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(L-R) Kristen (Gabrielle Union) and Jeremy (Jerry Ferrara) at home in Screen Gems' THINK LIKE A MAN.

3 Dangers of Dating a Dreamer

In Think Like a Man, which hits theaters today, the character Gabrielle Union dates is described as a dreamer. Basically, he hasn’t progressed past the college stage—futons and all. He doesn’t have a good job, he has goals, but he doesn’t make it happen. Gabrielle said she’s actually dated a few dreamers in real life—also known as losers to some—and confesses she didn’t break the cycle until she met her current beau Dwayne Wade. Off top, there’s nothing completely wrong with being a dreamer, you just need to know know which kind you’re dealing with. There’s the Barack Obama dreamer who had a goal he wanted to accomplish and made it happen and then there’s the “I know what I want to do with my life but don’t put in enough effort to make it happen type of dreamer.” If you haven’t been as lucky as Gaby to snatch the total package yet, there are a few dangers you should be aware of when it comes to sticking it out with the dreamer type.

More often than not, you foot the bill
Nothing’s wrong with going dutch in a relationship or treating your man from time to time but when you always have to pay for the both of you to go out, it can weigh on you and your wallet. Chances are if this man is a dreamer, he may be stuck in a dead-end job with little play or he may even be unemployed waiting for that next big break or to become his own boss. If you see real potential in your man and action (key word) being put into achieving his dreams, then nothing’s wrong with holding him down. Unless he’s a jerk, he’ll return the favor 10-fold when he gets his big break. But if you sense he’s just holding on for the free ride, it’s time to drop him off.

Mood swings
If your man isn’t where he wants to be, he could easily take his frustrations with his circumstances out on you. Most times his anger isn’t really about you, he’s more angry with himself and what he hasn’t been able to accomplish, but it can be tiresome dealing with a Darrell downer all the time because he feels stuck in a rut. He also could be harboring a bit of resentment toward you for being further along in life though, or having made some of your dreams a reality and that jealousy will take a serious toll on the relationship. Be patient with him when you can but if it gets to be too much, call him out on it.

He never stops dreaming
The biggest danger of dating a dreamer is that they never stop dreaming, meaning they never progress. Their goals remain dreams rather than accomplishments and all the frustrations you both experience with him being in that state never end. A rut is one thing, but if we’re talking nine years down the line like the relationship Gabrielle Union’s character is in, it’s safe to say he’s hit the snooze button on life and you need to go. Decide how long you’re willing to stick it out for him to have more tallies under the accomplishment side of the board rather than the dreams and hold yourself to it.

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Six years ago, Kelly Rowland released her fourth studio album titled Talk a Good Game. The project boasted hit singles like "Kisses Down Low" and the transparent "Dirty Laundry." Now, the Houston native is preparing to release a project that'll surely satisfy fans' patient earbuds.

In an interview with Billboard, Rowland shared her hopes for putting out a new body of work and the pressure that she's encountered since she's been in the studio. "This is by far the longest, most pressure-filled process ever, only because I know what it's supposed to be and I have been so hard on myself. I know it," she said. "And it's the first time I've said it out loud. I've been extremely hard on myself. But it's definitely coming, and I'm more so excited about this project than anything else."

The news follows the recent release of Rowland's "Kelly" track, which was met with critical acclaim in November 2018. In addition to preparing the release of new music, the "Motivation" singer discussed fans' wish for a Destiny's Child reunion. The rumors have been fueled by social media photographs of Rowland with either Beyonce or Michelle or all three, especially during Beyonce's past Coachella performance. But Rowland assures readers that it's not what they think.

"It's so funny. I guess every time people see us together, they just see music but I see sisterhood, and that's what we are and that's what me, her, Michelle [Williams] and Solange and I are. People see us all together, they immediately think music. I'm like, no. Just family." As Rowland previously mentioned Solange, she hopes to one day work with her again.

"I'm a huge fan," she said. "I love her writing and how detailed and particular she is. I always wanted to figure out how the heck she has so many different layers of harmonies when she is constructing these vocals, and it's so complex but simple. It's genius. It's the genius in her genius mind that she has in there." One of the last times the pair collaborated was on Rowland's "Simply Deep" track off her debut solo album of the same name. Solange also penned a few songs off the same project. Fast forward to 2016, and Rowland's vocals were featured on Solange's iconic A Seat at the Table.

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Teyana Taylor aims to keep her hot streak of innovative videos coming thanks to this recent announcement. Taking to Instagram on Wednesday (Jan. 9), the "Gonna Love Me" singer will show adoration to ballroom culture in the visual for "WTP."

Directed by Gregory "Beef" Jones, The Aunties Inc., and Taylor herself, the Harlemite takes viewers on her journey to the expression-filled space where she hopes to rack up 10s across the board from a group of judges. The premise of the video also seems to follow a mockumentary format airing on a fictional network named FEMTV. Alongside Taylor, other men and women get ready to display their talents and confidence on the ballroom floor.

"WTP" is featured on the mother-of-one's sophomore album, K.T.S.E., which was released in June 2018. While the rollout's controversy didn't entirely muddle the excitement behind the project's debut, Taylor said she was sold on the idea that her album would be treated as the biggest out of G.O.O.D. Music's string of releases last year.

"I didn't know ahead of time that there wouldn't be any singles or visuals. But I knew that it was going to be the five-album thing," she said during a HOT 97 interview. "[Kanye] wanted [my album] to be last, he wanted mine to be the biggest. That's the way they sauced it up. I was sold."

The video will debut on Jan. 19. Check out the teaser below.


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Gabe Solis, the ex-husband of Trina Braxton, lost his battle with cancer, Thursday (Dec. 20),  TMZ reports. He was 43.

Solis passed away at his home in Texas, surrounded by friends and family, according to the outlet. No official details have been released about his passing.

Solis had reportedly been keeping his cancer battle private. His death came as a shock to his loved ones. On Friday (Dec. 21), Braxton seemingly mourned the loss of her ex-husband with a cryptic Instagram meme reading, “I need a hug..E bottle of wine.”

The former couple tied the knot in 2003, and appeared together on previous seasons of WEtv’s Braxton Family Values. Despite finalizing their divorce in 2015, Braxton and Solis confronted lingering issues from their marriage during an episode of Iyanla: Fix My Life, earlier in the year.

Braxton has since moved on to a new relationship, but remained friends with Solis.


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