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The Guide to Gettin' Chose.

It's spring. The weather's soon to break. This can only mean one thing: there's about to be a lot of folks out here in these streets, choosin’ and "gettin' chose." If you're the Sadie Hawkins type, you can stop reading here. This probably isn't for you. You're likely already finessing a flirty game plan; far be it from me to question your playbook.

But if you're the come-hither type, hoping to catch a potential cuddlebud's attention before summer, here are a few time-tested times you may want to consider:

1. Get tested. Nothing pumps the brakes on impulsive sexcapades than paps and STI tests. Even if it’s been a while and you don’t really think you need it, get out there, see your GYN and bone up (no pun intended) on all the latest in symptoms, treatments, and contraceptive options. (Now if you’re celibate and looking to stay that way, it’s still a good idea to see your doc before getting back out there this spring. Let your annual exam double as reinforcement for why you’ve decided to keep your ladyparts on lockdown in the first place.)

2. Be honest. That means with yourself and with your possible partner. Be upfront about what you want: a fling, a friendship, an eventual life partner. The way folks go into heat when the weather changes, you're likely to find someone who's game for any of the above.

3. Invest in sundresses. Men love sundresses; it’s a scientific fact. Something about the femininity of flowing fabrics and the way they cling to a woman’s ample curves on a breezy afternoon drives them a little insane. Let that work to your advantage.

4. Embrace a balance between chivalry and equity. Maybe he’s going to open doors and pick up the table or walk on the outermost part of the sidewalk. Maybe he’ll go as far as laying down his jacket in a puddle during a particularly torrential April shower. That’s awesome. Don’t fight it. Acing yourself out of niceties to prove your independence is a losing game. But if your first few dates turn into something ongoing, it might be a good idea to turn the tables. Offer to pay for a date. Be particularly generous with your compliments. Suggest that you’ll pick him up, rather than the other way around. Gas is a grip; he’ll appreciate you.

5. JBY: just be yourself. It may seem cliché but clichés have the ring of truth, or else they wouldn’t work as clichés. So here we go. There’s no use in feigning interest in things that don’t move you, no benefit to holding your tongue when you passionately disagree with him, no good reason to say, “That’s okay,” when he’s an hour late, texts instead of calls, or never returns attempts to contact him. Your disinterest, frustration, and/or anger will seep out eventually—and usually at an inopportune time. So drop all pretense and let your freak flag fly. You are who you are and if dude doesn’t get it, you ain’t for him to get.

Good luck out there!

- Stacia Brown

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Six years ago, Kelly Rowland released her fourth studio album titled Talk a Good Game. The project boasted hit singles like "Kisses Down Low" and the transparent "Dirty Laundry." Now, the Houston native is preparing to release a project that'll surely satisfy fans' patient earbuds.

In an interview with Billboard, Rowland shared her hopes for putting out a new body of work and the pressure that she's encountered since she's been in the studio. "This is by far the longest, most pressure-filled process ever, only because I know what it's supposed to be and I have been so hard on myself. I know it," she said. "And it's the first time I've said it out loud. I've been extremely hard on myself. But it's definitely coming, and I'm more so excited about this project than anything else."

The news follows the recent release of Rowland's "Kelly" track, which was met with critical acclaim in November 2018. In addition to preparing the release of new music, the "Motivation" singer discussed fans' wish for a Destiny's Child reunion. The rumors have been fueled by social media photographs of Rowland with either Beyonce or Michelle or all three, especially during Beyonce's past Coachella performance. But Rowland assures readers that it's not what they think.

"It's so funny. I guess every time people see us together, they just see music but I see sisterhood, and that's what we are and that's what me, her, Michelle [Williams] and Solange and I are. People see us all together, they immediately think music. I'm like, no. Just family." As Rowland previously mentioned Solange, she hopes to one day work with her again.

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Teyana Taylor aims to keep her hot streak of innovative videos coming thanks to this recent announcement. Taking to Instagram on Wednesday (Jan. 9), the "Gonna Love Me" singer will show adoration to ballroom culture in the visual for "WTP."

Directed by Gregory "Beef" Jones, The Aunties Inc., and Taylor herself, the Harlemite takes viewers on her journey to the expression-filled space where she hopes to rack up 10s across the board from a group of judges. The premise of the video also seems to follow a mockumentary format airing on a fictional network named FEMTV. Alongside Taylor, other men and women get ready to display their talents and confidence on the ballroom floor.

"WTP" is featured on the mother-of-one's sophomore album, K.T.S.E., which was released in June 2018. While the rollout's controversy didn't entirely muddle the excitement behind the project's debut, Taylor said she was sold on the idea that her album would be treated as the biggest out of G.O.O.D. Music's string of releases last year.

"I didn't know ahead of time that there wouldn't be any singles or visuals. But I knew that it was going to be the five-album thing," she said during a HOT 97 interview. "[Kanye] wanted [my album] to be last, he wanted mine to be the biggest. That's the way they sauced it up. I was sold."

The video will debut on Jan. 19. Check out the teaser below.


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Gabe Solis, the ex-husband of Trina Braxton, lost his battle with cancer, Thursday (Dec. 20),  TMZ reports. He was 43.

Solis passed away at his home in Texas, surrounded by friends and family, according to the outlet. No official details have been released about his passing.

Solis had reportedly been keeping his cancer battle private. His death came as a shock to his loved ones. On Friday (Dec. 21), Braxton seemingly mourned the loss of her ex-husband with a cryptic Instagram meme reading, “I need a hug..E bottle of wine.”

The former couple tied the knot in 2003, and appeared together on previous seasons of WEtv’s Braxton Family Values. Despite finalizing their divorce in 2015, Braxton and Solis confronted lingering issues from their marriage during an episode of Iyanla: Fix My Life, earlier in the year.

Braxton has since moved on to a new relationship, but remained friends with Solis.


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