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8 Ways to De-stress During The Holidays

If the holidays have you pulling your hair out, you’re not alone. Overcrowded stores, in-laws, office parties, credit card bills and an endless to-do list can take a huge toll on all of us during this time of the year.

Here are 8 easy ways to avoid December and January being months of despair. --April Dawn Ricchuito

 

1. Act your wage

Set a budget for gift-giving and stick to it. Starting off the year with credit card and bill collectors is not how what you want, so pay with cash and debit cards whenever possible. And remember, the holidays are not about how much money you spend, but rather the time you spend with your family and friends.

 

2. Get it on, girl!

A study in Scotland found that sex can lower blood pressure, stress, and anxiety, so take a break from wrapping gifts and grab your guy for a quickie.

 

3. Just say no!


Setting boundaries is important, not just on your shopping habits and spending limits but on your time as well. You don’t have to be the quintessential “yes man." Doing favors for your friends and family is fine, but feeling obligated and pressured to take on the tasks no one else wants to do is not cool. Really, it’s okay to say no! Give yourself that permission.

We promise you won’t be forever known as the Grinch who stole Christmas.

4. Get beauty sleep.

Do your absolute best to stick to your regular sleeping schedule. You don’t have to attend every holiday bash you’re invited to. Grab a 15- to 20-minute power nap during the day. Studies show a midday 20-minute nap is more beneficial than sleeping in.

 

5. Keep it clean. 


A clean house reflects a clear mind. If you don’t have time to get down and dirty, focus on your bedroom. It’ll be much easier to sleep if you’re not surrounded by piles of wrapping paper, gifts, decorations, party outfits, and other reminders of the 5,000 things you have to do in the next few days.

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6. Clear the mind.


Open your curtains and windows, go outside for a quick jog or swap your plastic wreath for a real one.  A University of Washington study revealed that looking out into the natural world reduces your heart rate, even in stressful situations. Buy a plant or try a centerpiece made of pinecones—and yes, they can be glittery.

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7. Get moving.

Sticking to a schedule isn’t just important for sleeping—it’s also important to make it to your regularly scheduled workouts. Start with scheduling a treadmill workout. Treat it like any other hot date and make sure you’re there on time and ready to go hard. If you can’t make it to a gym or want to add some extra stretching, try a few restorative yoga stretches.  The “legs on the wall” pose is a favorite. It’s actually nicknamed the “fountain of youth,” as this profound pose not only soothes but re-energizes as well.

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8. Stop, drop, and meditate.

You may have heard of meditation before, but it’s not something that’s limited to Deepak Chopra, Buddhist monks on mountaintops and women who practice yoga. Meditation is actually something you can do absolutely anywhere, and the mainstream medical community even recognizes the benefits on both physical and psychological health. It can be as simple as concentrating on taking a few deep breaths for a five minute period.

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Months of abuse led to the suicidal tweet posted by Chicago native CupcakKe, earlier this month. In a lengthy message posted to her Twitter account over the weekend, the 21-year-old rapper admitted that she’s been battling depression, brought on by an abusive ex-boyfriend.

In the post titled “my disturbing read,” CupcakKe accuses a man named, Christopher Terrell, of stealing her credit cards and terrorizing her throughout their relationship.

“This is someone I’ve been dating for the past [five] months,” she wrote in the now deleted post. “Out of the kindness of my heart I gave this man over [$30,000] during this period [of] time because I understand how it feels to be without (especially after me being homeless). He also has threatened to shoot my mom in the face [and] has threatened me on multiple occasions [and] said he can do it because he will get away with it!!!! I have screenshots, recorded calls, bank statements and all types of proof.

“Me being stupid in love I have [taken] this man back multiple times but every time I take him back the abuse gets [worse],” she added.

Further in the post, CupcakKe explains that her depression from feeling trapped in the relationship resulted in her contemplating suicide. “He [has] snatched off my wig in public, broke phones [and] continues to traumatize me every step of the way! This is what [led] to my ‘I’m committing suicide’ tweet…I have called the cops multiple times and they have yet to do anything about it,” she wrote, adding that Terrell is threatening her with revenge porn. She also admitted to posting his number on social media, and the numbers of women that he “plotted” with  to steal her money.

“Yes I am wrong for that,” she said. “But by me sending this message out it is not for harm to be sent his way, it’s for the police to make things way more serious!!!! Also this message is for every young girl or anyone in general that is struggling with abuse right now. I get u (once you see the first sign) leave!!!”

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@Chicago_Police y’all really need to do something about @CupcakKe_rapper and her situation, she’s mentioned reaching out to y’all multiple times about this and nothings happened! Please do something before it’s too late... pic.twitter.com/ZczGq1jmcK

— moonlight_baes (@m00nlight__baes) January 20, 2019

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Kelly Rowland Says Her Highly-Anticipated Project Is "Definitely Coming"

Six years ago, Kelly Rowland released her fourth studio album titled Talk a Good Game. The project boasted hit singles like "Kisses Down Low" and the transparent "Dirty Laundry." Now, the Houston native is preparing to release a project that'll surely satisfy fans' patient earbuds.

In an interview with Billboard, Rowland shared her hopes for putting out a new body of work and the pressure that she's encountered since she's been in the studio. "This is by far the longest, most pressure-filled process ever, only because I know what it's supposed to be and I have been so hard on myself. I know it," she said. "And it's the first time I've said it out loud. I've been extremely hard on myself. But it's definitely coming, and I'm more so excited about this project than anything else."

The news follows the recent release of Rowland's "Kelly" track, which was met with critical acclaim in November 2018. In addition to preparing the release of new music, the "Motivation" singer discussed fans' wish for a Destiny's Child reunion. The rumors have been fueled by social media photographs of Rowland with either Beyonce or Michelle or all three, especially during Beyonce's past Coachella performance. But Rowland assures readers that it's not what they think.

"It's so funny. I guess every time people see us together, they just see music but I see sisterhood, and that's what we are and that's what me, her, Michelle [Williams] and Solange and I are. People see us all together, they immediately think music. I'm like, no. Just family." As Rowland previously mentioned Solange, she hopes to one day work with her again.

"I'm a huge fan," she said. "I love her writing and how detailed and particular she is. I always wanted to figure out how the heck she has so many different layers of harmonies when she is constructing these vocals, and it's so complex but simple. It's genius. It's the genius in her genius mind that she has in there." One of the last times the pair collaborated was on Rowland's "Simply Deep" track off her debut solo album of the same name. Solange also penned a few songs off the same project. Fast forward to 2016, and Rowland's vocals were featured on Solange's iconic A Seat at the Table.

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Teyana Taylor To Pay Homage To Ballroom Culture In "WTP" Video

Teyana Taylor aims to keep her hot streak of innovative videos coming thanks to this recent announcement. Taking to Instagram on Wednesday (Jan. 9), the "Gonna Love Me" singer will show adoration to ballroom culture in the visual for "WTP."

Directed by Gregory "Beef" Jones, The Aunties Inc., and Taylor herself, the Harlemite takes viewers on her journey to the expression-filled space where she hopes to rack up 10s across the board from a group of judges. The premise of the video also seems to follow a mockumentary format airing on a fictional network named FEMTV. Alongside Taylor, other men and women get ready to display their talents and confidence on the ballroom floor.

"WTP" is featured on the mother-of-one's sophomore album, K.T.S.E., which was released in June 2018. While the rollout's controversy didn't entirely muddle the excitement behind the project's debut, Taylor said she was sold on the idea that her album would be treated as the biggest out of G.O.O.D. Music's string of releases last year.

"I didn't know ahead of time that there wouldn't be any singles or visuals. But I knew that it was going to be the five-album thing," she said during a HOT 97 interview. "[Kanye] wanted [my album] to be last, he wanted mine to be the biggest. That's the way they sauced it up. I was sold."

The video will debut on Jan. 19. Check out the teaser below.

 

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