheats on her with a co-worker.

After its release, Two Can Play That Game raked in over $22 million at the box office.

Continue Reading

Top Stories