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Vintage Vixen: Tips to Getting Down and Dirty

[Ed. note: Vintage Vixen is a new addition to the content family. In this section, you will find articles from Vixen's print days that are trendsetting and still the definition of sexy.]

You’ve mastered the basics but want to elevate your sex game, right? People aren’t born sexual vixens, they learn and grow into them. Here are 7 tips that will take your sexy time with that special person to the next level. Whether it’s how to own him with that perfect kiss or soothe him with a sensual massage, these tips will have him on his knees praising the goddess that you are. --Barron Claiborne (VIBE Vixen, Fall 2005)

Don’t Hold Your Tongue
If you want to make your man quiver try a little clever wordplay. Talking dirty is a skill, but it’s not hard to learn-even if you’re used to playing the good-girl role. First, you’ll need to figure out if he’s game and be sure to have that chat when you’re out of the bedroom to avoid an awkward situation. Next would be practice, practice, practice. Flip through erotica novels, listen to voice overs of late night phone commercials, and scan porn sites for ideas. You’ll discover your own nasty-girl voice and you’ll uncover some steamy sex scripts to steal at the same time. Try some of those lewd lines out on your man. Pay attention to his reactions to figure out what turns him on. When all else fails, if you’re still unsure about what to say in the heat of the moment just ask your partner what they want to hear.

Dress For The Occasion
If you think silky lingerie doesn’t make a difference because you’ll only be wearing it for 3.2 seconds, think again, It makes a huge you. Sure, you want to wear something that’ll drive your man crazy. But what will get his heart (and other essential parts) pumping overtime is lingerie that heightens your own confidence. When you’re buying the outfit, remember to pick lingerie that accentuates your best body part. If you’ve got a booty, work some lacy boy shorts and forget about a G-string. Love your breasts? A demi-cut bra or sexy camisole could be your thing, just make sure you have enough support. Got a rock solid body/ Slip into a sheer teddy. What’s not hot? finger fumbling fabrics. Skip anything with too many buttons, confusing zippers, or skin tight cling that he’ll need some crisco and a spatula to get you out of.

Bare It All
Now that you’re all dressed up with- fortunately- no place to go, it’s time to get naked! But don’t remove your clothes yourself. When it comes to undressing your guy, you should take your time as well. Don’t just rip his clothes off. Flirt a little bit. If he’s got on a button-down shirt, unbutton each button slowly and seductively to get him excited.

Hit the Right Notes
Even if you decide to skip the candles and don’t want to shell out  for a pair of heels, you must set the mood with some sexy slow jams. Throwing any old mixtape together. You have to select music that speaks for you. Listen to the lyrics and make sure your transitions are smooth and sexy, not abrupt.

Rub-a-Dub Style
For men, 5-10 minutes of a massage will have him ready to jump your bones. So make the minutes that you do have count by rubbing him the right way. Start on the floor or another flat surface for good leverage. You also want to target your man’s trouble spots. Men tend to carry more tension in their shoulders, in between their shoulder blades, and in their head. So concentrate on kneading and using long, sensual strokes on those areas.
A Kiss Isn’t Always Just a Kiss
Kisses don’t need to be cinematic. Some of the best kisses are spontaneous. That means you shouldn't wait for a routine hello peck, good-bye smooch, or a lets have sex lip-lock. Kiss your man whenever you think about it-when he says something that makes you smile, when you pushed together on a crowded subway, when something reminds you of your first date.

Blow Him Away
Standing at the bus stop, sucking on a lollipop is a lot different from giving a blow job. It just doesn’t get your juices flowing the same way, which means you’re working the bad kind of friction. Saliva is a must, so if you can’t muster enough saliva, a little store bought lube goes a long way. Even if you’re not the most confident person in the world when it comes to oral sex, psych yourself up and act like you are. Just focusing all your attention on one person in a heating moment can be so arousing for your partner.

Re-written by Leonisa Johnson

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The news follows the recent release of Rowland's "Kelly" track, which was met with critical acclaim in November 2018. In addition to preparing the release of new music, the "Motivation" singer discussed fans' wish for a Destiny's Child reunion. The rumors have been fueled by social media photographs of Rowland with either Beyonce or Michelle or all three, especially during Beyonce's past Coachella performance. But Rowland assures readers that it's not what they think.

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