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10 Tips for Battling Relationship Insecurities

No, we're not crazy. No, we're not delusional. And we're not overreacting. We are women. And we are emotional creatures, especially when it comes to the opposite sex.

In any relationship, we have to deal with modern day challenges whether it's friends with benefits, online dating or my favorite: an open relationship. When meeting a man for the first time, putting up a front is natural. But if your insecurities continue to linger, it may be time to say goodbye. If you're in for the long haul, follow these simple steps. - Nicole Brown

1. Feel Good About Yourself


Sometimes it's you, not him. Inner confidence is paramount and if you don't have it, both your professional and personal life will suffer.
2. Admit You Have Insecurities


The first step to recovery is admitting you have a problem. This common mantra for addicts can be applied to relationships. Your man won't understand you if he doesn't know there's a problem.
3. Pay Attention to What He Did Before You Were A Couple


Once the union is official, a lot of women want their man to drop everything to be with them. Think back on what he did before the "us." If he watched football with his friends every Sunday, don't jump down his throat asking him why he isn't with you.
4. Talk About Your Past


Most trust issues stem from past relationships. His dealing with an old lover, could explain his current behavior.
5. Meet His Friends


It's important to have your own set of friends, but there's no harm in getting to know his as well—both male and female. You will feel more comfortable when he's not with you.

6. Set Ground Rules in the Beginning


Not everyone's definition of a monogamous relationship is the same. If both parties lay out their expectations in the beginning, there will be less issues later.

7. Have Outside Interests


It's easy to become insecure when your entire life revolves around your boyfriend. Having your own set of friends and hobbies leaves little time for you to freak out.

8. Don't Snoop Unless You Have Reason To


The only thing worse than catching a man doing you dirty is finding out he actually isn't and feeling bad after. There's no reason to go into his email or hack his phone if he's acting normal.

9. Don't Let the Relationship Progress Too Far Without Addressing Issues


Speak now or forever hold your peace! Your boyfriend won't take you seriously if you bring up an incident that happened months ago. And chances are he won't remember it anyway.

10. Work Out


Elle Woods says it best: "Exercise releases endorphins. Endorphins make you happy." Take your frustration out on the treadmill. It will also give you time to think before you speak. And you'll look good doing it too!

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Kelly Rowland Says Her Highly-Anticipated Project Is "Definitely Coming"

Six years ago, Kelly Rowland released her fourth studio album titled Talk a Good Game. The project boasted hit singles like "Kisses Down Low" and the transparent "Dirty Laundry." Now, the Houston native is preparing to release a project that'll surely satisfy fans' patient earbuds.

In an interview with Billboard, Rowland shared her hopes for putting out a new body of work and the pressure that she's encountered since she's been in the studio. "This is by far the longest, most pressure-filled process ever, only because I know what it's supposed to be and I have been so hard on myself. I know it," she said. "And it's the first time I've said it out loud. I've been extremely hard on myself. But it's definitely coming, and I'm more so excited about this project than anything else."

The news follows the recent release of Rowland's "Kelly" track, which was met with critical acclaim in November 2018. In addition to preparing the release of new music, the "Motivation" singer discussed fans' wish for a Destiny's Child reunion. The rumors have been fueled by social media photographs of Rowland with either Beyonce or Michelle or all three, especially during Beyonce's past Coachella performance. But Rowland assures readers that it's not what they think.

"It's so funny. I guess every time people see us together, they just see music but I see sisterhood, and that's what we are and that's what me, her, Michelle [Williams] and Solange and I are. People see us all together, they immediately think music. I'm like, no. Just family." As Rowland previously mentioned Solange, she hopes to one day work with her again.

"I'm a huge fan," she said. "I love her writing and how detailed and particular she is. I always wanted to figure out how the heck she has so many different layers of harmonies when she is constructing these vocals, and it's so complex but simple. It's genius. It's the genius in her genius mind that she has in there." One of the last times the pair collaborated was on Rowland's "Simply Deep" track off her debut solo album of the same name. Solange also penned a few songs off the same project. Fast forward to 2016, and Rowland's vocals were featured on Solange's iconic A Seat at the Table.

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Teyana Taylor To Pay Homage To Ballroom Culture In "WTP" Video

Teyana Taylor aims to keep her hot streak of innovative videos coming thanks to this recent announcement. Taking to Instagram on Wednesday (Jan. 9), the "Gonna Love Me" singer will show adoration to ballroom culture in the visual for "WTP."

Directed by Gregory "Beef" Jones, The Aunties Inc., and Taylor herself, the Harlemite takes viewers on her journey to the expression-filled space where she hopes to rack up 10s across the board from a group of judges. The premise of the video also seems to follow a mockumentary format airing on a fictional network named FEMTV. Alongside Taylor, other men and women get ready to display their talents and confidence on the ballroom floor.

"WTP" is featured on the mother-of-one's sophomore album, K.T.S.E., which was released in June 2018. While the rollout's controversy didn't entirely muddle the excitement behind the project's debut, Taylor said she was sold on the idea that her album would be treated as the biggest out of G.O.O.D. Music's string of releases last year.

"I didn't know ahead of time that there wouldn't be any singles or visuals. But I knew that it was going to be the five-album thing," she said during a HOT 97 interview. "[Kanye] wanted [my album] to be last, he wanted mine to be the biggest. That's the way they sauced it up. I was sold."

The video will debut on Jan. 19. Check out the teaser below.

 

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👀 1.19.19 👀 #WTP Directed by @teyanataylor & @ogbeefjones @theauntiesinc 🙏🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾 The wait is ALMOST over. 😏 @museumofsex

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Trina Braxton’s Ex-Husband, Gabe Solis, Dies After Battle With Cancer

Gabe Solis, the ex-husband of Trina Braxton, lost his battle with cancer, Thursday (Dec. 20),  TMZ reports. He was 43.

Solis passed away at his home in Texas, surrounded by friends and family, according to the outlet. No official details have been released about his passing.

Solis had reportedly been keeping his cancer battle private. His death came as a shock to his loved ones. On Friday (Dec. 21), Braxton seemingly mourned the loss of her ex-husband with a cryptic Instagram meme reading, “I need a hug..E bottle of wine.”

The former couple tied the knot in 2003, and appeared together on previous seasons of WEtv’s Braxton Family Values. Despite finalizing their divorce in 2015, Braxton and Solis confronted lingering issues from their marriage during an episode of Iyanla: Fix My Life, earlier in the year.

Braxton has since moved on to a new relationship, but remained friends with Solis.

 

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